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Lockit -> Daddys cont. drama and a program I need (9/14/2012 2:52:52 PM)
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I didn’t want to add to my drama publicly, but I need a little help on a project.
As my situation has evolved from the thread I started http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=4125233 I have a new situation at hand and though I am researching, I’m not finding anything that is helping. I must create something like a program for a computer for my son. I could do a word document of some sort that would work for me but for him I need an actual program or something that he cannot damage, but can work with, with his limitations.
Daddy not only showed up, but came to town. My daughter didn’t respect my boundaries and told him all he wanted to know about my life and my son. He kept manipulating her and apparently my son and they fell for his con job. He is very good. However, some saw what he was doing for what it was and tried to talk to them. I tried to talk to them. The result was that my family was ripped apart and extended family and I were kicked from their lives. Anyone that protested even in a mild way and trying to be compassionate and understanding, got the boot. He was buying gifts, learning all he needed to learn to use it and then implement the final blow that just about did me in.
I thought he would go for my income and my life. I had no idea he would go for my sons. Talk about a mother bear coming out! Almost to the point of getting the police called on me, before I stood back and opened the door and said, fine… do it, do whatever you came to do. I can’t stop you. (I have a real attitude about the fact that someone can force their way into your home without a warrant.)
Daddy felt that my son should be in a group home and convinced my kids that they had to do something to make that happen. It didn’t matter that it would hurt my son, nothing seemed to matter except whatever daddy said to influence them. They are adults and responsible and never had a problem with anything I did until what was it, four months ago?
That put a fire under my son! Scared the hell out of him and he has been more compliant and willing to do what he needs to do.
They reported me to adult protective services in an attempt to get my son taken away on twisted facts and lies, so that they could get guardianship over him. Adult protective services found nothing wrong and of course I had to go through the investigation and such, even with them knowing I am a dominant woman … but they realized that this had been a set up and that my story was true. (Legal actions for malicious intent are being considered.) They did warn me before they closed the case. The worker said: I see no reason your son needs a guardian, he knows his own mind and what he wants. He needs someone here to watch over him and take care of business, but he can decide what he wants in life. No judge anywhere would give someone guardianship of him, not even you. Daddy or sibling can lawyer up, but no judge is going to give them what they want.
I do expect the next round and thus must move quickly here. So here I am again. I must create a program that will further help my son gain independence and learn to take care of business, financial things he must do to live independently without anyone and problem solving. I must be able to prove he knows it and thought a computer program of some sort would establish that. I’ve got him doing most everything else pretty consistently and it is time to go to this, but I can’t find anything that he could use other than something I create myself. I don’t have a lot of time to do this.
If you know of anything for maybe children to learn how to handle business or living expenses and budgets or how I can create something, I would be ever thankful! I have little time to do this as I am trying to create income so we can survive and maybe move from here so that he can be safe and that has a bus system he could learn and now, we are totally on our own or he will totally be on his own. So I must get this started as quickly as I can, so they cannot get daddy in control over him somehow. I am not going to live forever. He hates his dad. I know in part they were doing this so that he could go see him in a group home setting whether he wanted that or not and so they could get control. I guess they thought or came to believe that I had kept the kids away from their loving father who never did anything wrong or should be forgiven and I didn’t act properly by accepting him back into my life. No way, no how, not in this life time.
Today in the news there was an article about funding for the disabled that just isn’t there and it provides for people like my son. Huge numbers of these people are on waiting lists for help and this is going to continue in this economy. I need my son able to fend for himself. http://www.kctv5.com/story/19546474/thousands-wait-for-assistance-from-kansas-disabled-program
I am not upset... just determined to get'er done! Fast.
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