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MasterJohnSteed -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/17/2012 7:16:44 PM)

Karmastic, no offense to you, obviously you've been insulted too.



I don't care if you call me ugly because trust me I am not attracted to you in the first place. You obviously have a high opinion of yourself calling someone Ugly




Karmastic -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/17/2012 7:28:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MasterJohnSteed

Karmastic, no offense to you, obviously you've been insulted too.

I don't care if you call me ugly because trust me I am not attracted to you in the first place. You obviously have a high opinion of yourself calling someone Ugly

uhm, okay. i never called you ugly. i only point out "ugly" behavior, as in someone else calling you that.




LadyPact -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/17/2012 7:37:13 PM)

OP, I told you this some time back.  I'm going to say it again.

There are certain posters here that, when they start a thread, the rest of the posters have a high percentage of knowing what the topic will be about.  You are one of those posters.  This has been a constant with you for three years now.  It was understandable when you originally vented about the job loss and even for a bit after that when you struggled finding another job.  Now, it's just screaming that you have the inability to let go. 

Do you understand what this conveys to potential partners?  It says that any woman starting a relationship with you would never hear the end of it if things don't work out.  It's a big red flag that says, "stalker in the making".  BDSM site or not, that's not going to work for you.




angelikaJ -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/17/2012 7:52:03 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MasterJohnSteed


However today, I got to vent my spleen for an hour to the executive vice president in charge of Human Resources, for my former employer and she sat there and listened and apologized for the way that I was treated, said that she totally and completely saw my view point. She then said that she was going to make sure that this was taken directly to the executive VP for the company and that changes would be made.


Do I believe that, No, have the heavens opened up for me, no. But it sure felt good to have someone that high up the food chain listen to me and understand that I git screwed by uncaring and unfeeling management.




So what I am hearing is that you felt heard that day by someone who carried weight with the organisation and that validated what you said and felt and you felt like your experience mattered in that moment and you felt better afterwards.




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/18/2012 8:31:40 AM)


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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ
So what I am hearing is that you felt heard that day by someone who carried weight with the organisation and that validated what you said and felt and you felt like your experience mattered in that moment and you felt better afterwards.


That is what I heard too.

MJS, I hope this gives you the impetus to move on. While it may be good to bite down on the past and give it a good shake, the past will never sustain you. Eventually you have to let go. Wouldn't a fabulous new job and a great life give you a better taste in your mouth?

LP is right. After a while, obsessive focus on the past can give the impression of someone who can't let go. That could be disturbing to someone who might be considering you as a possible personal interest.

WinD




hardcybermaster -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/18/2012 2:30:12 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Karmastic

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterJohnSteed

Karmastic, no offense to you, obviously you've been insulted too.

I don't care if you call me ugly because trust me I am not attracted to you in the first place. You obviously have a high opinion of yourself calling someone Ugly

uhm, okay. i never called you ugly. i only point out "ugly" behavior, as in someone else calling you that.

brilliant, you are so chippy that you take offense at insults meant for someone else! It's not always about you[:D]




ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/18/2012 2:43:29 PM)

John, good luck with that thing.

A paltry excuse to say: HEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLLLO Stella !!

Always nice to see *you* posting.





Karmastic -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/18/2012 2:46:56 PM)


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ORIGINAL: hardcybermaster


quote:

ORIGINAL: Karmastic

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterJohnSteed

Karmastic, no offense to you, obviously you've been insulted too.

I don't care if you call me ugly because trust me I am not attracted to you in the first place. You obviously have a high opinion of yourself calling someone Ugly

uhm, okay. i never called you ugly. i only point out "ugly" behavior, as in someone else calling you that.

brilliant, you are so chippy that you take offense at insults meant for someone else! It's not always about you[:D]

oh my, you actually think i was insulted?

bwa hahahahahhaha

surely you're old enough to grasp difference between that and me simply observing and calling you on your poor trollish behavior.




kalikshama -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/18/2012 5:42:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ
So what I am hearing is that you felt heard that day by someone who carried weight with the organisation and that validated what you said and felt and you felt like your experience mattered in that moment and you felt better afterwards.


That is what I heard too.

MJS, I hope this gives you the impetus to move on. While it may be good to bite down on the past and give it a good shake, the past will never sustain you. Eventually you have to let go. Wouldn't a fabulous new job and a great life give you a better taste in your mouth?


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LafayetteLady -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/18/2012 11:28:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ


quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterJohnSteed


However today, I got to vent my spleen for an hour to the executive vice president in charge of Human Resources, for my former employer and she sat there and listened and apologized for the way that I was treated, said that she totally and completely saw my view point. She then said that she was going to make sure that this was taken directly to the executive VP for the company and that changes would be made.


Do I believe that, No, have the heavens opened up for me, no. But it sure felt good to have someone that high up the food chain listen to me and understand that I git screwed by uncaring and unfeeling management.




So what I am hearing is that you felt heard that day by someone who carried weight with the organisation and that validated what you said and felt and you felt like your experience mattered in that moment and you felt better afterwards.


Ok, I remember the lost job thread, and the searching for a new one thread.

I'm still trying to figure out what pissing on his father's grave has to do with talking to his former human resources VP. 

This is obviously someone who has trouble getting over all past hurts and would benefit from some good counseling rather than announcing his negativity on a BDSM message board.




wandersalone -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/19/2012 7:30:29 AM)

FR

John, for years we have read your threads and they pretty much all (to my recollection) are based on bitterness and self-pity.

Have you ever looked at the patterns in your life and thought about what the commmon denominators are?


Why do so many crap things happen to YOU specifically?

May I gently and with kindness suggest that you start looking inwards, at your attitudes, your actions, the thoughts and feelings from the past that you carry around like a huge black lump of coal inside you. Each day, when you go out, this is what I imagine people see, not the nice person that I have no doubt is hidden behind this wall of bitterness.

I had an ex very much like you. We broke up over three years ago and after a couple of months break I contacted him as I wanted us to be friends. After all, there were things I had loved about him. He fought against this saying he had never been friends with an ex before.

But guess what? We had three wonderful years of friendship and he was my main support after my car accident last year. He still carried so much bitterness inside him though and even though he worked really hard when with me or in contact with me to let out the kind hearted person I absolutely knew he was, there were times when he had to hide behind his old patterns and push me away with his negativity and his pity stories and his anger at the world.

So yesterday I told him that he had won. I could not keep competing with this bitterness of his and even though I love this man deeply as a friend and he has done so much for me over the years, I said goodbye to him and that I would not contact him again.

How many friends do you have John? How many people love you? How many people will you continue to push away because of all of this bitterness inside you. The world doesn't owe you a thing but you do yourself a huge disservice by allowing negativity to rule your life.

said with kindness and compassion because I feel like a traitor for having thrown this person out of my life but bitterness is such an ugly emotion and it makes those around you feel worthless and helpless and sad and they eventually don't want to be around you any more.




FullCircle -> RE: Well I don't believe it will do any good but I ....... (5/19/2012 8:49:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MasterJohnSteed
Three years ago I traveled to west Virginia and I pissed on my dead sperm donor's grave. He sure wasn't a father to me.

After I did it, the heavens didn't part and I didn't get a heavenly choir. I had just pissed on a dead man's grave in an empty grave yard with no one to see but me and the maintenance guy riding his tractor a half a mile a way.

Big cemetery, make sure it was the right grave.
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However today, I got to vent my spleen for an hour to the executive vice president in charge of Human Resources, for my former employer and she sat there and listened and apologized for the way that I was treated, said that she totally and completely saw my view point. She then said that she was going to make sure that this was taken directly to the executive VP for the company and that changes would be made.

I think they are trained to nod and say they understand when they don't. Have you ever seen those films about negotiators in hostage situation? The guy has to talk to a bank robber and say he understands why he is robbing the bank. That's the only situation in which the negotiator understands why the man is robbing the bank, in all other situations it's just patter.
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Do I believe that, No, have the heavens opened up for me, no.

You seem to be obsessed with rain.
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But it sure felt good to have someone that high up the food chain listen to me and understand that I git screwed by uncaring and unfeeling management.

Just patter.




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