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IronBear -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 11:30:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sabswife

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

It would indicate to me that he possibly isn't secure in his relationship and is afraid of the other person (male or female) may replace him.... I  have always loved my partner bonking anothermanor woman and even two men. There have and are times that I can't join in but I can watch.... (If I'm not too busy with another one or two people myself..)


interesting theory, but i am pretty secure in this not being the case. 

so to you in the end, that would have been a yes answer?


It would not have been a yes answer. I would have said the response would have been to defer answering.....



Sab -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 11:33:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: feastie

Women are GREAT!
For shopping with, having lunch with, going to the salon with...

Yes, that means I'm straight.  Not bi-curious, not hiding my inner bisexual self for the right man...just plain ol' straight.


So that is a no then!?



Proprietrix -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 12:35:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LordDominik
I was curious as to how many of you, Dom or sub, male or female, have listed in your profile that you are Straight, but are actually bi-curious, or bi-sexual under very limited circumstances?


I list myself as bisexual because asexual isn't an option. I can love any gender. I prefer to fuck none of them.



Bearlee -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 12:45:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Sab

So that is a no then!?



<raises an eyebrow...with all due respect>


LOL 
bearlee



MsKatHouston -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 12:57:45 PM)

I'm bi and state it in my profile but do have a leaning toward men.  Do you have to be bi, though to enjoy same sex play?  If in a "forced bi" situation would that be a hard limit for you if you were straight or would you take it as a form of play and do it anyway?



HisTicia -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 1:12:33 PM)

At first, I listed as bi... then after the many requests for my sexual experiences in detail..and telling me they would make sure I got plenty of pu**y to lick... I changed it to straight.  Like I have stated before.. I am bi because I am..not for men to get off on.. so it is a closer subject to my heart..after my very loving 4 yr relationship.
 
I never did hide it though.. if I knew someone..I would be very open with them.. when I knew it wasn't their only focus..and we talked about other things.  When I made my new profile as an Owned slave...I put straight again..but Sir said for me to switch it over..that He wants me to always proud of who I am..and not to hide any part of me.  Not that I ever was..I explained my reasons for it..and He then understood..but we both agreed to put it on.
 
I think each person has to examine themselves..and whether they want to share that.. I don't judge either way.. we all have our own reasons for every action we take.. or non-action for that matter.
 
                         ~Ticia



gentlethistle -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 1:20:05 PM)

I suppose I might best describe myself as being 'not bi-averse' because my 'curiosity' isn't of a variety that I'm seeking directly to assuage.  I would be open to bisexuality, but since I have no prior physical sexual experience with women it seems most honest to describe my sexuality as 'straight'. 

But self-identity is an odd thing at the best of times.  When I was in a long term partnership, but not married, I still identified as 'single' to some extent, because that was my legal marital status, but it didn't really describe how I felt, which was 'attached'.  Ditto with labels to describe sexuality...they don't necessarily capture everything about someone's 'state'.

Laura

P.S.  Edited, having read Proprietrix's post, to add that there have been times when I have almost self-identified as asexual.



LaMalinche -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 3:28:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sabswife

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ORIGINAL: LaMalinche

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ORIGINAL: sabswife

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ORIGINAL: LaMalinche
And just because I am a bi-sexual switch does not mean that I am pathalogically incapable of making up my mind!




Why be so defensive, if you are comfortable with your choices there is no need to defend them.



Umm. . . that was for humor value.  I have stated on the switch board several times that we (Switches) are not pathalogically incapable of making up our minds.  Add to that the fact that I am bi-sexual. . . well you can see where the confusion lies. 

I am not really defensive. . . I was chuckling to myself when I wrote it because I think it sounds funny.  As my profile states. . . I have something that I use as a sense of humor.  I do not claim that it is one. 

I hope that you and Sab have a great day.

*goes off muttering. . . misread again. . . the horror. . . the shame. . . the ignomy. . *

Story of my life

I think that I may need to take humor 101, only they do not offer it here.




thats my fault, im still a newbie, thats all lol


Please tell me that I do not have to explan why it is funny.

If'n I do, please just mail me on the other side.

Those damn hand grenades!!!!!!!!!!





IronBear -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 3:39:15 PM)

Once upon a time in a land far far away called Collarme forums......... <<Looks at  LaMalinche and waits for the tale to continue, facinated.......>>



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 4:09:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: gentlethistle

I suppose I might best describe myself as being 'not bi-averse'


I don't consider myself bi or even bi-curious. But I am submissive and playing with females is not a hard limit. The best term I've come up with so far is bi-friendly.



Lordandmaster -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 7:07:57 PM)

I'm strongly attracted to males who are willing to wear a chastity device and butt plug while I fuck their wives.



quietkitten -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 7:18:57 PM)

* chokes on her popcorn



akisha -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/18/2006 8:26:02 PM)

LOL that's too funny LAM

I think most men would be in that situation [:D]



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/19/2006 5:41:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston
I'm bi and state it in my profile but do have a leaning toward men.  Do you have to be bi, though to enjoy same sex play?  If in a "forced bi" situation would that be a hard limit for you if you were straight or would you take it as a form of play and do it anyway?

Play isn't necessarily sexual.  Many people are willing to engage in bdsm activities with people who are not compatible with their sexual orientation because they can enjoy the play in and of itself.



denika -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/19/2006 3:15:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful


I don't consider myself bi or even bi-curious. But I am submissive and playing with females is not a hard limit. The best term I've come up with so far is bi-friendly.


That is a great descriptor for it *s*  
Personally, I am bi, *s* I like women as much as I like men *s*  but I have come across some that have   felt they were bi but were actually   more along the lines of bi-friendly, they wouldn't freak if a girl kissed them or  there was some soft petting but anything other than that really doesn't float their boat. 
Being honest with yourself and coming to terms with what you really like or dislike is  the main thing,

My Top is straight and He  has played males in the past, it had nothing to do with sexuality, play  can be what ever  the participants want it to be.


denika



murmur -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/19/2006 4:09:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LaMalinche

But, that said, a reason not for listing it in a profile is to prevent every whanker that has ever dreamed of having a three-some with two females from emailing you.  Or if you meet them in meatlife, from asking you to do it.  



*nods enthousiastically*
what she said!!



LordDominik -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/20/2006 3:20:21 PM)

Sorry about not replying.  I've been busy for a couple of days. 
 
Many of you have asked the reason why I asked this question.  In all honesty, it's more of a curiosity than anything.  I have talked to others on here who have listed in their profiles that they are straight, however during chatting have admitted they are bi-curiouis, or limitedly bi-sexual.  I know collarme doesn't have an option for bi-curious, and I've come to find that most who are neglect to state such in their profiles for whatever reason.  It is simply a question of curiosity.
 
As far as "leaving out Switches", I haven't left out anyone.  The question has nothing to do with Dom or sub or switch or pink or green or yellow.  It's about sexual orientation, not about lifestyle classification.
 
~ LD



ClassAct2006 -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/20/2006 3:28:21 PM)

I'm terribly straight.
I sometimes to explain to vanilla men say being submissive is a b it like having a different sexual orientation and that I can feel as different from a vanilla man as a gay man might feel from a straight man but it is technically the wrong word for me to use -  "sexual orientation". It does feel as different however.



enthralled -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/20/2006 3:35:03 PM)

I'm bisexual .... why mislead someone?

~enthralled



EvilGeoff -> RE: Sexual Orientation (6/20/2006 3:35:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LordDominik

I was curious as to how many of you, Dom or sub, male or female, have listed in your profile that you are Straight, but are actually bi-curious, or bi-sexual under very limited circumstances?
 
~ LD

I'm het, thank you very much.  Not the least little bit bi- or bi-curious. Other penii hold no fascination for me (though I will admit that if I was flexible enough or long enough I would be curious about sucking myself off...  But that's masturbation, not sexual orientation!). And sorry friends, but sex with another male is simply a no-go.  I've lost too many sexually adventerous friends, straight, bi- and gay, to AIDS, to ever consider it, negative blood test results and using condoms simply isn't enough re-assurance to make me "give it a try".

I'm happily "fluid bonded" (that is to say, sexually monogamous) with my girl janey, and while I will gleefully engage in SM play with just about anyone male or female (I'm an equal opportunity sadist), i'm not going to be a sperm-donor or recipient.

Hope that satisfies your curiousity, LD.

YIK,
- Geoff



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