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relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 7:35:57 AM   
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Curious minds want to know? I hear the term relationship dynamic here on collar me; it's daily (overused IMO sorry to those who use it), on FL but I don't go there as much and even in my vanilla world at my job I hear it a lot (maybe those that use it also are members of CM or FL) anyways---where did that term come from? The reason I ask (other than I find the overuse of the word annoying and hope that it will go away at some point like the word awesome did after the appeal of using the word wore out) is that I can not rap my head around the way the term is being used. If one said the dynamic of our relationship IS? I would get it but using it as relationship dynamic---I simply don't get it. I mean it's sort of like saying our relationship energy is and it doesn't sound right.

So here is the definition of dynamic:
adj. also dy·nam·i·cal (-ĭ-kəl)

Of or relating to energy or to objects in motion.
Of or relating to the study of dynamics.
Characterized by continuous change, activity, or progress: a dynamic market.
Marked by intensity and vigor; forceful. See synonyms at active.
Of or relating to variation of intensity, as in musical sound.

n.

An interactive system or process, especially one involving competing or conflicting forces: "the story of a malign dynamic between white prejudice and black autonomy" (Edmund S. Morgan).
A force, especially political, social, or psychological: the main dynamic behind the revolution.



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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 8:07:12 AM   
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Unless you are a member of Run-DMC I cannot understand why you are trying to rap your head around anything.

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 8:20:20 AM   
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Unless you are a member of Run-DMC I cannot understand why you are trying to rap your head around anything.

Jokes on me it's way over my head........ okay got it duh rap instead of wrap----Run-DMC rap group---I am befuddle because every time I hear the term I rap myself hard in the head with my knuckles......

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 8:21:02 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

Curious minds want to know? I hear the term relationship dynamic here on collar me; it's daily (overused IMO sorry to those who use it), on FL but I don't go there as much and even in my vanilla world at my job I hear it a lot (maybe those that use it also are members of CM or FL) anyways---where did that term come from? The reason I ask (other than I find the overuse of the word annoying and hope that it will go away at some point like the word awesome did after the appeal of using the word wore out) is that I can not rap my head around the way the term is being used. If one said the dynamic of our relationship IS? I would get it but using it as relationship dynamic---I simply don't get it. I mean it's sort of like saying our relationship energy is and it doesn't sound right.

So here is the definition of dynamic:
adj. also dy·nam·i·cal (-ĭ-kəl)

Of or relating to energy or to objects in motion.
Of or relating to the study of dynamics.
Characterized by continuous change, activity, or progress: a dynamic market.
Marked by intensity and vigor; forceful. See synonyms at active.
Of or relating to variation of intensity, as in musical sound.

n.

An interactive system or process, especially one involving competing or conflicting forces: "the story of a malign dynamic between white prejudice and black autonomy" (Edmund S. Morgan).
A force, especially political, social, or psychological: the main dynamic behind the revolution.



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"Dynamic" is just what it means to the ones in the relationship. In our relationship their is a energy level that is not only sexual, but mental, spiritual, social and emotional. The intensity can be very strong to much weaker. He can be forceful in his demands of me or he can "give me a break" lol

Our relationship is interactive, ever evolving, changing and is a process of continued growth in dominance, submission, relatedness, companionship, love, respect and trust. If all these were at their max desired point and it could go no further.... well hell, maybe dynamic might turn to dynamite and blow us both up.

You have relationship dynamics with your family of origin, with extended family members, with your boss at work, with the policeman who pulls you over for speeding, with the market clerk who inspects what you are buying as she scans the item......

Why over think and make something complicated??

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 8:25:55 AM   
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mysouldesire I guess I am asking why is the term used in this way---'relationship dynamic' instead of the dynamic of our relationship IS. I guess I am kind of saying the word dynamic is a noun or an adjective and when it is used as relationship dynamic it is being used as an adverb. That is why I asked where it came from and did at some point the word dynamic suddenly become an adverb as well?

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 8:29:41 AM   
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Because it's shorter and less cumbersome to say or type.
The same reason people say my master instead of  the master to whom I belong. It's just awkward syntax to do it the long way.


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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 8:39:27 AM   
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Because it's shorter and less cumbersome to say or type.
The same reason people say my master instead of  the master to whom I belong. It's just awkward syntax to do it the long way.


Thank you Des that is exactly what I was looking for---shrugs I normally say my partner because I never call him Master or Sir only if I feel like teasing Thanks again!!!!!

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 8:54:10 AM   
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This.
And it's something I say often, because it seems to be needed. Often. lol
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Because it's shorter and less cumbersome to say or type.
The same reason people say my master instead of  the master to whom I belong. It's just awkward syntax to do it the long way.




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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 9:11:20 AM   
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Relationship dynamic: "Characterized by continuous change, activity, or progress"

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 9:11:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Fornica

This.
And it's something I say often, because it seems to be needed. Often. lol
quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Because it's shorter and less cumbersome to say or type.
The same reason people say my master instead of  the master to whom I belong. It's just awkward syntax to do it the long way.



I've never found the need even to say the energy in our relationship...the term seems to have gotten speed over the past 4-6 (maybe less maybe more) months---what did you use before that though to describe the energy of your relationship or have you always used it?


I remember from '05 to '08 I was in college, and the word 'phenomenal' was highly used. If I had a dollar (inflation no longer a dime) for every time this one professor used the word phenomenal---I would have been a gazillionaire or at least had enough to pay off my student loans---I remember once reading and interview she did for the paper and she used; phenomenal. It's phenomenal
that now whenever I hear the word I see her face.

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 9:13:43 AM   
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Relationship dynamic: "Characterized by continuous change, activity, or progress"

did you find that some place because I searched for an actual definition for the term and it did not come up. It's not even on urban dictionary yet.

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 9:33:20 AM   
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I didn't use anything different when describing the dynamics of my relationship..lol.

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 9:48:06 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Relationship dynamic: "Characterized by continuous change, activity, or progress"

did you find that some place because I searched for an actual definition for the term and it did not come up. It's not even on urban dictionary yet.

quote:

Curious minds want to know? I hear the term relationship dynamic here on collar me; it's daily (overused IMO sorry to those who use it), on FL but I don't go there as much and even in my vanilla world at my job I hear it a lot (maybe those that use it also are members of CM or FL) anyways---where did that term come from? The reason I ask (other than I find the overuse of the word annoying and hope that it will go away at some point like the word awesome did after the appeal of using the word wore out) is that I can not rap my head around the way the term is being used. If one said the dynamic of our relationship IS? I would get it but using it as relationship dynamic---I simply don't get it. I mean it's sort of like saying our relationship energy is and it doesn't sound right.

So here is the definition of dynamic:
adj. also dy·nam·i·cal (-ĭ-kəl)

Of or relating to energy or to objects in motion.
Of or relating to the study of dynamics.
Characterized by continuous change, activity, or progress: a dynamic market. Marked by intensity and vigor; forceful. See synonyms at active.
Of or relating to variation of intensity, as in musical sound.

n.

An interactive system or process, especially one involving competing or conflicting forces: "the story of a malign dynamic between white prejudice and black autonomy" (Edmund S. Morgan).
A force, especially political, social, or psychological: the main dynamic behind the revolution.



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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 10:50:29 AM   
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How is it an adverb, exactly?

I think it's more likely intended as a noun modifying a noun, as in the pattern of "office furniture" or "soup spoon." Such usage is acceptable in English.

In any event, the genesis of the phrase appears to easily predate this site. Google's Ngram Viewer shows an original small transitory spike in usage around 1940, then fairly consistent gains in prevalence starting around 1960.

And awesome? It might not quite be dying out yet...

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 11:25:56 AM   
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What DesFIP said and a noun modifying a noun
as shallowdeep said.

And awesome lives on as irony and snark
and with the cheerfully sincere and insincere.

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 12:19:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: shallowdeep

How is it an adverb, exactly?

I think it's more likely intended as a noun modifying a noun, as in the pattern of "office furniture" or "soup spoon." Such usage is acceptable in English.

In any event, the genesis of the phrase appears to easily predate this site. Google's Ngram Viewer shows an original small transitory spike in usage around 1940, then fairly consistent gains in prevalence starting around 1960.

And awesome? It might not quite be dying out yet...

Thanks I was not quit sure if I was right with the adverb thing and ironically was just thinking it might be noun noun but could think of no examples of but office furniture works. I don't hear awesome as much as I used to--It's not that I mind it but when sometimes words and phrases become trendy and everyone uses them---anyone remember the Valley girl terms---I hope those STAY dead.

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 12:53:55 PM   
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An interactive system or process, especially one involving competing or conflicting forces


This is where it fits.....D/s, M/s, T/b. Those are the competing or conflicting forces in the relationship.

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 2:10:35 PM   
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I don't see my relationship as competing or conflicting---other than the fact that he is a man and I am a woman---it's a give and take relationship and from the give and take is a balance or equality nothing competing or conflicting but that is just my way of looking at it.

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 2:18:36 PM   
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I don't see my relationship as competing or conflicting---other than the fact that he is a man and I am a woman---it's a give and take relationship and from the give and take is a balance or equality nothing competing or conflicting but that is just my way of looking at it.


I look at it this way: dominance and submission are polar opposites, but two sides of the same coin. It's really hard to be a "Master" if you don't have a "Slave". They are opposing sides, but they co-exist because they fill each other's needs.

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RE: relationship dynamic - 1/8/2012 2:29:29 PM   
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I suppose but-- I have heard the word relationship dynamic used in a vanilla setting with that said can only polar opposites have it---like a man/woman not a gay/gay non D/s couple?

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