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captainkremmen -> Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 1:46:46 AM)
So I may be wrong here, but I always thought that the word monogamous meant that you were faithful to one person? If your faithful to one person why do you need to still be interested in other men? Case in point I've been chatting to [mod edit to remove user name] for over a month now, she wants to know more about me and to chat, by the way she wrote to me. Then she says that she's in a monogamous relationship and it's ok to start chatting to other Dom's....... am I missing the plot here or am I misunderstanding the word monogamous ? Is one Dom note nought or do the subs in here have to have a harem of Dom's?

orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 1:53:28 AM)
She's only chatting though. Unless you've been domming her online, or talking about masturbation, etc, then she's still monogamous. Of course, it depends what her definition of monogamy is, some people count online, some don't. Perhaps she is one of the ones who doesn't.

captainkremmen -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 2:35:27 AM)
When someone writes to you and starts asking you what you like and wanting to chat seems to point out that hey want some sort of relationship? The standard definition of it monogamous is 1. The practice or condition of having a single partner during a period of time. If she's seeing another Dom why do you need to start chatting to others if you are monogamous? If I was her Dom I' be well cheesed off that she was chatting to other Dom!s and asking them what they liked and wanting to chat?

Bokhara -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 2:55:50 AM)
Think i need to state my point here....i was chatting to captainKremmanm a while ago..in the meantime, i met someone...i logged on to change my status last night and replied to the messages that he had sent me....he had asked me to meet for coffee in one of them..to which i replied that i had recently met someone.... somebody please tell me how that constitutes "cake and eat it"?????

lilcracker -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 3:58:10 AM)
I chat with other Dom's but only those I personally know: example, my former and I are still friends and I consider him family. He has met my current partner...and it's no big deal. I am NOT sexual with him and I am faithful to my current partner. I would consider my partner pretty insecure about himself and our relationship if I were not able to talk to other people and retain my friendships. As to the OP, unless I had met you in person and established a relationship with you...I'd talk to who ever I wanted, date who ever I wanted and if I had been talking to you a month and established a relationship with someone else, I would not consider that wrong in any way.

angelikaJ -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 4:14:24 AM)
There is a big difference between exchanging a few emails with someone or IMing someone and being in an established relationship. If you need an analogy, think on dating.... many people have a period of dating when they see different people, before an agreement is made to "go steady" with one person. Monogamy is about making a commitment to one person. Unless someone made that commitment, and then dated other people, there was no monogamy violation. You were exchanging emails... you weren't in a relationship.

Bedmonster -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 4:18:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12 She's only chatting though. Unless you've been domming her online, or talking about masturbation, etc, then she's still monogamous. Of course, it depends what her definition of monogamy is, some people count online, some don't. Perhaps she is one of the ones who doesn't. That does not mean that also some people just cheat. It should not redefine your understanding of the concept OP, but of the person itself. Though your specific case is nowhere near that and if you become that riled up and insecure about things like that, then you probably will get cheated on eventually.

Apocalypso -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 4:39:28 AM)
No, talking to another talking does not consist cheating. Anyway, this puts a completely different spin on it: quote: ORIGINAL: Bokhara Think i need to state my point here....i was chatting to captainKremmanm a while ago..in the meantime, i met someone...i logged on to change my status last night and replied to the messages that he had sent me....he had asked me to meet for coffee in one of them..to which i replied that i had recently met someone.... somebody please tell me how that constitutes "cake and eat it"????? She was single when she met you. Since then she has met someone she likes more than you. (I don't know why. Maybe he's less whiny). So, she is no longer available for a relationship. Put on your big boy pants and deal with it.

myotherself -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 4:40:10 AM)
Unless you have both agreed to be in a committed, monogamous relationship with each other then you are not in a relationship. You are just someone she chats to online. In this case, monogamy doesn't count.

orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 4:42:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: captainkremmen When someone writes to you and starts asking you what you like and wanting to chat seems to point out that hey want some sort of relationship? The standard definition of it monogamous is 1. The practice or condition of having a single partner during a period of time. If she's seeing another Dom why do you need to start chatting to others if you are monogamous? If I was her Dom I' be well cheesed off that she was chatting to other Dom!s and asking them what they liked and wanting to chat? Wait, so you're naming and (attempting to) shame her because she's met someone else? That is lame. Good on her, she clearly made a better choice!

VideoAdminChi -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 5:36:01 AM)
Fast Response, This thread is now in Off Topic.

lizi -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 5:37:25 AM)
I think she's probably glad she chose the right person over the wrong one. I don't know how two new forum users found the boards on the same day to carry out this bit of drama, but OP you seem like a butthurt adolescent instead of a supposedly mature 54 year old. Get over it. In fact, she told you what was going on instead of letting you hang while she disappeared. This thread is a perfect example of why women often chose to not reply to email from men instead of writing to say "no thanks." Because the men retaliate abusively. So many men bemoan the fact that they send out email and don't get answers from women to say they are not interested, well this thread is an example of what happens when you do say no.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 8:29:11 AM)
Wait. Where's the cake? [&o][>:][:o] disappointed Chrissy

myotherself -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 9:01:25 AM)
On the subject of cake...does anyone have a recipe for one of those fat-free cakes where you soak the dried fruit in something like tea before you make the cake? (and desperately trying to get back on topic...) OP - you might want to bake a cake rather than spend your time getting upset over someone you've never met. I think I got away with it.. edited for formatting

littlewonder -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 9:09:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: captainkremmen So I may be wrong here, but I always thought that the word monogamous meant that you were faithful to one person? If your faithful to one person why do you need to still be interested in other men? Case in point I've been chatting to [mod edit to remove user name] for over a month now, she wants to know more about me and to chat, by the way she wrote to me. Then she says that she's in a monogamous relationship and it's ok to start chatting to other Dom's....... am I missing the plot here or am I misunderstanding the word monogamous ? Is one Dom note nought or do the subs in here have to have a harem of Dom's? I chat with other Doms and men all the time. We're monogamous. Talking is not cheating unless I'm being emotionally intimate with that person. But just talking to someone is cheating? Wow. I guess I cheat all the time then. [&o] Sowwy Master. [:(] ETA: Good on the woman talked about to come here and explain her side. I bet she's glad she didn't pick you.

DesFIP -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 9:20:07 AM)
She is monogamous now. Back when you first wrote her, she hadn't met the other guy. And btw opie, from now on every woman you write to will know immediately how unsuitable you are for a relationship, simply by reading this thread. You've proved to everyone that Bokhara made the right choice by meeting the other guy and not you.

OsideGirl -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 9:22:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bokhara Think i need to state my point here....i was chatting to captainKremmanm a while ago..in the meantime, i met someone...i logged on to change my status last night and replied to the messages that he had sent me....he had asked me to meet for coffee in one of them..to which i replied that i had recently met someone.... somebody please tell me how that constitutes "cake and eat it"????? [sm=owned.gif] That certainly changed this thread. Butt hurt male "Dominants" are always so entertaining.....

Apocalypso -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 9:24:51 AM)
I have a feeling this thread is not going quite how the OP had hoped.

DaddySatyr -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 9:30:37 AM)
First of all ... "mono" means "one" and "gam" is a shortened form of "gamos" which is Greek for "marriage". Because this horridly put together word was introduced when divorce was a rare thing and the impression of society was that people "waited until they got married" to have sex, it has somehow come to mean sex with only one person (at a time). The original word and spirit of the word was that you remained faithful until you were married and only married one person. My point is; much like the practice itself, the word is antiquated and mis-leading.

kalikshama -> RE: Cake and eat it brigade (10/20/2013 10:06:10 AM)
quote: On the subject of cake...does anyone have a recipe for one of those fat-free cakes where you soak the dried fruit in something like tea before you make the cake? While not fat-free due to the egg and almond meal, this has no added fat: Butterless, Tea Soaked Fruit Cake

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