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RE: Facebook and our "friends" - 9/16/2013 11:32:41 AM

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I just closed my account. I only had a few friends and family on there anyways and 98% of them never got on there. I mostly used it for the chat feature as that was easier for my best friend and me to use while at work instead of texting, but he either closed his account or blocked me so had no more use for it.

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RE: Facebook and our "friends" - 9/16/2013 5:43:01 PM

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I'm on fb quite a lot. I'm not linked with people who complain a lot, in fact that's pretty much the case in my every day life.

I also post about good and happy things going on. Some unhappy people unfriended me because of it and I'm totally ok with that. I also unfriended a long time friend for making a shitty comment about my happiness. It's my page where I go to express myself and I tend to keep those expressions very positive. To suggest that someone is posting happy stuff with the intention of making others feel bad is just so foreign to me. Others own their own feelings. They will react how they react. The people in my life support my joy as I support theirs, so it's all good.

For me, there is a difference between posting positive occurrences and positive daily affirmations.

For example, the person on my feed that annoys me posts the following everyday, nothing more. These are things that have been said enough times and is already a given, seems a little odd to go into a news feed when it's not really news:
"I love my husband so much. He is the greatest man ever."
"I'm so proud of my kids. I am truly blessed."
"My life is so great. I'm truly blessed."

But, there are others on my feed that post only positive messages that I enjoy because they are occurrences and I am happy for them:
"I just finished my first 5k!"
"My husband just sent me these flowers just because he's awesome"
"(child's name) just got all A's. I'm so proud of him!"
"I had the best day at work today!"

See I don't really have a problem with the first list. I don't see it as a news feed, I see it as a place where people can express themselves. If their actual lives are really filled with drama, I chuckle and wish them well in my mind. It honestly doesn't bother me, but I can see where it could cause an eye roll or two.

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I would love to remove several friends from my account. Unfortunately, they're family members. It's been done before, not by me, and caused huge family drama. Drama I'd rather not invite.

Yeah that makes sense. You can always put them on hide, though, so you don't see their updates.

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As for the person posting a shitty comment about your happiness, that's awful and I would have deleted them as well.
Everyone should use their page for how they want, I just don't expect everyone to enjoy what others may. You just can't please everyone.

It was REALLY snarky. Horribly insulting, if I had let it affect me like that. Instead, I was really surprised. We had been friends since high school - 30 years! It let me see just how unhappy she is, and I felt kinda bad for her. I replied with a post that simply wished her well, and I removed her. I think she was going through a very bad time, and just lashing out. Still, it crossed a boundary for me so that was that.

Like you, I have no expectations on what people may or may not enjoy. I post for my own enjoyment. I also network for dog/cat rescue from time to time. I'm not offended if people hide me or remove me because of it. I figure it's just not their thing.

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RE: Facebook and our "friends" - 9/16/2013 6:41:10 PM

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For example, the person on my feed that annoys me posts the following everyday, nothing more. These are things that have been said enough times and is already a given, seems a little odd to go into a news feed when it's not really news:
"I love my husband so much. He is the greatest man ever."
"I'm so proud of my kids. I am truly blessed."
"My life is so great. I'm truly blessed."

heh...I'm one of those annoying people. I have a habit of posting the little memes about loving my daughter or my partner or telling how much I love him or that I'm having a great day or that I just saw the sun rise and it was beautiful or "hey, the sun is shining! What more can I ask for?" or "I'm so blessed to have the life I have. At least I wasn't one of the people shot today near where I work".

I would rather see those types of posts than "yay for me! I just did a 5K!". I like when people are positive about the little things in their lives that everyone else takes for granted. I like picturing the smile on their face and knowing they are having a wonderful day and wonderful life.

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RE: Facebook and our "friends" - 9/16/2013 9:09:50 PM

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I would rather see those types of posts than "yay for me! I just did a 5K!".

I have a friend who lost around 100 pounds. She started getting into running. Well, she slowly started getting into running, because she was so out of shape she couldn't run much.

So when she posted recently how she just finished a half-marathon, we were all thrilled for her. I know she cried when she reached the finish line. I know she had never imagined herself being THAT person.

I love those posts. I know exactly where those people are coming from. I remember the days I was over 250 pounds and in a wheel chair from an awful injury....when I did my first 5K, I was ecstatic. When I did a 3 hour Zumba-thon, even more-so. So yeah, I post that stuff too

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RE: Facebook and our "friends" - 9/17/2013 12:07:25 AM

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p.s. the one demographic I know who are on FB pretty much constantly are under the age of 22 (i.e. middle school, high school and college students). A different demographic with different needs. I get that, actually.

If my daughter is constantly on FB when she gets to middle school, I'm going to have some choice words with her mother.

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RE: Facebook and our "friends" - 9/17/2013 7:40:18 AM

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p.s. the one demographic I know who are on FB pretty much constantly are under the age of 22 (i.e. middle school, high school and college students). A different demographic with different needs. I get that, actually.

If my daughter is constantly on FB when she gets to middle school, I'm going to have some choice words with her mother.

What planet are you on? You really think you are going to be able to curb the inundation of social media. If it's not FB, it will be something else. As someone who has a lot of nieces and nephews and friends with kids, all I can say is.....good luck with that.....

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RE: Facebook and our "friends" - 9/17/2013 2:36:08 PM

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I spend quite a lot of time on Facebook, and have found it quite valuable both in a personal sense and a professional one. I've re-connected with family and friends I'd lost touch with through the years, made new business connections, and made many new friends. Now, if I could just find someone who loves to cuddle there :-)

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RE: Facebook and our "friends" - 9/18/2013 3:45:25 AM

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I agree with all the drawbacks that have been pointed out. however, I find that FB is easier to message groups of friends etc for upcoming gigs than e mail. So it does have it's uses.

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RE: Facebook and our "friends" - 9/18/2013 3:35:34 PM

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The "Events" function is also very helpful.

I'm also a part of a volunteer dog rescue group and we use it for networking.

I'm also part of a private group and we use it for discussion/collaborations.

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RE: Facebook and our "friends" - 9/19/2013 8:33:13 AM

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It's threads like this one that make Me reaffirm My decision not to have it. My daughter keeps bugging Me to get it and I keep telling her she can continue to send the pics of the grandchildren to My yahoo account. When My son was in Germany, I talked to him using WOW and can even hear his voice through ventrillo. My father doesn't have a page, so that's a mute point.

I'll probably hold out until the grandchildren get to the age where they are using it. Even then, that's just a maybe.

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