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RE: Moving is a drag... semi-rant - 3/8/2012 9:51:24 PM

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--> LaT: that's the thing about aging, at least from my perspective... the ability to do things fades long before the desire does. There are a lot of things I want to do, but I have to remind myself that I'm just not being realistic. During breaks from playing with the dogs and the black cat, I made up a batch of cranberry/orange zest scones, and mentioned to Pam that the house directly across the street from my house is empty. There's a notice from the bank taped to the door that says the house is abandoned. I hadn't noticed since I hardly ever went outside during the day this winter. SO I start rambling on about how I could pick this house up once I sell mine, because it will likely be foreclosed upon, and I could get it at the courthouse steps (if not foreclosure, then a short sale could take place as well), depending on how much is owed (our county has all that stuff online; easy to find out. Probably will have a tax lein). I know what it looks like on the inside, and I know that it has been maintained by the latest owner, and really well maintained by the last owner... when we moved in in August 1989, they brough us a huge tray of homemade cookies. Good neighbors. It's changed, and the new people on the street won't even bother to knock on your door or call to see if anyone's alive, even if they haven't seen you for two fucking years. Gen X Repub Xstains. Anyway, Pam reminded me that my body probably isn't capable of going through another remodel. I can barely get stuff in my current inbox done. Your inbox will likely have even more things in it, given how much work it takes to maintain a farmstead (I have an idea; I spent my 2nd decade on a 50 acre "farm" and we only grew a few veggies, some corn for the pigs, and some hay for the two horses (we bought the straw from a neighbor). It's a lot of work.

Somebody should make up a metaphor for aging that's like the "eyes too big for the stomach" metaphor.

--> dark & kitkat: old Schloss Scotty used to be a lot more fun that it is now. I had, at one time, a faux stream in the back, running about 50 feet from in the woods down to the waterfall (which is only about 4 feet (1.2 meters) high. I had pone bark trails aboit 3 feet (1M) wide going up through the woods to a veggie garden area (only place with a lot of sun). I had a little fern garden, with about (IIRC) 12 varieties of ferns... a hosta collection... There are several dogwoods and azaleas, a big white camellia, a couple hybrid Kalmias, a stand of 3 loropetalums (now almost tree-sized), a big rhodo transplanted from the front, a Witch Hazel, Columbines, Liatris, Dicentra, Monarda (Bee Balm), pineapple Sage, chocolate Mint, butterfly bushes, Stargazer lilies Coral bells, Crocus, Lillies-of-the-valley, some Mahonia bushes (Oregon Grape), Tricyrtis, an Astilbe collection, 2 big Gardenias, a couple blueberry bushes, a Redbud, needlepoint Ivy, a white Clematis vine, Bishop's Weed, Lamium "Beacon Silver", a few Pulmonarias, and a couple water Lilies. And that's just in the back (and that's what I remember; I know I forgot the names of a couple shrubs). That's a LOT of digging. I want to take some of the perennials with me, but there's no good place to put them.

I don't think I'll be happy in the townhouse.

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RE: Moving is a drag... semi-rant - 3/8/2012 10:02:33 PM

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I just moved last July from the home I raised my daughter in for over 10 years. After she went off to college and I was left alone I decided it was time for me to restart my life. So I moved here to be with Master. I can't really say I miss the house. Neither me or my daughter really liked the place. It was just too big and too much work for me. There was always something that needed fixed, something that had to be done. I don't miss that stuff at all now that I live in a teeny tiny apartment that's just perfect for me. When my daughter was really young and when I was still married, we would move about every 6 months due to navy orders. It was something that we found exciting, getting to see new places and experiences. Even after settling down in one spot for 10 years I still always had the itch to move again. So this move was fun for the most part and going onto a new experience in my life.

I guess now for me it just feels strange to just be somewhere else without my daughter and figuring out how to relive my life again lol.

Oh and the packing was a horrible task though. I either gave away or threw out about 75% of all the stuff I owned. I just no longer had any use for it all.

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RE: Moving is a drag... semi-rant - 3/9/2012 12:09:16 PM

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I am planning on spending the weekend packing, and I need to hit it pretty hard. I have moved myself and the animals into my new home, with my wonderful BF, but I still have a lot of stuff out at the farm. The only downside is that between us we have 5 large dogs. That is a lot of dogs in a small house, but we are both experienced trainers, so I am sure it will work out.

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RE: Moving is a drag... semi-rant - 3/9/2012 4:03:46 PM

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I have to move. I'm doing it now rather than a year from now. I'm moving into my townhouse. I had it leased out (corporate) for $1600/mo. Cash flow about 1K. That, and some savings, and a boarder here, and I could squeek by. Could have, except for a nasty hole in my heel that is taking forever to heal.

Moving sucks. I moved in 2009 and twice last year - a temporary move to my mother's then here to the place after meeting M. I've been somewhat nomadic since separating from my husband @ 10 years ago so purge frequently but it's still a lot of work.

So I can't help but wonder...would your heel be better off if you got another boarder and tried to sell the townhouse a few years down the road?

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RE: Moving is a drag... semi-rant - 3/9/2012 4:05:34 PM

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My ex moved out in 2007 (leaving the crap he didn't want) and my kids went off to college (also leaving the crzp they didn't want).

My mother's attic and barn is full of her kid's crap :)

When she was cleaning out the barn to make room for my move she filled her car with my sister's crap and brought it when we visited. Sis was underjoyed.

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RE: Moving is a drag... semi-rant - 3/9/2012 6:37:37 PM

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My daughter moved out about two years ago and took most everything with her. She did leave some things behind though so when I moved, I packed up the rest of her stuff, invited her over to my place for a visit at my new place and put the boxes in her car lol. She wasn't thrilled with me but she has more room than me. I have a feeling she threw most of it out. lol

I still find some of her stuff in my boxes that were just stuffed in my closet because I simply didn't need it daily.

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RE: Moving is a drag... semi-rant - 3/9/2012 7:30:09 PM

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Your house sounds lovely. I can understand how you must be feeling, not because I've felt it myself but because I've always wanted to feel it myself. What has always been so important to me was the sense of "home" my dwelling provided, whether it be physical comforts or the test of time. My father's house in rural upstate NY was my guide. And yet...that picture/sentiment/feeling is exactly what has eluded me, due to my own choices, which makes it even harder to swallow. I have moved often, and every time I move I take a breath and say "Okay, I will be here forever." And yet...I move again. At 39, I find it unsettling to feel so unsettled.

So, though I know it may sound trite, it's meant with the utmost sincerity: consider yourself lucky that you have spent so much time in a house you love. Like any great love, it's painful to have to end it, but you are so lucky to have even had that time in such a wonderful place. Some of us (okay, me) are infinitely envious that you even have such a place to miss in such a way.

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RE: Moving is a drag... semi-rant - 3/9/2012 11:36:56 PM

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--> Kalikshama: I've gone through all the possibilities in my mind, and had the townhouse listed for both sale and lease. It shows poorly, and there's no real wiggle room between what I owe and what the market is for similar properties in this zip code. Selling or leasing the house is the best thing. If I leased it, that's all cash flow (except insurance and taxes), but I still wouldn't be digging myself out of my hole anytime soon, because all the cash flow would go to my expenses and a little towards bills. Am Ex is serously unhappy with me; I guess they got tired of me ignoring them (and the lawyer

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I'm gonna miss my kitchen, my den, and my back porch. I only have a couple pics of the kitchen at the moment (on my FL profile; not here). Was just packing some kutchen stuff up, and cleaning a couple of the drawers, both inside and the drawer face. Gonna try a little liquid wax on an inconspicuous place. It's a conversion finish; gotta avoid ammonia and silicone products. I read paste car wax looks really good.

--> Kaliko - whereabouts in rural upstate NY? "Cause I'm from rural western NY near the lake and the Falls.

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RE: Moving is a drag... semi-rant - 3/10/2012 2:38:31 AM

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--> Kaliko - whereabouts in rural upstate NY? "Cause I'm from rural western NY near the lake and the Falls.

A very tiny town outside of New Berlin, which is a very tiny town on its own. Sort of between Norwich and Oneonta. I was just there a few months ago. Love, love, love it there.

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RE: Moving is a drag... semi-rant - 3/10/2012 11:00:03 PM

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--> Kaliko - whereabouts in rural upstate NY? "Cause I'm from rural western NY near the lake and the Falls.

A very tiny town outside of New Berlin, which is a very tiny town on its own. Sort of between Norwich and Oneonta. I was just there a few months ago. Love, love, love it there.

That's right on the edge of the Catskills (more or less). That part of NY can be pretty. Clarendon, not so much. All farms, right on the edge of The Muck. Lots of onions, potatoes, cabbage, & lettuce. Apples and cherries north of the village. Not much of note except a fault line running through Clarendon (Clarendon-Linden Fault System) N to S, siesmically active, and a nice little park with a 30 ft. waterfall. Our house was supposedly built in 1837. When my father was remodelling, he found a postcard from around 1890 in the wall. It was originally hand-hewn post and beam construction (as was the barn, which fell down about 20 years ago. It's at
(43° 09' 03" N, 078° 03' 56" W) http://earthexplorer.usgs.gov/

One cool thing about the area up around Ridge Rd. west of NY 98 is all the Cobbletone buildings. There are several that I've seen around there and north of Lockport. They're basically unique to the area. http://www.footprintpress.com/Cobblestone/CobblestonePreview.htm

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