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RE: Question about 1st BDSM meetup? - 4/6/2012 2:28:22 PM

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I'd be worried about a few things where this is concerned... so many actually...

and really -- you want to engage with someone who does this?

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RE: Question about 1st BDSM meetup? - 4/6/2012 2:35:28 PM

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Another thing that you may not have thought about..sexually transmitted diseases.

Risks:
Being robbed.
Having charges of rape and assault to contend with.
Being blackmailed and losing your chance of a career in the marines.
Getting a sexually transmitted disease.

Benefits:
Sex the way you want it.

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RE: Question about 1st BDSM meetup? - 4/6/2012 6:35:22 PM

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so I;m fucked regardless?

Not necessarily. Meet them, get to know them. I think the deciding factor here would be whether in fact this is actual punishment. If it is real punishment, it's very likely something she wants or likes....which could end up being bad for you. If this isn't really punishment and she thinks its hot to meet random strangers and play kinky sex games....it's probably all good.

And thank you for your service.

* I meant this to be something she doesn't want or like*

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RE: Question about 1st BDSM meetup? - 4/6/2012 7:21:20 PM

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b/c I'm only in the states for a short time before I deploy... want to get wild before /i go dunno if I'm coming back I'm you know what I mean.

The short time you have is a problem for this, but there ARE Professional submissives if you want to try BDSM. If you are looking for a more emotionally D/s experience that would be a problem too.

ETA: Thank you for your service. Keep your head down!!

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RE: Question about 1st BDSM meetup? - 4/6/2012 10:26:35 PM

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How about taking his g/f to a Profe$$ional Dom for Dom 101? You would learn and have a third party witness.

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RE: Question about 1st BDSM meetup? - 4/7/2012 7:49:30 AM

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How about taking his g/f to a Profe$$ional Dom for Dom 101? You would learn and have a third party witness.

Paying to take someone else's submissive to a Pro-Dom.

He'd be better off finding a D/s BDSM couple that have a good relationship (I suspect that the people that his talking about do not) and getting some hands on mentoring. There's more to being a Dom than kinky sex.

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RE: Question about 1st BDSM meetup? - 4/7/2012 8:35:02 AM

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This is my 1st time being in the bdsm thing... My question is I have a guy the wants to make a deal that I can do anything I want to he's g/f hes ok with that. He will drop her off at the hotel and I can have my way.. both are consent to the idea, its his subs punishment. So I was wondering should I write up an NDA for the sub to have my way with her is the couples consent good enough for it??

Also If you have any other tips on being a good DOM (male) let me know plz

First, you do know that "NDA" stands for "Non Disclosure Agreement," right? What would make you think that someone signing an agreement that they wouldn't talk about having sex with you would mean a damn thing?

Second, the fact that you are a Marine means nothing, unless of course, someone chooses to file criminal assault charges and uses it to claim you are combat trained and therefore, anything you do is deadly force.

Third, on what planet would you believe it is safe to have sex with a girl who simply shows up at your hotel room? Do they still show that nifty little film in boot camp that talks about sexually transmitted diseases?

I get the whole "hotness" of the idea, I really do. I also get the concept of wanting to do something "wild" before you deploy. But you really should try to use some smarts in the whole thing. Meet the couple first, find out their sexual health history, get the FEMALE'S consent, because regardless of how we all play at owning or being owned, she is the only one who can consent.

And before you do this, think of every possible horror story you ever heard or conceived of. False rape accusations, being drugged and having your kidney stolen (a whole different type of robbery), being killed, etc. Then decide just how "wild" you need to get before you deploy.

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RE: Question about 1st BDSM meetup? - 4/7/2012 10:38:05 AM

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And the panel says....NO. We have decided.

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RE: Question about 1st BDSM meetup? - 4/7/2012 11:54:42 AM

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b/c I'm only in the states for a short time before I deploy... want to get wild before /i go dunno if I'm coming back I'm you know what I mean.

The short time you have is a problem for this, but there ARE Professional submissives if you want to try BDSM. If you are looking for a more emotionally D/s experience that would be a problem too.

Or even just hiring an escort. I don't have any experience with this, but I'm sure at least some prostitutes would let you flog them or whatever before sex for extra cash.

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