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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 12:52:42 PM   
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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 12:54:51 PM   
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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 1:01:06 PM   
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Originally I thought this was a post about literally fucking at work . . .


Done that too, most memorably on a 2,000 pound bomb

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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 3:21:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have never dated a coworker. Now that it's my place, who will I meet besides clients?

I think if you work in a large company or factory, it's more feasible, but I am not inclined to take the chance.

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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 3:38:35 PM   
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Unless there is some work related bans involved I just can't see eliminating someone who may be compatible and who might make you happy for a time, even if it begins at work.



The last man I fucked at work I wound up marrying. Nothing good can come from it. Trust me. :)

I don't consider the men in my workplace as part of my possible dating pool. I don't look for it and I don't seek them out. My standard line is "I don't date people I work with."

But...

If I and a coworker were undeniably attracted to each other and all other things fell into place, would I turn my back on it just because we work together? No. But barring it falling into my lap without an ounce of effort in looking for it, no...I don't date (or fuck) where I work.

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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 3:40:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

I've met lots of people at work, including the man to whom I was married for 18 years.

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Originally I thought this was a post about literally fucking at work . . .


Done that too, most memorably on a 2,000 pound bomb



Oh my God! My former Dominant (an Army officer) wrote me a story about fucking me on top of a missile! You've lived my dream!


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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 3:46:34 PM   
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I am self-employed and a sole proprietor, so I am active enough and exposed to enough locations and situations, that many people cross my path.
I am confident enough in myself that if I were interested in someone, I would not have a problem approaching them in whatever environment I was in.

I don't have a fear of rejection, because I realize we are not all meant to be paired with each other. And not sharing a chemistry with someone is no reflection on our value as a human being. It just means we were meant to click with someone else.

Besides, the only one responsible for our happiness is ourself. And I enjoy my own company, and feel life has way too much to offer to ever be bored.

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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 4:52:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think this is the main reason I opted out of dating entirely. I only meet people at work and since I am a techy geek, and there to solve people's computer woes, I RARELY see someone I can view as compatible. I meet them when they are desperate and admittedly clueless, looking to me for help. Even if I wanted to date, it is unlikely I would be even remotely attracted to clients.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I have never dated a coworker. Now that it's my place, who will I meet besides clients?

I think if you work in a large company or factory, it's more feasible, but I am not inclined to take the chance.



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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 6:20:27 PM   
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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 6:57:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
... all the men I have dated and/or fucked I met in my various work environments.

Quick comment before I read the rest of the thread.. Kind of funny, but I've been doing some casual research on the web on another topic, but I've seen quite a bit of commentary about women finding sex partners more often in the workplace than any other place. Many of the people conducting or evaluating these studies and such have put forth various reasons, the most common being that with more women entering the workforce full time than in the past, they spend more time with men there then they do with their own husbands and families.

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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 7:51:43 PM   
stellauk


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Status: offline 		It's great to be able to say that you'd never do it.. I share that same principle

But you know I've also done it once or twice and the principle went out of the window at the time, as principles and common sense usually does when these things happen. Therefore to me it's also a case of 'never say never'.

I've had it happen between members of the cast in theatre, including the break ups. One time it worked out well because the people involved were playing characters in a conflict, but other times it made life hell for the rest of us. There's nothing worse than having to work with people where two of them are in personal conflict with one another.

I probably wouldn't ever do it again, and if anyone I'm working with does it they either keep it separate or we part company.

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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 8:46:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Since I work in a residential setting and happen to be the only employee in the program since budget cuts forced them to eliminate the part-time position, I usually don't see anybody else during the day except my supervisor who is closer to my kids' ages than my own and also happens to be happily married.  I won't even think about going there.  Now, the guy who had the part-time position was a looker and I would have done him in a heartbeat. 

Sadly, my work hours don't allow me to get out much.  I'm usually too stressed after dealing with a houseful of mentally ill teenage boys for 8 hours to go out in the evenings...I work 1-9pm.  And I work two weekends a month doing respite care for a 13yr. old autistic boy.  I'm probably going to alone the rest of my days.

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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 8:54:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am not surprised. Between my household and my job there is very little time for outside pursuits. I did the gym thing for a while and only found people half my age with their ears blocked with headphones. When I had a normal job I met men by the dozens, some of them worked alongside me and some were customers. When you work beside people day to day you get to know who they are and can evaluate what type of people they might be in a relationship. I must have been fortunate in choosing people with whom I could see keeping as a friend. However upon reflection it might be because "I" do not encourage attachment with people until I am really ready. That might have kept things on a casual but sometimes intimate basis and made it easier to eventually part as friends.


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ORIGINAL: Casteele
Many of the people conducting or evaluating these studies and such have put forth various reasons, the most common being that with more women entering the workforce full time than in the past, they spend more time with men there then they do with their own husbands and families.




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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 9:17:40 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		I have several good friends who met at work and were later married, to go on to enjoy long and happy marriages.  I don't really see anything wrong with it.  My ex husband and I worked at the same place once, and that wasn't an issue, either.

As for where else to meet people, I have a few single friends to go to various meet-up groups.  Munches aren't the only kind of meet up group out there, there's one for practically every lifestyle, I think.  Book clubs, cooking clubs, travel groups, techie groups, one friend goes to a meet-up group for people who follow the Law of Attraction type of thinking, there's a Zen group, a gardening group, a dance group, a sewing group, a hiking group, a writing group, photography group, investing groups, vegitarian groups, and so on. In my town there's a used book store that, every Thursday night, hosts a gathering with light appetizers and wine, for anyone who wants to show up, meet, talk, etc.  There's a local bar that has a once-a-month "tasting" where they pair up the featured alcohol with food.  Recently it was martini night.  Not long before that it was wine night, and so on.

But then I live in a fairly metropolitan area, so there are many options here.  But I'd imagine if you Googled "Meet up groups" in your city, you might find something.  Sure keeps my friends busy!


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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 9:26:47 PM   
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I would hate to be a man out in the single dating world trying to meet women but if you are woman tying to meet men and you have complaints... then you just aren't even trying, in my honest opinion.





I think your comment is rather frivolous and belittling. I think both men and women find it difficult to be single in today's world. As far as having "complaints", I prefer to think of it as not settling for anything that comes along.

I suppose it also depends on whether you are discerning in what you are seeking; from that point of you, anyone can hook up with any member of the opposite sex.

I would not paint everyone with the same brush of "not trying" since you can only speak from your own experience and I would never make an assumption about why someone is single.

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RE: fucking where you work - 12/18/2011 9:53:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
I have found my brothers friends to be just like him (not a good match for me), the bar connection was a good fuck but he partied too much, and now I no longer run a munch but honestly in the decade I did that only one man went out of his way to pursue the leader. I don't attend church. So what is left?


Change your name to Mass-o-Kissed and run munches at church?


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