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RE: Family wanting to meet Master - 5/30/2006 12:28:39 AM

masterpaladin1

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Meeting the parents is always fun. My slave is younger than I am. Even though her parents are in the lifestyle, the age gap as well as being poly makes things a bit interesting. What I have seen work is do not defend yourself. Defending your position automaticaly puts them on the offensive and believe it or not, you will never convince them why you are doing what you are doing. With that said, how do you "win" the parents over? Instead of defending him or the situation/ relationship, tell them how you feel while you are in the relationship. Tell them how the man you are with makes you feel. Then, it is up to them to accept your feelings or reject them. They can not argue your feelings, they can only either accept your happiness or reject it. If they reject it, then they are rejecting your feelings, and do you need their approval in your life if they will not accept your happiness?

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RE: Family wanting to meet Master - 5/30/2006 12:30:42 AM

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My former owner is 18 years older than me. I was 24 and he was 42. Didn't bother us none. When my family was informed... to quote my mother... upon meeting him..... "For the life of me... I couldn't understand why Jessica would want to be with a man much older than her.... upon meeting you.... I changed my mind...and now I have to ask.... what the hell do you want with my daughter!!" His reply was simple..... i'm not sure yet.. but so far it's been fun.......LOL

Families respond differently. Had my mom of known I was his "property" she would of had a whole change of attitude.... being more opinionated than even I am....and out spoken.....she would of cussed up a storm...kicked my ass... raise hell about raising me NOT to no mans slave...etc...etc....etc......6 years later... when we split... all my mom said was...well at least that's one less i'll have to visit at the old folks home....lol.

Give your parents a little more credit. At first shit might hit the fan... but one deals with it the best they can. In time.. they'll deal with it... or not. Just a smile... a simple reminder... you're happy...oh btw... we met Feb 17 of 91....... I was owned Feb 21 91 though as far as I was concerned...in my heart and all... he had me at hello... (first time for me with that...lol)

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RE: Family wanting to meet Master - 5/30/2006 12:35:12 AM

becca333

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Unless your family know about your kink, there's absolutely no need to discuss it with them. It's not their business, and it'll only complicate matters.

The big thing that'll focus their attention is the age difference. Concentrate on dealing with that - stress how happy and secure you are, and how settled and motivated you are. Talk about how well you're doing at work, how you feel so fulfilled and happy in all aspects of your life.

They won't be happy about the age thing, but if you show that your relationship is having such a great effect on you, and your life is going so well, they'll accept it. (Although it's probably going to take a while!)

And, as you say, you're an adult, you're an intelligent and self-aware woman who's made the choice that's right for her. Your life is going well. You could be doing far worse things than being with an older man. Keep telling them that.

If all else fails, tell them there's an insurance policy on him, in your name!

Good luck, keep your cool, and rely on your Master to guide you through this.

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