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CreativeDominant -> RE: Jealousy (it's not what you think) (6/29/2006 4:25:12 PM)
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ORIGINAL: litleone8620
I didn't tell my friend that the lifestyle wasn't for her just so i can go back to feeling special about it.
I told her because i didn't want to see her get hurt in the process of finding what she wants.
I know there are all kinds of wannabe 'Masters' and 'dominants' out there just waiting to take a bite out of a fresh piece of meat (my friend).
I talked to her again after i signed off, and i told her all this. We came to an understanding.
I told her i really had her best interests at heart, and at the time, i felt like i was doing/saying the right thing. So she told me it (obviously) wasn't my choice to make. That everyone makes mistakes; and if this choice she's making is a mistake, it's hers to make alone.
I told her i'd be around if she ever needed to talk about anything, or anybody.
She never denied not doing this to prove that she can, and i'm afraid she's going to get into a lot of trouble because of it.
On edit: I've made the decision that it's her life, and her mistakes to make. But that doesn't stop me from being afraid for her.
And that's understandable...any time a friend of ours makes a choice to engage in something that we know to have its dangers, whether it be skydiving or being at the receiving end of a leather whip, we are afraid for them. But as adults, we realize that they have a right to make their own decisions.
As for her making her decision based on the fact that you engage in D/s/BDSM and so she thinks/feels she might be good at it too; certainly if that is the only reasoning behind it, she will either most likely soon be out of it OR she may have a whole new world opened up to her.
Again, that is for her to find out and not your decision/discovery to make for her.
Something brought you to this...whether it was a friend or self-exploration or whatever. We all come to it different ways. While what you say about her always having to one-up you and others may indeed play a factor, your jealousy over her choices is what threatens you...not her choices themselves. Especially not at this stage of your life. I would also suggest that, if your circle of friends buys into this type of behavior and sits on the sideline waiting for sparks to erupt between you two (which I suspect from your post may have happened in the past), then you might want to consider just how they are as friends.
MOO, YMMV
~~Human nature...tis a puzzlement sometimes~~
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