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RE: Romance and Domination - 4/11/2007 7:38:55 PM

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She joined in 04 to tell us this? I mean... this is just sad.

She wrote it in 04, too. It's a 2 year old thread.

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RE: Romance and Domination - 4/11/2007 7:41:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

She joined in 04 to tell us this? I mean... this is just sad.

She wrote it in 04, too. It's a 2 year old thread.

......

I pay attention. Really I do. *blushes and hides under the covers*

It's been a looooong day.

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RE: Romance and Domination - 4/11/2007 7:43:20 PM

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I enjoy the romantic things that Daddy does for me. They are completely unexpected for the most part, but I've come to expect that He's always got something up His sleeve.

It doesn't take away from our dynamic, but it adds to it in that it makes it feel much warmer...I guess that's the right word.

The gifts or romantic overtures doesn't take away from His dominance. For me, it actually reminds me just how well He really knows me. It reminds me that there's the flip-side to His sweetness...the cruelty that I've come to enjoy so much and He's just as familiar with my buttons on that side, as well.

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RE: Romance and Domination - 4/12/2007 3:09:22 AM

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twisted romance? how wonderful, and, isn't that why we're all here anyways? perhaps we're all here becuase we're not all there- Phoenix

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RE: Romance and Domination - 4/12/2007 3:17:27 AM

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I would certainly hope that anyone we are with would be able to accept a romantic gesture for what it was intended for - a show of affection to a loved one ... submissive or not. For us, we aren't likely to get flowers (because of my allergies) or candy of any sort for our current boy (he doesn't eat a lot of sweets), but a present of something small that we know that he wants ... heck yeah. And so far, it doesn't seem to have changed how he feels towards us - although I supposed I'd have to ask him (unless he's already posted lol).

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RE: Romance and Domination - 4/12/2007 6:32:14 AM

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Master is very romantic but very much a Dom too. The both can coexsist and do. It is when people let themselves get walked all over or let things go it becomes a problem. There are times when he is romantic and times when he is rough. It is whatever mood strikes him. I know my place and him being romantic doesn't change that. Romance doesn't work for all, some have no need for romance. It is whatever relationship the people involved are seeking and what works for them.

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RE: Romance and Domination - 4/12/2007 7:06:02 AM

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The note reads: For you, the love and passion of my life. My strength and wisdom, the vessel that is always full and ready to quench my needs; the courage to endure and remain loyal and true and one with my soul; my light and vision, the fulfillment of all my dreams.

If i received a note such as this...with or without the accompaniment of a gift, i think it would inspire me to an even higher level of love...submisssion....etc.

Of course...some recreational "flogging" with a few of the long stemmed , thorny, roses...would inspire even more..

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RE: Romance and Domination - 4/12/2007 7:26:52 AM

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The note reads: For you, the love and passion of my life. My strength and wisdom, the vessel that is always full and ready to quench my needs; the courage to endure and remain loyal and true and one with my soul; my light and vision, the fulfillment of all my dreams.

Would your perception of them change? Would they seem, somehow, less dominant, less in control? Would you, as a sub or slave, see a weakness there, you may not have seen before?

Or would you just accept the gifts, in the spirit they were given, as the note implies, and not wonder if the other shoe is somehow, about to drop?

After I reformed from the sappy puddle of blushing goo I became shortly after reading the note, I'd have exactly the same opinion of my Daddy as I've pretty consistently had for the past 1.5 years: he was worth giving a second chance to (our first date was a bit of a trainwreck) and he still loves me!

I think that a dominant working up the nerve to express their emotions in such a way is defintiely being brave. They're trusting their slave to see a side of them that may or may not come out very often, to cherish that side, and to still respect them as a domimant. They're risking for the sake of strengthening the relationship, for the sake of being honest, and simply because they want to.

How is that less dominant than keeping such feelings to oneself for fear of seeming less domly? Wouldn't bottling up one's passions be the cowardly way, the way that says "you'll only accept me if I fit your fantasy, so I can't be who I really am?"

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RE: Romance and Domination - 4/12/2007 5:15:18 PM

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hypothetical....
Your Master/Mistress, Dom/me walks throught the door or stops by your house, or sends it by courier...a dozen yellow roses and a box of chocolates.You know he/she is not trying to make up for some bumbling error they committed on your body or being, nor did you catch them with the tramp next door.

The note reads: For you, the love and passion of my life. My strength and wisdom, the vessel that is always full and ready to quench my needs; the courage to endure and remain loyal and true and one with my soul; my light and vision, the fulfillment of all my dreams.
Would your perception of them change? Would they seem, somehow, less dominant, less in control? Would you, as a sub or slave, see a weakness there, you may not have seen before? Or would you just accept the gifts, in the spirit they were given, as the note implies, and not wonder if the other shoe is somehow, about to drop?Do romance and domination live in the same bed, walk down the same road, or are they forever separated when Dom/me and sub make that committment to each other along the dusty crossroads of life?
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Katerina..it is my humble opinion that it is possible to have the romantic and thoguhtful gestures are ways of peopel to show their feelings... I agree with Top Cat on this one completely...I have been given a few living love necklaces that I cherished while they lasted (LOL bitemarks around my neck) Did i think that they were alterior motives? hmmm not other than to temporarily brand me as hisown nope...

I have been given bouquets of flowers by one who wished me to have it on my 40th birthday even though we were no longer together..did i think he was trying to "get something" for it? NO perhaps i am an old fashioned romantic but i would hope that anyone i would be in a relationship with me wouldnt give me anything to set me up ...otherwise well I dont wish to be involved with them...why should there be a shoe to drop if he is saying how important you are to him......unless there is the magic word "BUT"

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