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RE: Blind Dates - 4/23/2012 5:59:04 AM

fucktoyprincess

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ORIGINAL: risktaker9

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ORIGINAL: JanahX

Also - that is in line with my original post - I DONT like being asked out by people I know nothing about - and DONT know what they look like.

If I were you, I would just put this in your profile. It might spare you some time.

It wouldn't do any time saving for her. So many guys either don't read what's in profiles, or do and it doesn't register somehow, or do and think they will change your mind - they always think they are the exception.

My personal experience has been that the more detailed and specific I am in my profile about what I seek, it does actually reduce (but, yes, agreed, not eliminate) some of the mail from people who I would not be interested in. And of course, the best time saver, is to simply ignore mail from those who aren't a match - if she doesn't like being asked out by people she doesn't know - she can either ignore the mail, or send a polite no.

I agree that you can't completely eliminate unwanted mail/requests on a site like this. You can only try to either minimize what comes into the inbox to begin with, or minimize the effort that you take to deal with the unwanted mail/requests.

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RE: Blind Dates - 4/23/2012 1:47:40 PM

Karmastic

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I think there is a bit more important things in people than their looks. And when that person doesnt ask me anything about what Im doing here - what Im into or how about this - what is your NAME? Makes me wonder what they want. And since Ive been around the block some - If all they have is pics to go by, and its a MALE - c'mon now, you dont have to be a rocket scientist to figure that one out.

I have a profile up with my pics - so the ones who do message me - can communicate with me, but for me - Im more into the pre-screening route, instead of the: insta-date-I-dont-want-to-exchange-any-into-with-you-just-meet-me-because-I-know-that-you-have-nothing-better-to-do-route.

Believe me - I have other things to do - like try, just about anything.

Also - that is in line with my original post - I DONT like being asked out by people I know nothing about - and DONT know what they look like. So thus I asked - does this work for anyone - and YES - from answers posted here, I got my answer. Its good for me to see how other people think and view things, It helps me understand.

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Ah .. but heres definitely one of the crux's of this whole matter -

I also have pics of myself on my page - so THEY know whom they are meeting - thats why they are asking me out. Based on my LOOKS. I have zero info on my profile about who I am or what Im doing here. - And that also registers with me - that this person is wanting to get to know me based on the way I look - I just find that so shallow.

i don't really get this! you only have a pic of you (great pic) and no info about u in your profile. but you look down on anyone who replies to your profile because they're obviously too shallow. what's the point of having the profile up? what's a win scenario here?

i've replied to some profiles like yours, and my one liner is usually something like "is there more about you?". i might also mention if we're very close geographically, or mention if i like her hair or something else interesting. does that make me shallow, more than anyone else?

so, you're saying the right approach is to view your profile. i just checked it, yeah, it's TOTALLY blank. so is a guy supposed to know that your totally blank profile means they should take the time to write a personal introduction to you (without knowing anything about you). and ask you questions, and invite you to engage?

almost without exception, all of the women i've done this with turned out to be fake scammers. i.e., they wanted me to pay to join another site.

should i therefore, as a man, make a sexist generalization, that all women with only a pic and no words are thus fake scammers? we know through you this isn't true.

your words here...

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JanahX
If all they have is pics to go by, and its a MALE - c'mon now, you dont have to be a rocket scientist to figure that one out.

are your words above any less sexist than me as a man thinking a similar woman is a scammer? as far as actual reality, i dunno. maybe a guy with only a pic statistically tends to only want sex, and a woman with same, as you, tends to have good intentions in being cryptic in their profile.

my humble uninformed impression of you, which i hope you take in the best spirit, is that you wish to "test" any man that shows interest in you. you're a puzzle and sword that only the right King Arthur will be able to release.

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