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Hi from london - 10/23/2013 9:15:12 AM

Jay6392

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Hi all,

While i am new to this i.e. actively making steps to get involved I have always been interested at the thought and the kink of it.
I always thought I was a sub and it is on that premise that I joined this, and a few other sites a few months ago.
Since then I have met a girl (not online) who enjoys being sub, and spanked etc and it has turned me on more than i could every imagine.
So with out pinning myself down, except to say that I love the kink of it all and that im interested meet new friends and anyone who'd like to offer some guidance to a keen and enthusiastic newcomer,
Nice to meet you all,
Jay

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RE: Hi from london - 10/23/2013 11:11:26 AM

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Hello and welcome to the forums nice to have you join us.

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RE: Hi from london - 10/24/2013 12:52:14 AM

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Thanks Rascallymisty, nice to be here

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RE: Hi from london - 10/24/2013 9:10:05 AM

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Jay, since you're new to BDSM but are questioning whether you are a sub, you should reclassify yourself on your profile to a switch. You've already indicated you are Actively Seeking both D & s-type females. This way you won't mislead a potential play partner who may only scan your stats and automatically delete your message because she doesn't want a male sub. Males greatly outnumber females on this site, and male subs are the largest chunk of that. You are far more likely to get targeted by Pay Princesses/FinDommes, not that they don't go after male switches as well.

Most, but not all, Dommes have a hard enough time finding male subs who are fully sub. It doesn't sound as if you're ready for a D/s relationship yet until you've explored more Topping/bottoming experiences. Any label can be misleading, but it is a start, if nothing else. Calling yourself a switch will give you more flexibility in terms of the expectations others may have with the male sub stereotype, buy you some time to sort it out for yourself. A lot can depend on who you partner with, and hopefully things will work out for you and your current sub partner.

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RE: Hi from london - 10/26/2013 8:58:08 AM

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Hi Jay,

Welcome to CM.

Why not join us on the forums for some fun chat & good advice. I hope you find what you're looking for. Have fun.

All the best, Gary.

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RE: Hi from london - 11/2/2013 5:54:34 AM

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Thanks for the advise TigressLilly,

I have taken it on board, and thanks for taking the time to read my intro and comment.

Looking forward to where this can take,

All the best,

J

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RE: Hi from london - 11/2/2013 7:05:14 AM

Jay6392

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Hi Gary,

Thanks for the welcome, looking forward to getting involved, learning and growing,

All the best,

J

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