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ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub

Recently there was a thread on here about location which prompted me to wonder again about an issue that has been raised on here a couple of times, to which i would really like an answer.

If one is in a location where there are not a lot of other lifestyle people around, especially as most of us are looking for particular things, then to be able to find someone (in this day and age) most of us will look on sites like CM or other internet locations which can mean that the people we are talking with can be long distance from us.

Many times it has been said, and i wholeheartedly agree, that submission (if one is looking for something beyond an online relationship) prior to a face to face meeting is not wise and can end up with prematurely formed emotional attachments, as face to face meetings can change everything.

All that being said, how does one balance those factors, to find someone who is compatible, potentially with someone who is a long distance away while holding off on making attachments that may not hold up once the two people are face-to-face when initial face-to face meetings might not be possible for a long time (due to distance).  

i know that there are people who have made that dynamic work successfully, and i am wondering how you did it, and whether or not you think you have done so successfully. i know there are lots of horror stories of this going wrong and while those are important to the people involved, i am really looking for answers from people who have been able to do this balancing act.

Thank you.