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Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/28/2013 9:26:37 PM   
DominantN


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Status: offline 		A someone one. It seems like there are so many horny fucks hanging around this site, harassing chicks or sending other stupid shit that your mail gets pushed in with the retards.
I hear people finding matches on this site, but is that even possible. I'm starting to have some serious doubts.

Fuck sociaty for making our kind outcasts and finding a proper slave that much harder.

Vanilla people think they have a hard time find the "the one" HA!
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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/28/2013 10:02:10 PM   
stef


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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/28/2013 10:42:17 PM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		Your wonderful post, with its thoughtful use of words like 'chicks' and 'retards' makes me feel that perhaps you get what you attract.

As you spend time on this (and other) kink sites, perhaps you will come to realise that most women (sub or 'broken dommes') are attracted to the quality of the man first and the kink second. Particularly if you take the time to become involved in the discussion side of things rather than the meat market 'personals' side.

Finding the right person takes time. In some cases, years. It took me around 8 years to find my Master. I was ready for the long haul, since I fully believe that patience is a virtue and fools rush in, and all that good stuff.

Slow down, think about how you want to appear to people, and make yourself into the diamond in the sea of rough.

And DO stop complaining. It's really not attractive.


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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 2:22:41 AM   
LadyPact


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I'm not flaming you. I did want to point out a few things that might help.

Lots of people who are cultivating their first amount of interest in kink honestly do think it's all about sex. Often, CM can be their first stop with this in mind. Yes, there are a lot of people who think this is a hook up joint overflowing with opportunities for one night stands. There are also a lot of folks who don't think that way so it becomes a matter of separating the wheat from the shaft.

Yes, we do have a number of forum participants who have found dynamics by using this site. I'm sure some of them will come along and answer that part, too.

I don't consider Myself a social outcast. There's a living, breathing lifestyle community out there in the world. I have a darn good time participating in it.


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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 2:47:56 AM   
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Just like any site where personal connections can be made, there will always be junk mail and there always will be the process of sifting through the chaff to get to the wheat. It just takes time and patience.


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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 3:46:05 AM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		Yes, it is hard to find "the one" but it is no harder or easier anywhere else. Your best bet is to build a rapport. Read through profiles and only respond to those you are genuinely interested in. Just like an employment cover letter, your first email needs to "catch attention" (unfair or not there are more men seeking then women looking & that means competition to get noticed). Keep it short, positive, obvious that you read her profile.

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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 4:50:09 AM   
GotSteel


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ORIGINAL: DominantN
I hear people finding matches on this site, but is that even possible. I'm starting to have some serious doubts.


My girl found me on here very quickly after I joined, basically begged for a date and we're still together five years later.

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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 5:55:25 AM   
Hillwilliam


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Status: offline 		Please don't hit all those young buff idiots with a clue by four.

We short old bald guys who know what we're doing wouldn't stand a chance if they weren't such idiots.

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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 5:56:13 AM   
lizi


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ORIGINAL: DominantN

A someone one. It seems like there are so many horny fucks hanging around this site, harassing chicks or sending other stupid shit that your mail gets pushed in with the retards.
I hear people finding matches on this site, but is that even possible. I'm starting to have some serious doubts.

Fuck sociaty for making our kind outcasts and finding a proper slave that much harder.

Vanilla people think they have a hard time find the "the one" HA!


Can I ask you how this opening statement and what is in your profile is any different than what you are frustrated with? How about trying to reread this OP, and reread your profile. How exactly are either of those two things different than the nasty stupid things that men do here that you seem to be against?
Do you think a woman would be attracted to the post you wrote here?
Do you think she'd read that and feel like writing you as a person she'd like to consider for a relationship?
Do you think she'd be attracted to your profile where you talk about the idiots on the site amongst other things?

So what I think you're saying is that its frustrating you that other clueless men have muddied the waters for you, and scared away your prospects. Quite honestly you've done that for yourself. The other guys acting like fools get the message here on the boards that they should try approaching women like people, and not like sex toys. Maybe think that one through for yourself as well as realize that women are watching what you talk about and the things that you say to see if they like the man (not the penis) who is behind the words.

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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 7:02:39 AM   
UnholyBear


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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

Please don't hit all those young buff idiots with a clue by four.

We short old bald guys who know what we're doing wouldn't stand a chance if they weren't such idiots.



Amen Hilly!

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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 7:23:20 AM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: DominantN

A someone one. It seems like there are so many horny fucks hanging around this site, harassing chicks or sending other stupid shit that your mail gets pushed in with the retards.
I hear people finding matches on this site, but is that even possible. I'm starting to have some serious doubts.

Fuck sociaty for making our kind outcasts and finding a proper slave that much harder.

Vanilla people think they have a hard time find the "the one" HA!


People do find matches on this site, but I think that requires patience and not acting like a moron on your first post.

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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 8:37:14 AM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: DominantN

harassing chicks or sending other stupid shit that your mail gets pushed in with the retards.



Nice. That alone would get you pushed into the reject pile with me.

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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 9:28:02 AM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		You are 21.
That is not meant as any kind of age-ist insult.

I doubt you would know a "proper slave" if she kneeled down before you naked.
(Hint: a proper slave probably wouldn't. She would want to know that the person she was serving was worthy of her service first.)

What I mean by this, is: a female slave may be a slave, but she is a woman first.
You can not just demand respect and obedience (and the right to easy sex).
You have to earn them.
Being a "Master" is a lot of work, as with anything that requires mastery.
Becoming a good guitar player is much more involved than just slapping on the title of guitarist.

I met my One over 4 years ago here.
I had been here for 18 months.

Relationships take time and well, involve relating.

I am not seeing much relate-able either in your post or in your profile.

What makes you worthy of someone serving you?

Edit: clarity




< Message edited by angelikaJ -- 4/29/2013 10:34:12 AM >

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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 10:23:07 AM   
MasterCaneman


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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

Please don't hit all those young buff idiots with a clue by four.

We short old bald guys who know what we're doing wouldn't stand a chance if they weren't such idiots.


You win one free internet...

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RE: Damn it's Hard to Find a .. - 4/29/2013 2:49:04 PM   
Aylee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Welcome to the internet.

I'm not flaming you. I did want to point out a few things that might help.

Lots of people who are cultivating their first amount of interest in kink honestly do think it's all about sex. Often, CM can be their first stop with this in mind. Yes, there are a lot of people who think this is a hook up joint overflowing with opportunities for one night stands. There are also a lot of folks who don't think that way so it becomes a matter of separating the wheat from the shaft.

Yes, we do have a number of forum participants who have found dynamics by using this site. I'm sure some of them will come along and answer that part, too.

I don't consider Myself a social outcast. There's a living, breathing lifestyle community out there in the world. I have a darn good time participating in it.



NICE double entendre LP!


Or should that be "pun"? I never know.


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