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FiveOSwitch -> Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 8:55:45 AM)
I'm rather new to the lifestyle. I have had a sub but he could not fulfill penetration needs so I visited a Dom. I considered myself a switch for that reason. I do actually enjoy the sub role at times too. It also helped me understand my sub better. I now own a slave who has been in the lifestyle for many years but much of the play that I enjoyed with my sub are hard limits for my slave. He is ticklish, can't leave marks, & doesn't do nipple or ass play. Holding my sub down & fucking his ass was a big thing for me. So now withthe slave I feel a bit off my game & that he doesn't see I have power & don't want to lose him. I enjoy queening him & could do scenes but they are limited by his limits. He pleases me very well orally & with penetration. I've asked the male Dom for advice but his responses are jaded in that he would prefer me strictly as his sub/slave Consequently I'd sure like a female Mistress to give me some advice here. Perhaps you'd say we are not a match but I'd like it to be. As I said he pleases me well. In addition when he first comes here we chat about our lives like friends do. I enjoy that but admit it is hard to turn around and sit on his face. Thank you for any assistance in this regard.

OsideGirl -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 9:02:06 AM)
Okay, but advice for what? Going past his limits? (which I wouldn't advise) Different things to do? Dynamic? You never say what you're looking for advice on........

kalikshama -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 10:09:35 AM)
quote: I now own a slave who has been in the lifestyle for many years but much of the play that I enjoyed with my sub are hard limits for my slave. He is ticklish, can't leave marks, & doesn't do nipple or ass play. I'm not crazy about the cane but am happy to have my Dom work this in between things I do like so I'm not terribly sympathetic for his being ticklish and not liking nipple or ass play, unless this revolves around some sort of emotional landmine such as child abuse. For torturing without leaving marks, have you tried the TENS (I love) or violet want (I hate)? Additionally, flogging with a big heavy thuddy flogger leaves very little marks unless you have a wicked arm and/or lots of stamina. During swim season. I ask that no marks be left where my mother would see when I'm wearing a one piece bathing suit. If he needs no marks whatsoever, who else is seeing him naked? His wife? In which case, NEXT!

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 12:18:34 PM)
Didn't fulfill the penetration thing so you visited a dominant? [sm=anger.gif]

FiveOSwitch -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 1:13:42 PM)
Thank you all for your comments. I am not sure how to proceed to keep this going without the tools I know I feel a little lost. I am 6' tall, kickbox & am in great physical shape. It has always been my physical strength that guides my dominance but my powers or at least what I had relied upon as my powers are his hard limits for the most part. Agreed I don't want to challenge his limits. I am respectful. I use humiliation and obedience but feel like something is missing. Perhaps he just isn't the slave for me. I am aware of the violet wand but not TENS. Please elaborate. The dynamic question intrigues me too. The marks issue is because we both have high profile jobs & enjoy the beach so we would prefer to keep this our business. My sub was a diabetic & I could not use his penis for my pleasure. My slaves penis works fine so I don't communicate with the male Dom as much so I was feeling a little lost so I asked for your help.

DarkSteven -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 1:15:21 PM)
OP, all I can suggest is that you slow down. Your post here shows you entangled with various people, and more in the sense of which acts you can perform than the compatibility of personalities. Your profile states that, in addition to the people you mentioned here, you're looking for a female sub. Your Dom is already showing signs of being unhappy with the number of people in your life...

FiveOSwitch -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 1:38:59 PM)
Thank you but to clarify. I had a sub & we are no longer together. When I had him I visited the Dom. I now have only a male slave & don't feel comfortable to talk to the male Dom. I am genrerally one at a time. My slave knows I'm seeking a female. He found me since I have been lookng for her and had no males. Yes, I am looking for a female sub to fill in where the slave is not available. I can only see him maybe twice a week. Its a job thing.

amaidiamond -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 2:20:54 PM)
To be honest with all these limits and restrictions and the like your slave sounds more like a sub Scemantics aside... aside from play are you happy with the relationship with him

FiveOSwitch -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 2:28:13 PM)
Lol not at you. I agree like a sub & he's more experienced. I'm very happy & we are bonding well. No need to see tha male Dom. Thank you very much. PS. I surfed TENS. I don't know. Curious I suppose.

kalikshama -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 3:28:38 PM)
quote: The marks issue is because we both have high profile jobs & enjoy the beach so we would prefer to keep this our business. Well, don't let him wear a thong to the beach and you have his whole ass to mark. You're in NJ. The beach season isn't that long. Like the violet wand, the TENS is electric play, but a whole different sensation. Perhaps someone more familiar with the technologies will explain the difference.

FiveOSwitch -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 3:53:09 PM)
Thanks. I may try it. Twice if I like it! This is a great site!

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Female Dom advice (6/15/2012 6:12:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Didn't fulfill the penetration thing so you visited a dominant? [sm=anger.gif] I was gonna be a bit more direct, but your post covered things well.

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