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slavejali -> Dominant Training (7/3/2006 7:39:04 AM)
Just wondering... How many dominants out there have had some kind of training in their life that has helped them in their role as dominant to a submissive type person? That training could be in any area, examples, management, martial arts, time spent in one of the forces, having counselling, doing sweat lodges, communication courses, etc etc etc ..just to throw some examples out there but I'm sure there are heaps more. How has this training helped you within a D/s, M/s relationship and your role as dominant? Dominants could answer from their own experiences or submissives could answer about a dominant they know and how you think it has helped them.

Caretakr -> RE: Dominant Training (7/3/2006 7:45:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejali Just wondering... How many dominants out there have had some kind of training in their life that has helped them in their role as dominant to a submissive type person? That training could be in any area, examples, management, martial arts, time spent in one of the forces, having counselling, doing sweat lodges, communication courses, etc etc etc ..just to throw some examples out there but I'm sure there are heaps more. How has this training helped you within a D/s, M/s relationship and your role as dominant? Dominants could answer from their own experiences or submissives could answer about a dominant they know and how you think it has helped them. I have had to teach myself, through trial and error. Play skills are easy to learn. You can pick those up as a voyouer at any dungeon,or thumping furniture. So I don't take the all play and no work sorts very seriously. To learn to Dominate another well, and work it into your day to day lives, is an art. And you only learn that through time-and doing.

MsKatHouston -> RE: Dominant Training (7/3/2006 8:22:27 AM)
I have had a lot of training throughout my career and life that have helped in many aspects that overflowed from the specific purpose of the training. Both parenting and managment classes have helped with patience, direction, motivation, etc. I have also had specific training from more skilled dominants on particular aspects of play. There is also my own personal trial and error in dealing with life as a whole. As I have gotten older I have gained experience based on my life. My life itself could be considered a type of training. So, yes. Classes and experiences have helped me to become a better dominant. They were not all designed to help me with BDSM but because they helped me become a better person/leader, they helped be be a better dominant.

Driver1961 -> RE: Dominant Training (7/3/2006 8:45:09 AM)
He enters, dips His lid to SlaveJali, trusts you had an excellent aniversary weekend! People call me a 'natural Dominant' who lives a lifestyle of Dominence. I can only say that this came from 'self-sufficiency, indoctrination into rituals and extending one's physical limits at 17 in a quasi military occupation, and further extending my life experiences by going into business after 17 yrs in the quasi-military 'Job'. I have experienced, observed, and created human hardship. These experiences presumeably make me a 'Natural'. I was fortunate to be asked to accept 'Master' training after a very short time in Lifestyle and will commence this when able. The training will elaborate on what I have already learnt through my life, and BDSM practice of 18 months. The aspects I will be instructed on will enable me to possess a wide range of BDSM knowledge and call myself a 'Master'. I may not utilize all what I will be taught (2 1/2 to 3 years) because of personal preferences but will posses the knowledge to oversee 'safe conduct' of the myriads of BDSM play. Warms regards to all, Driver1961. Sir to His loving Wildchild.

MysticFireTopaz -> RE: Dominant Training (7/3/2006 9:36:16 AM)
When I was new to a supervisory position many years ago, I attended an excellent management training program that has helped Me not only in My career but in training submissives. I attended the training for a week at a time every two months for a year, and it was pretty intense. It was unnerving at first, because the instructor video-taped us while we role played scenaroios with other attendees and when we made presentations. We then had to see a playback and it was a real eye-opener. Nonetheless, I am very grateful to My manager at the time for recommending Me for the training. It was quite expensive and was a priviledge to be selected to attend. It helped Me to better understand how to get the desred results from people, whether they be employees or submissives. At another company, I attended a week-long Communications Skills program, which was also very good. The focus of that training was more on customer relations, but I learned a great deal about how to get My message across effectively, whether that be to a customer or a submissive. Lady Topaz

LadiesBladewing -> RE: Dominant Training (7/3/2006 9:45:08 AM)
I've had management training, managed my own businesses, led sweat-lodge, led worship services, organized major alternative-spirituality festivals (managing both Programs and Facilities and Food simultaneously for 1 year). I've also spent time in pastoral care, which includes crisis counseling and life-coaching. SR has managed laboratories at 3 major Universities as the Lab Manager, has presented before major scientific symposiums, is a scientific mentor, has run her own alternative health center, is a homeopathic student mentor, and a homeopathic practiioner -- which also includes crisis counseling and life-coaching. For me, my experience has given me a strong foundation in working with people, even through crises. It has also given me a good opportunity to work with individuals on self-growth related issues. ZWD quote: ORIGINAL: slavejali Just wondering... How many dominants out there have had some kind of training in their life that has helped them in their role as dominant to a submissive type person? That training could be in any area, examples, management, martial arts, time spent in one of the forces, having counselling, doing sweat lodges, communication courses, etc etc etc ..just to throw some examples out there but I'm sure there are heaps more. How has this training helped you within a D/s, M/s relationship and your role as dominant? Dominants could answer from their own experiences or submissives could answer about a dominant they know and how you think it has helped them.

BitaTruble -> RE: Dominant Training (7/3/2006 10:35:36 AM)
quote: How many dominants out there have had some kind of training in their life that has helped them in their role as dominant to a submissive type person? How has this training helped you within a D/s, M/s relationship and your role as dominant? Himself was the first born in a house of three sons, in the Bronx in New York. He was the instigator often pulling his brothers into his various schemes or setting them tasks to do. He enforced his will on them and to this day, they absolutely adore him. ::chuckles:: He's got that New York in-your-face mentality which can be viewed as aggressive by some or arrogant by others. He's not rude, but he is direct and there is a difference. He's the sort of man to whom you shouldn't ask a question unless you want a straight forward, honest answer even if it hurts your feelings. He also grew up in the 1950's with a stay-at-home Mom who did everything for the men in her life and never said boo to the Dad so it was something he was both used to and expected when it came time to choose a lifestyle partner. They also had a maid who came in a couple of times a week, so poly service is also something he's used to and enjoys. ::chuckles:: That combination of having things done for him is probably why he's a disaster in the kitchen and isn't very good at cleaning. He just never had to do it so didn't really learn how. He dabbled in the martial arts - judo for a few years then moved into karate for a few more until the same outside knee injury took which took him out of fencing took him out of competition so he took up shooting instead. Prior to his injury was heavily involved in sports, usually taking a team leader position within his various activities. He was the roving reporter for his college fencing team as well, so learned good communication and is generally well read and well rounded in his reading material in a guy sorta way. (He wouldn't know who Rosemary Rogers is, that's for sure!) He's resolved and ambitious which allowed him to progress well though college and grad school and eventually open his own practice which gained him business accumen and experience in dealing with patients, employees and vendors all. I think the combination of his inherent nature, geography, the personal nurture he received during his formative years and beyond, the combination of sports and leadership as well as a business owner all contribute to his current day mentality and demeanor as the Owner and Master of me. :) Celeste

slavejali -> RE: Dominant Training (7/3/2006 2:24:04 PM)
Thanks for the responses. Thought this would be a good topic, cuz a lot of the time when you see threads about dominant training, people are told to go find a group or liase with other dominants which is all good advice but things we pick up in just general life experience, careers, courses undertaken, can be really beneficial hey. I was also curious as to how many people and what types of people would actually respond to this topic. Knowing how to manage people is a skill, even though the desire to do it may arise naturally, there is stuff we can learn that will really help it to be effective. I recall the first time someone ever said "no" to me, being able to pull on skills I'd be trained in really helped to find a quick solution. Actually becoming self-disciplined, communicate effectively and motivate are things we can learn, there are so many aspects. Thanks again for the responses. Driver: Yes we had a wonderful anniversary weekend, thankyou [:)]

TxBadMan -> RE: Dominant Training (7/3/2006 2:51:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejali Just wondering... How many dominants out there have had some kind of training in their life that has helped them in their role as dominant to a submissive type person? That training could be in any area, examples, management, martial arts, time spent in one of the forces, having counselling, doing sweat lodges, communication courses, etc etc etc ..just to throw some examples out there but I'm sure there are heaps more. How has this training helped you within a D/s, M/s relationship and your role as dominant? Dominants could answer from their own experiences or submissives could answer about a dominant they know and how you think it has helped them. I have received no training from anyone with the exception of myself. I know what I want, how I want it, why I want it, and the best way to go about getting it.

zenofeller -> RE: Dominant Training (7/3/2006 4:58:38 PM)
you must be the borg then.

Subsekr -> RE: Dominant Training (7/4/2006 2:33:25 PM)
I'm not sure if 21 years in the Marines counts or not.

marked -> RE: Dominant Training (7/4/2006 2:35:49 PM)
mmmmmmmmmmmmmm marines yummy

slavejali -> RE: Dominant Training (7/4/2006 3:11:46 PM)
Oh yes the marines definately count [:)]

Calandra -> RE: Dominant Training (7/4/2006 10:36:22 PM)
I ran a successful family business for 12 years. As the manager, I did ordering, scheduling, measuring, and accounting. I was a crew member quite often, working side by side with those I employed, and was willing to do the dirtiest, hardest, sweatiest jobs right along with them (we were in construction). I earned loyalty from employees, and inspired their trust and they would follow my orders as closely as possible at every turn. When I discovered the lifestyle, I was originally submissive to a wonderful Master. He looked at me one day and said "Kathy, there's Dominance in you girl!" and I instinctively thought, "oh no there isn't!" because I couldn't imagine Domming Him. Silly me, he taught me with another submissive for a couple of years, and I learned to enjoy education and correction when I wasn't doing something exactly right - After all, when things ARE right, it feels so wonderful! I'm certain that being a mother, volunteering for charities, and various other things gave me many skills that I don't consciously recognize in Domming my family today.... Great question, by the way...

Brosco -> RE: Dominant Training (7/4/2006 11:32:33 PM)
{fast reply} As part of sales and management training, part centres on learning and understanding Body Language - its a very interesting area, we respond to BL instinctively without really knowing why - it taught me a lot. Brosco

hispossession -> RE: Dominant Training (7/4/2006 11:56:31 PM)
pouts playfully what about us slaves with dominant training? I spent many years being outwardly dominant in many different organizations... I rose through the ranks in our local Sea Cadet corps... attaining the rank of Chief Petty Officer Second Class and the position of Coxswain of the Corps (the highest position a cadet can achieve in the corps) and striking fear into the hearts of every last one of my cadets... who hated me at the time but learned alot from me and several of them have come to me as adults to thank me for teaching them to push themselves... during this time I took, and then taught, many leadership courses, among other things... giggles oddly enough, I was merely passable at ropework but excelled at ship to ship communications... I was also a damn fine drill instructor, leading my team to victory in a regional competition... as a contrast to that I was in a 'beauty pagent' where I attained the titles of Miss Congeniality and Miss Bake Off... and nearly won but turned it down before they crowned me... I trained as a Lay Reader and led the congregation in my church in the absence of a minister... I also was head server and started a mommy and me group since I wasn't happy with any of the other ones I had attended... I have proven myself an incredibly beyond capable, and valuable, employee, often implementing new ways to make tasks more efficient, which often translates to easier or simply achieving a better result... I was a straight A student (math, physics, chemistry, biology) and taken it upon myself to organize and lead study groups as well as tutor others... the last time that I was in school I was in a male dominated program and I was competition for the men, both in theory and hands on work... I unfortunately had to withdraw due to a family emergency but was in the top three in my class... of all men. I have proven to my Master that he can simply tell me what he wants done and not have to worry about it not gettin done.. I will either do it directly myself or delegate the tasks to those that are better suited to them... needless to say... it took a long time to accept my submissive/slave side... especially coming from a matriarchal family... but I did more than accept it, I embraced it, and I have never been happier (even when I'm weeping with the ache of missing him)... I know that the skills I have learned in my life are valued by my Master... they are experiences that I am glad that I had and even more pleased that I can use them to serve him.

ExistentialSteel -> RE: Dominant Training (7/5/2006 2:09:25 AM)
I was an Army officer for 20 years, plus work in a job now where I instruct, lead and control things in a stressful environment. I have attended management courses also, plus also have a Maters Degree in administration. Okay, with all this, I have to say, there were those in various leadership courses I have been in who were not Dom material. I don’t care how much you teach some people techniques of leadership and management, they are not inherently capable of controlling others in any form.

slavejali -> RE: Dominant Training (7/5/2006 6:37:21 AM)
Thats true ExistentialSteel, the inherent qualities have to be there to start with.

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