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my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 5:27:03 PM

FlashinaPan

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asking me to call her back. She didn't give any specifics in her message, just: hi, it's mrs. so and so, please call me back. here's my number.

i so badly want to ignore it, but she and i were close and i feel that would be a shitty thing to do to her. but i'm imagining the awkwardness - he and i haven't seen and spoken to each other in a year, but were together for seven.

and he's fine - ie, she's not calling to tell me he's hurt or anything.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 5:29:22 PM

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How do you know he's fine if you haven't called her back?? Mom calling with message like that isn't good.
I had to leave messages like that after friend died before we disconnected phone

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 5:29:51 PM

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quote:

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How do you know he's fine if you haven't called her back?? Mom calling with message like that isn't good.
I had to leave messages like that after friend died before we disconnected phone

Good question. I have some more:

Do you and the ex have any children together?

Why do you think it would be so bad to talk with her if you used to be close?

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 5:59:50 PM

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He might be fine, she might want to talk you to about herself or someone else. I wouldn't ignore it, at least see what she wants and if it's nothing you are interested in dealing with, get off quickly and be done with it. At least you'll know you did the right thing in investigating whatever she wanted in case it was important. Seems like she should deserve that much.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 6:00:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Baroana

quote:

ORIGINAL: theRose4U

How do you know he's fine if you haven't called her back?? Mom calling with message like that isn't good.
I had to leave messages like that after friend died before we disconnected phone

Good question. I have some more:

Do you and the ex have any children together?

Why do you think it would be so bad to talk with her if you used to be close?

Hopefully she will be back...this now has me thinking of friends that passed.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 6:07:24 PM

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Call her. It costs next to nothing.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 6:10:07 PM

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no kidding. A mother in law.., especially an X mom in law you liked you. DANG, she should be called. It beat the heck out of my former in law who only called at 2-5 AM to tell me what a puta wetback punctuated with assorted cuss words, who was only marrying her precious son for his name. No amount of letting her know my family has lived in CA since before it became a state made any difference to her opinion of me. A mom in law who was her friend should not be tossed out simply because the relationship tie ended.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 6:14:18 PM

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No, he's fine. I know because a close friend of mine is close to him too, and we spoke before I posted here. And no to kids. Also, we were never married - she's not an ex-mother-in-law.

I just don't want to have to deal with her asking why we broke up, etc. The breakup was my fault and it's just not something I want to have to explain. (Of course, I don't know for sure, but I think my ex probably gave her some evasive answer as to why we broke up.) Or worst case, I don't want to hear that he has a new girlfriend. If I'm perfectly honest with myself, I think talking to her would make me miss her - I guess it boils down to self preservation.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 6:32:24 PM

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You could still call to see what she wants and then if she goes into something you don't want to deal with cut things off politely by saying it was nice talking with her but you're not prepared to go into that right now, and you need to be going. Set yourself up from the start to be watchful for your exit. No one can make you talk about anything you don't want to address. She can ask anything, but you don't have to discuss it- just say you're sorry but it's between you and her son.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 6:54:07 PM

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Another vote for calling her. You can always cut her off if needed.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 9:19:19 PM

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Yeah keep a loud pan handy to drop on floor then ooops gotta (click)

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/29/2012 10:18:55 PM

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Call her.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/30/2012 5:42:14 AM

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Play Mother-in-law Russian roulette.

get nekkid, & start masturbating as you dial.

You have to orgasm before she answers.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/30/2012 5:51:31 AM

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my ex in-laws have been crap with me mostly since he and i broke up. however, should they want to talk to me then i would. why? because i'm not the crappy people they have been with me.

if you got on with her then call her back. you don't have to answer her questions. in fact i would say that if her son doesn't want her to know (considering that you say it is your fault) then that is your reason to not answer. 'sorry, it's not my place to say if so-and-so doesn't want you to know'. or at least you have the chance to say your piece and end the contact.

my ex is a lying shit, i'd love to tell his parents everything as it might make them realise that the sun doesn't shine out of his arse, and that they are wrong to treat me the way they do.

surely knowing what she wants is better than wondering.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/30/2012 9:57:27 AM

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thank you for urging me to call. it was fine - she wants us to be friends, which i also really want/have wanted since my ex and i broke up. :)

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/30/2012 4:03:51 PM

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Yay! Thanks for the update.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/30/2012 5:05:51 PM

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thank you for urging me to call. it was fine - she wants us to be friends, which i also really want/have wanted since my ex and i broke up. :)

That's cool but just don't start coming around for thanksgiving and Christmas.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/30/2012 6:50:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FlashinaPan

asking me to call her back. She didn't give any specifics in her message, just: hi, it's mrs. so and so, please call me back. here's my number.

i so badly want to ignore it, but she and i were close and i feel that would be a shitty thing to do to her. but i'm imagining the awkwardness - he and i haven't seen and spoken to each other in a year, but were together for seven.

and he's fine - ie, she's not calling to tell me he's hurt or anything.

Clearly the ex asked Mom to call.

Do you want her back?

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/30/2012 9:15:18 PM

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If you broke up with him a year ago, she's not calling to ask you to get back with him or anything like that. She probably wants the name and number of someone else, perhaps your mom's periodontist or something like that. Call back and keep the call factual. If she starts to veer into territory you don't want to go, say you have to go, you're meeting a friend in 20.

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RE: my ex's mother just called me... - 11/30/2012 9:33:47 PM

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Use one of the excuses I use on my mom:

I gotta go mom. Someone's at the door.
Mom, I gotta run. I'm meeting "Master" for lunch/dinner/whatever.
Hey, "daughter" is on the other line, I gotta go.
"ooohh....I'll call you back...dinner is burning!

Of course, I have no intention of calling her back lol.

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