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AaNiMaLl -> RE: New Daddy Dom here (8/28/2013 4:02:45 PM)
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Very interesting question.
My girlfriend and I play around with this quite a bit but it isn't anything incredibly deep. It isn't even remotely dangerous for us because she doesn't have any issues. There might be a different dynamic in your relationship that makes it more difficult. Also, maybe you are thinking of a more hard core level scenario.
Personally, I have fantasies of rape. Before I found bdsm, it is possible that I could have ended up as a rapist but I have enough self control. Luckily, one lady introduced me to bdsm. I had a look at what I was really seeking and learnt to love, rather than hate myself. I embraced my desire for power and control, rather than suppressing it. Now love is my fetish as opposed to hate. I meet my needs that way.
I was in jail recently and can help, if you are interested in how rapists think. I made good friends with a number of rapists. Not because I agreed with their crime but because I could empathise with them; I hated their crime but loved them.
About 50% were sorry for what they had done and the other 50% were proud. That is not to say that the 50% that were sorry for what they had done, will not reoffend. On the whole, I am glad that they are kept away.
The main thing about rapists is that they lack an ability to relate to women and communicate what they want. This coupled with selfishness. I think if one can address these issues before conducting the fantasy and make sure that you are on good terms with your demons then it should be ok.
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