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gigi08 -> place to call home (6/11/2012 12:53:14 PM)

Hello all. I hope you are enjoying your day. I am not sure what kind of response I will get from this; but I am hoping for some honest opinions/help. I am a single mother of two beautiful girls (one a teen and one a preteen) who are my world. The 3 of us have been thru a lot and I am looking for a fresh start. I am considering moving. I would like to get a feel from whoever is willing on where they would consider a good place to live. I am looking for somewhere safe to raise my children the old-fashioned way. They are brought up to be respectful - to say please/thank you; address adults as Mr./Mrs; dress appropriately; help others when needed; family is our first priority. I want somewhere that we can feel safe. Somewhere that those around me have family values but not so uptight that they don't know how to let go and have fun. I am on disability so don't have a lot of money; but don't want to live in a crime ridden housing complex. I am just trying to get ideas and work thru this thought process. We love the change of seasons; but are terrified of bugs, lol. Please do not take this as a request to move in with someone and become their house-pet or slave. I am not looking for a sugar daddy or looking to be locked in someone's basement. I am looking for a new home for a family. Thank you in advance.



GreedyTop -> RE: place to call home (6/11/2012 12:58:04 PM)

good luck.



gigi08 -> RE: place to call home (6/11/2012 1:05:44 PM)

Thanks Greedy...that is the one thing that I know I need a TON of, lol.



Karmastic -> RE: place to call home (6/11/2012 1:10:23 PM)

gosh OP, there's so many possibilities. if you're saying you want a fresh start and want to move, then i would start with what you're doing, asking around. and, by googling for best cities to live.

where i'm from (Los Angeles), there are nice parts on a neighborhood level, and many outlying areas where it's almost like a small town feel. e.g., i live in a small enclave, and it seems a world apart from LA. but it's certainly no small town. you have to decide what's best for your family. good luck )



littlewonder -> RE: place to call home (6/11/2012 1:11:38 PM)

All those things you mentioned are not achieved by where you live but what you yourself show and teach them yourself as their mother.

Now as for good places to live, well, where I grew up in Western PA, near Altoona and Johnstown, PA are extremely old fashioned areas, very rural, country settings with old fashioned values and morals, if you can accept being bored to death because the only thing to do is ride four wheelers in the woods lol.

I have a 20 year old daughter who has good values and morals and is a good girl who I am extremely proud of but that wasn't instilled in her because of the places we lived but because I raised her and instilled in her those values.

ETA: I like this site to at least give you a good idea on the type of places you may like. Try it.

http://www.findyourspot.com/



DaNewAgeViking -> RE: place to call home (6/11/2012 3:20:03 PM)

I strongly recommend the Pacific Northwest - Seattle, Portland, anywhere along the coast. The weather is mild compared to everywhere else I have lived, the scenery is lovely, and Washington and Oregon are progressive states which still care about human beings. i was raised in St Loser, in the Great State Of Misery, and have lived in Southern California and Chicago, and Washington beats them all hollow.

Edit: I should also add that the people here are friendly and open, and there are no end of interesting family things such as parks, theaters, hobby groups, etc.

Good luck on your relocation.
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TNDommeK -> RE: place to call home (6/11/2012 3:27:33 PM)

The south is gorgeous, just saying.



gigi08 -> RE: place to call home (6/11/2012 3:56:47 PM)

littlewonder,

Thank you and you are correct. I know that what I want for my children and how I want them to be is totally learned thru me. I am the type that believes that parents are responsible for how their children behave. I don't blame the music they listen to or the way the wind is blowing on a particular day for their wrong doings. I used that description only to give people an idea of who we are as a family (ie - we are not big socialites who need to go out to fancy restaurants or the theater every weekend).

DaNewAgeViking,

I have heard good things about your suggestions and I believe that is going to be a focus of my research.

Thank you all for your thoughts




littlewonder -> RE: place to call home (6/11/2012 8:47:42 PM)

Yes, I understood that. I just like to make sure that a person knows a move is not going to change your kids unless you have children who need to get off drugs and alcohol or something similar. Then moving to somewhere where it's not as easy for them to get would play a part into where you want to move.

I've heard a lot of good things about the Pacific northwest. It's on my list of places for vacation one day.




Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: place to call home (6/11/2012 9:33:57 PM)

I see the cost of living in other places and think it is just insane. People rent houses in our area for 400 a month. The summer is a killer with the heat and humidity though and if you like winter well winters here can suck. We can have just a dusting of snow or a ton. You never know around here.



Katayotta -> RE: place to call home (6/12/2012 12:46:53 AM)

Honestly, much as I hate it for being so damned boring East TX is a decent place to grow up. Cost of living isn't too high, the people are easygoing for the most part and the biggest crime around here is the occasional random dead body or drug bust, but that's anywhere isn't it?



Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: place to call home (6/12/2012 6:44:23 AM)

You get dead bodies there? We don't here unless grandpa finally keeled over. We get random teenage crimes. Like cars get swiped for joy rides now and then and random break ins. Every cop in the county was at the house down the street cause the owners came home and found some guy stacking their stuff by the door. He took off running, everyone knew who it was from the description but law enforcement around here is a joke so they are still scratching their heads.



Hillwilliam -> RE: place to call home (6/12/2012 6:50:44 AM)

If you like mountains, Northeastern, TN has mountains, low taxes, mild climate, very few disasters, low cost of living and much better Bar B Q than that Memphis area where TNDommeK lives.



gigi08 -> RE: place to call home (6/12/2012 7:04:17 AM)

Thank you all for some very good thoughts. I know I have a lot of research to do before I would even consider moving...well and a lot of money to save, lol. You have all been kind and helpful; the reason I chose to start here.



Iamsemisweet -> RE: place to call home (6/12/2012 7:30:52 AM)

I have to agree with those who suggest the Pacific Notprthwest, with one caveat. The schools here tend to be pretty uneven, and there are wild differences in funding and quality in different systems. Rather than living in Seattle or PDX, check out some of the smaller outlying towns. Also unemployment here is terrible and it isn't getting better.



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