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Peace and Serenity - 10/20/2012 9:16:30 PM

godmonger666

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I came to realize that the only way that I will ever have peace and serenity is to accept things; not stress out over things that will not happen that I want to happen. so this is my only way to do it:
Acceptance:

To accept only what life is willing to give me. I know there is no woman that will shit into my mouth on a regular basis. There is no point in doing anything, anymore.

Since my health is still good; no reason to go to the Doctor for any tweaks (if i had a job, the doctor could give me a medicine to help with day time drowsiness so I can be able to go to work on a daily basis and do my job at a top level all the time - since i get SSDI: enough to pay my rent and have food - no need to improve my income). I only go out to buy food for my place, pay bills.

From now on: my life:

Eat, Sleep, Drink, Piss, Shit, Surf the Internet, Watch movies, listen to music, smoke cigarettes (when I have them), meditate, keep mostly to myself. Since there will never be a woman to shit into my mouth on a regular basis; my life will be simple.

I won't be riding the bus that much; the bus is a great way to catch the flu/common cold; so I might go through winters without coughing, sneezing, etc.

The more that I accept this fate, the more peace and serenity that I will have; no more being angry; I have what I need; not what I want; but what I need; a place to live and food to eat; nothing else really matters.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/20/2012 9:42:11 PM

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um ok. If that works for you I suppose. Personally it's not how I went about peace and serenity. It just sounds depressing but to each their own I guess.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/20/2012 10:09:22 PM

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I just really have no choice in the matter; accept the reality of things; the way things will be; or be driven to madness with disappointment and frustration... i wish i was normal; if i was normal; i would have been a typical alpha male; with high paying job; wife and children.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 12:21:26 AM

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Peace and serenity is completely up to the individual. The scenario you have described to many will seem like your unmotivated, uninspired and settling. Other people find peace and serenity in the challenges & adventures that life brings.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 12:56:31 AM

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Settling would be to give up that fetish; so i can be accepted so i won't be alone. I can get IT certified in many areas; from the Beatles; "i don't care too much for money, money can't buy me love". Just a a place to live and food to eat is all i need. I will not pressure myself to have more because i cannot; "all work and no play, makes jack a dull boy; correction; it makes jack a pissed off boy", so i no longer want to be pissed, just accept things as they are.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 12:57:51 AM

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how fucking cool!!! i lost the Vanilla badge, upgraded to curious... anyways....

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 4:13:58 AM

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I just really have no choice in the matter; accept the reality of things; the way things will be; or be driven to madness with disappointment and frustration... i wish i was normal; if i was normal; i would have been a typical alpha male; with high paying job; wife and children.

Total bollocks.

You are depressed because no-one will shit into your mouth. Well boo-frickin'-hoo.

That's no reason at all for you not to be working. I have always been a slave, but prior to my introduction to the bdsm world 10 years ago, I didn't know this, but I knew I wouldn't get a relationship that would satisfy me, so I gave up dating for 10 years.

Instead, I put my energy into my job. I did very well, getting senior posts in every career I tried. Not because some unseen being had created me an Alpha Female, but because I put my arse into gear and worked instead of sitting and whining about how unfair life is.

Then when I found the bdsm world, it took me a further 8 years to find the person I needed to complement me. During this time I still worked, ran a home and even went to college.

You do not have peace and serenity, you have apathy and a lack of self-respect. There's a difference.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 6:06:17 AM

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Quit whining.

There's a poster here named OtterSwim. It's impossible to find a woman to accommodate his kinks. He's in a happy relationship now despite that. If you read his posts, you'll see why - he writes well, focuses on other people, and has an infectious sense of good humor.

Try to be Otter. Work on your conversational abilities, and your outlook on life.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 6:11:54 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: godmonger666

I came to realize that the only way that I will ever have peace and serenity is to accept things; not stress out over things that will not happen that I want to happen. so this is my only way to do it:
Acceptance:

To accept only what life is willing to give me. I know there is no woman that will shit into my mouth on a regular basis. There is no point in doing anything, anymore.

Since my health is still good; no reason to go to the Doctor for any tweaks (if i had a job, the doctor could give me a medicine to help with day time drowsiness so I can be able to go to work on a daily basis and do my job at a top level all the time - since i get SSDI: enough to pay my rent and have food - no need to improve my income). I only go out to buy food for my place, pay bills.

From now on: my life:

Eat, Sleep, Drink, Piss, Shit, Surf the Internet, Watch movies, listen to music, smoke cigarettes (when I have them), meditate, keep mostly to myself. Since there will never be a woman to shit into my mouth on a regular basis; my life will be simple.

I won't be riding the bus that much; the bus is a great way to catch the flu/common cold; so I might go through winters without coughing, sneezing, etc.

The more that I accept this fate, the more peace and serenity that I will have; no more being angry; I have what I need; not what I want; but what I need; a place to live and food to eat; nothing else really matters.

Wha wha wha whaaaaaa..........

The reason your life sucks has NOTHING to do with your kink. Trust me on that.

Anything else I could say would only be severely against TOS...it involves only one final act from you and one less person sucking up my tax money.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 6:17:04 AM

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The reality is that no one wants to be with someone who is a whiner and always acting like a poor pityful victim.

You have to be happy as your self before anyone else is gonna be happy with you. Start living to be the best you can be, and give up the poor pitiful me thing. There are many of us who have much worse problems than not being able to get our kink fulfilled.

If you want someone to share your life, you first have to get one.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 6:42:31 AM

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I agree with this, stress is bane of my life but once i learned to accept that things happen i was alot happier

Instead of thinking "Why did this happen, where did i go wrong?" i think "right ok it's happened what can i do with it"

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 7:10:44 AM

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OP, you are relating happiness in life to...well....shit.

I'm really glad that you're trying to make the best of things. It's kind of trite to trot out this old chestnut, but there really are a lot of people out there with larger problems to deal with, that would be ecstatic to have your issue of being shitless instead of what's on their plate instead. I am interning at a clinic where many of the children are disabled from birth, their life is one of relentless struggle and pain. Sucks to be them in many ways and they all seem to have a smile and a desire to continue to work on their issues.

If it really gets you down to be without a partner who will let you eat her poop, try volunteering at a homeless shelter or somewhere else that'll give you a better perspective on things.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 8:05:01 AM

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quote:

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That's no reason at all for you not to be working.

This may or may not be good advice depending on the nature of his disability. In the US, it's very difficult to get disability. If he works too many hours or for too long, he might lose it. Then there's the single-payer health insurance (Medicare and/or Medicaid) that go with it. In the US, the only single-payer is military, Medicare for old and disabled, and Medicaid for children, old, and disabled. Everyone else is at the mercy of private for-profit insurance companies that find ways out of paying to maximize their profits. OP, I can think of two things right now you have to be thankful for. One is being eligible for better health care. The other is, you're on on SSDI instead of SSI. That means when you do fall in love, at least you can get married without losing your benefits. I know someone on SSI who could never marry the love of her life because of SSI and Medicaid. Even if the laws eventually change, she'll never have the chance because he's dead. Is someone pooping in your mouth your only kink? No two people are alike and therefore, nobody ever gets 100% of everything they want in a partner.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 8:15:13 AM

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My understanding of the OP's first post was that his health was good, although there may or may not be problems with drowsiness during the day which may affect his work performance. But he goes on to state that if he had a job then he could see his doc and get medication for this.

However - and this is the bit that caught my eye - he chooses NOT to work because his SSDI covers all the essentials. So in effect, the US taxpayers are working so that he doesn't have to bother.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 8:33:05 AM

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I saw that too, but it doesn't make much sense unless he's just talking about very small co-pays. Everyone on SSDI is eligible for either Medicare (after 3 years) or Medicaid. Also, I think there's a good chance he's making his disability sound less severe than it is, considering how difficult it is to even get disability in the US. Yes, the taxpayers are paying to support him. But considering his disability, the job shortage in the US, lack of job security in the US, and his eligibility for single payer Medicare and/or Medicaid I think it would be in his best interest to make sure he doesn't lose what he has.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 10:56:36 AM

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I don't really understand the social security or medical insurance markets in the US - I shall bow to your more informed knowledge

But if it's anything like the benefits system here in the UK, it's a shit existence.

Geddit?

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 10:59:37 AM

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I don't really understand the social security or medical insurance markets in the US - I shall bow to your more informed knowledge

But if it's anything like the benefits system here in the UK, it's a shit existence.

Geddit?

My sister is deaf and depends on SSI. She gets medical from the government, but her one year old daughter gets nothing. I think they'd trade for whatever shit you have in the UK.

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 2:42:37 PM

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OP...

I get the acceptance thing, BUT you choose what you accept. You do have the power to make things different. If you need something, then go get it. If there is a hurdle, then jump over it for pete's sake! We all have stuff...some more than others, but we all do.

Click the link below titled "Butterfly Story"...

Then, get over yourself.

I'll send you my bill...

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 5:28:49 PM

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for one it is not whining. calling a person a whiner is a personal attack. whiners are different... a couple days ago, i made a comment, a guy snapped at me... i snapped back, we ended up saying to each other "go fuck yourself"; if the guy had not been in a wheel chair, i would have kicked his ass so hard, i would have put him in a wheel chair... i walked away...
which is better, a person who wants to whine in a corner or a person so pissed they can kill someone? big difference!!! i don't whine, if anything, i bitch... and i took that down a bit; i only get testy when people get testy with me. a whiner will go boo hoo in the corner; the bitcher which i am, is who do i fuck up?

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RE: Peace and Serenity - 10/21/2012 5:39:21 PM

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, if anything, i bitch... and i took that down a bit; i only get testy when people get testy with me. a whiner will go boo hoo in the corner; the bitcher which i am, is who do i fuck up?

Like one is more attractive and acceptable than the other?

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