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njlauren -> RE: The real risks (6/22/2013 11:16:43 AM)
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ORIGINAL: hrxxx
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
The other I have with RACK vs SSC is they both are aimed at largely non existant problems.
How many threads have we had here in the last year about first person injuries?
VS.
How many threads about emotional damage?
All this hand wringing over injuries that rarely happen verses almost no national attention on the most destructive aspect of bdsm, the emotional "accidents" that tear apart people's self esteem and ability to trust.
You know what, you can also use BDSM as therapy, I have more than once helped the girls to forget and sexual abuse in their childhood.
If a girl has been sexual abused as a child, she will typically have many thoughts and feelings about it, and there are thoughts and emotions she can not control, she wants to get rid of the thoughts and emotions but she can not, some go to psychologist for years and talk about it and learn to live with it, but they'll never get rid of it.
What happens if you use BDSM as therapy whether they are experienced or inexperienced with BDSM in basic the same
Previously, I spent much my mobile to chat or mobile dating, because I always have my phone nearby, and it is easy and quick to send a txt.
What happens after this first contact, in that I start to spin my sadistic web I'm always honest when I spin my sadistic web of who I am and what I am into, so she can see me several miles away
My web is filled is stuffed with imagination hopes dreams fantasies, some are from real life experience and some are not, some are fit to be lived in real life and some are not.
And what happens to the girl she is becoming more and more curious and she wants more and more of my web, and as long I spin on my web around her, she have no thoughts or emotions about sexual abuse, because I have complete control over what she think and feel.
In practical work my sadistic web with I send a txt in the morning with my sadism, so I'm sure the thoughts she has and during the day I send more txt, and she sends back, it usually happens 5-7 times a day.
In the evening me and her have better time to play ping pong with txt, and for some reason girls like to do this part alone in bed LOL and after a few months of spining every day. she is caught in the web and can not and will not get out, and she is ready to come and it does not matter where in the world she comes from she is ready!
And when she comes and i pick her up from airport, boat, or train, she is shy and nervous some talk a lot but do not make much sens and some is very quiet and nervous, but one thing ther is common for them all, is when they strip naked and get iron or leather cuff and collar on is ther only one thought in their head, and that thought makes their pussy so wet that it drips on the floor
After a play weekend and they have come home their thoughts on BDSM play, and on what they have experienced and learned, and they will get small flash from the play for a long time after, and these flash replaces the flash they had before the sexual abuse, the difference between the flash are good and bad memories and if they continue to seek good BDSM experiences they will crowd out the bad flash and it happens because BDSM is so strong an experience as it is. And the same happen to girls who have not experience sexual abouse same same thing
It is based on my my real life BDSM experience and not a fucking book
and I mentioned that I have never used a safe word in these weekend-long BDSM sessions.
I do not say this work for every boddy but for some.
There is a common perception out there that people into BD/SM play are people who have been damaged and that doing this helps them 'adjust' to having been abused and similar stuff, and while there are grains of truth to that, there are people who have experienced trauma and use this to work things out so to speak, it isn't a general rule.
While it may seem like you in play helped cure someone, I doubt very much you did, major trauma takes a lot of work and time to get through. My sweetie was abused as a child, and it doesn't just go away because you have done scenes with them, even with a trained professional using advanced techniques it takes a lot of training and time to be able to help people (note I don't use the term 'cure', therapy is a bit different than taking penicillin for an infection). I remember talking to our therapist when my sweetie was working through her stuff, and asking if it would be beneficial to do role play with her, and she was like "you don't know what could happen, what you would be facing", and over time I realized how truthful that was, when the shit really started coming out in therapy for her.
You might very well mean well, but making statements like this you are going to come off pretty badly. Even saying "it worked for me" is kind of arrogant, because quite frankly, you don't know, can't know, if you 'cured' these women, unless you have training to know what to look for and see the actual results. The other warning is you do this the wrong way, and you can end up screwing up someone even worse, or end up with someone going into a psychotic episode or worse. I am not a therapist or trained, but I know enough that claiming you can cure people through BD/SM play, or even have that as a goal, is a major red flag.
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