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ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Hello New Dom looking for sub (11/16/2012 1:08:37 AM)
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Hello and welcome to the discussion side of CM.
Here's my advice: Per your profile, your primary interest is in a D/s relationship. This type of relationship is built on trust to a great extent, and that's hard (some may say impossible) to develop between people who are both cheating on their spouses.
This forum tends to take a dim view of cheaters, and that's not necessarily a moral view, though it may certainly seem like it. It's more that cheating invalidates so much of who and what a dominant is supposed to be: honest, in control of one's self, possessing superior self-knowledge through the ability to be self-reflective, compassionate and emotionally aware in their guidance and leadership.
How can you be all these things AND be cheating on your spouse, who you must claim to love or you would not still be married.
And yes, I get you seek primarily a sexual relationship, this does not alter the above in the least (JMO folks).
Either talk to your wife and get her approval to open your marriage, or spend some time reflecting on who you are and what you really want in life. Because married and cheating hurts people, there is no way around that. It's hugely dishonest at core, and therefore, not dominant in the least.
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