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need some luck - 8/6/2013 7:23:24 AM

MISSmeowski

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havent had that much luck on here yet, any way i can change that to have a positive experience?!

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RE: need some luck - 8/6/2013 8:11:56 AM

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All depends on what you consider a positive experience. You may wish to expound a bit more on your expectations if you want to get answers. After looking at your profile, I can tell you that you have a good deal of work ahead of you. While there's nothing inherently wrong with wanting to be a fin-domme, you've gotten in at the end of a long line of others.

Granted, there's more to it than in some brand-new ones, but it comes off as someone who's only in it for the rewards someone else has gotten. Go and search the archives for all the other fin-domme threads and learn what the general consensus is about how to go about it the proper way. It's not hard, there's only about 1300 of them dealing with it. Upper-right of your browser, the word 'Search'. Here's the current leader of the pack, and this one is another good one, in my opinion.

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RE: need some luck - 8/6/2013 8:19:41 AM

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You've been here two days. Patience, grasshopper.

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RE: need some luck - 8/6/2013 10:06:21 AM

Gauge

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Welcome to the forums.

My first impression is that you should rethink the financial domination part of your profile. Frankly it is a turn off. You say little about who you are, what you are looking for except to dig into people's wallets. If I were a submissive male I would just ignore your profile and move on to the next one. Also, you are asking your submissive to help you get on your feet, while I am not judging that is a pretty big red flag for people who are going to trust you to dominate them. If you are not stable in your own life you should get there so you can provide that environment for your submissive. Stability comes in all forms, a steady income, emotionally balanced and secure in who you are and a clear picture of what you want. You need to communicate who you are and what you want.

There are plenty of sheep out there that you can fleece, but that is all you will do and you will never find a relationship that way if that is, in fact, what you want from posting here other than some free advertising to get traffic to your profile.

This is my not so humble opinion.

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RE: need some luck - 8/6/2013 11:29:26 AM

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Well, if I had to guess....

You're asking for money/gifts. Now there ARE people who are into that, but there are also a lot of people who really hate it or are just not interested. There are also a lot of other women looking for the same thing. You're selling bread rolls outside a bakery. If you really want to go down that route, you will need to WORK to stand out and offer something extra special. Since you don't have much experience, you don't really have a special service to sell. And to make it worse, your heart doesn't seem to be in it. If I'm turned out by having my wallet drained by an unobtainable princess, I want to feel like you really, really mean it. A half-assed 'hey my friend says I can make some money here lol' aint gonna cut it. There's lots of other women who will take my money and also give me a little excitement.

You seem to be implying that you're a pro-domme (with your suggestions that you'll fulfill their fantasies for money) but again, no indication that you know what you are talking about. How much hands on experience do you have with rope? Can you safely handle a whip without taking out an eyeball or a lightbulb? Do you know the legal ins and outs of what you are selling? If I'm paying for a haircut, I want a stylist that finished training and built up a portfolio. If I'm paying for a kink session, I want to be sure that a) you won't damage me and b) you can actually pull off my fantasy. There are lots of good pros out there.

The most offputting part was about wanting to relocate to someone who can pay your expenses until you get on your feet. Relocation scams are very common, and you sound a bit like someone who can't handle her own life. It's worrying when someone is happy to move away - anywhere! - and who isn't able to support themselves. It doesn't speak of someone in control and successful - and if you're not in control of yourself, I can't have you controlling my life.

But mostly, and I can't stress this enough, you've been on the site for TWO DAYS.

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RE: need some luck - 8/6/2013 12:43:39 PM

MissKittyDeVine

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If, as you say on your profile, your friend has had such awesome luck with financial domination, then why aren't you asking her?

That was a rhetorical question, because like thousands of other girls you have read something about findom and think that all you had to do was set up a profile and the money would come rolling in from day one.

Don't sit refreshing your inbox sweetheart, cos it'll be a long wait.

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