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Master Drax - 9/19/2013 9:54:36 AM

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Hello,

I'm married with a child and there are some dominating aspects to my personality that need some attention and that is why I'm here.

I would tell my wife about this sideline lifestyle choice of mine but she's a Christian and wouldn't understand.

I'm into long distance relationships and sex is out of the question. I only have sex with my wife. Yes even Christians have good sex occasionally.

I've been reading up on the BDSM culture for the last 2 years and decided this week to start a profile and see where it leads.

I live moment to moment because that's the secret to how I maintain control of my life.

I take responsibility in all things and I like to avoid spending too much time around stupid people.

I have patience but I'm not a push over by any stretch.

I look forward to getting to know some of you.

If any of you have any experience as a master handling long distance relationships then please say hello I'd love to hear about your experiences.

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RE: Master Drax - 9/19/2013 11:45:09 AM

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Greetings and Welcome to the forums.

In actuallity the "Christian" household dynamic lends itself quite well to the BDSM dynamic as the male is the head of the family and all that. I am certain that there are others here that share your belief system and can elaborate more on those points.

There are people on these boards who started in vanilla relationships and ended up integrating the BDSM element over time. Perhaps patience is advised. Ask a lot of questions because people here are very, very helpful.

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RE: Master Drax - 9/19/2013 2:08:03 PM

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Hello and welcome to the forums.

I had a long distance relationship and it was great well it lasted.....with that said I would never wish it again. 90% of our time was here on line, for us it was not enough. Since we both knew I needed so much more, we ended up parting as friends.....and me moving on. You being married will more than likely play a huge part in who you find.....more than likely it will be with someone else who is married and their spouse not knowing that they are carrying on an internet relationship with another also.

I wish you luck in finding that in which you seek....and my own opinion is you should let your wife know that in which you seek. Secrets have away of coming out and doing so much more damage than the truth usually does.

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RE: Master Drax - 9/21/2013 11:44:22 AM

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I know what you mean about keeping secrets. They are a dangerous game.

I don't mean to keep secrets from my wife but I'm not sure of how to approach it.

I'm not a Christian myself but I do share the view that as head of the family I set the level of acceptable behaviour from my child and will always try to keep my wife interested. In fact she said today that I'm the only she has been with that has.

Life can be painful when you can't find a way to say to someone you love deeply everything there is to know about you.

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RE: Master Drax - 9/21/2013 12:08:35 PM

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Life can be painful when you can't find a way to say to someone you love deeply everything there is to know about you.

I don't know, maybe the best way to approach it is to bring it up to her and talk about it. You never know, she may be wanting to tell you the very same thing. Keeping secrets is never a good idea, best to get it out in the open and deal with it rather than go sneaking around and have her find out the truth.

Perhaps a way that you could introduce her to this slowly is the next time you have sex with her... maybe pull her hair or smack her ass a few times. See how she reacts to that. If she doesn't like it I am pretty sure she will indicate that she doesn't, but if she does, then you have an avenue for discussion.

Listen man, if you love her and she loves you, then level with her. If she doesn't understand what BDSM is all about, then go to the General BDSM forums and look at the sticky post for BDSM reading material. Great books there and more than a few can help both of you out.

Good luck.

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RE: Master Drax - 9/23/2013 7:47:39 AM

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RE: Master Drax - 9/23/2013 8:27:14 AM

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That seems sound.

Your hardly going to ruin a relationship if you smack her ass, or pull her nipple and she's doesn't like it. Keep it low level, sneak it in there when shes real turned on and see what happens?

There seems to be enough people that convert vanilla relationships around. I know in the past, Ive slipped a bit of stuff in there at least, both via discussion, or just trying it on.

Love also often means your willing to try something even if its a little different, for you partner, as a generosity - and maybe end up liking it yourself.

I mean you don't want to start with the whole "i love this stuff, we have to do it", that's intimidating. Hell, I think a lot people that like kink start off by being curious and edging there way around it. But yeah, surely couldn't hurt to sneak something in, and if that works, plant a seed later, talk around it a little.

Or if you don't want to do that, talk about some simple stuff when your both in a sexy mood. Blindfold, cuffs, something real simple like that.

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