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Fornica -> Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 8:00:34 AM)
Incredibly off topic, but just wanted to share with the masses. If you are out and about doing your xmas shopping or whathaveyou, and you happen upon a Mommy telling her 5 year old adorably bald cancer-fighting daughter that she cannot have something...please do not glare at me like I am satan. Or, even worse, please do not say "awww, can't she have it?" in a pitying way. Children are children..and some are sick. This doesn't mean they get to have everything they ask for (although I would love to give her the world), because at some point, she WILL be better, and I choose to raise her exactly the same as her siblings..with manners, gratitude, and self control. /rant over Now back to talking about video games, and recipes and other fun things :)

Ninebelowzero -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 8:07:10 AM)
OK I won't but I might pinch mommy's bum.

Fornica -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 8:07:35 AM)
THAT is always ok ;)

Ninebelowzero -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 8:08:42 AM)
With you on the prezzie front too. quote: ORIGINAL: Fornica THAT is always ok ;)

Fornica -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 8:18:10 AM)
I have actually had strangers SCOLD me in front of her for not "buying the poor thing such and such". I just drop the kids off and go back and get stabby. Works every time!

xxblushesxx -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 8:21:52 AM)
Wow. People need to learn to mind their own. Weird.

myotherself -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 8:34:39 AM)
Well said, Fornica! We had the same issues when my niece went through chemo and was in a wheelchair to go out. Lots of people talking to her like she had learning disabilities, not cancer. And others who made comments when she was told 'no'. Fortunately she grew up to be a lovely young woman and is now a mother herself, with another on the way [:)]

Ninebelowzero -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 8:37:29 AM)
Funny thing is that I do too. quote: ORIGINAL: Fornica I have actually had strangers SCOLD me in front of her for not "buying the poor thing such and such". I just drop the kids off and go back and get stabby. Works every time!

kalikshama -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 8:42:06 AM)
{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}} My cousin had brain cancer at age 5, survived, and is now a lawyer.

slaveluci -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 8:47:26 AM)
It's not hard to understand why folks would feel that way. So much time, money and effort goes into making people aware of cancer and fighting it and trying to find a cure that, at the very mention of the word, people melt and pull out their wallets and start pitying everyone involved. Add a child into the mix and those feelings of sorrow/pity/whathaveyou quadruple it seems. I think people see a sick child and they truly feel sorrow, relief it's not their child and tons of other feelings. To assuage that, they feel like buying the child what he/she wants and doing just about anything to try and make a bad situation "better." That being said, they cross the line when they actually intervene and say things like that to you, esp. in front of your child. Like Christina said, they need to mind their own.....luci

agirl -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 11:55:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveluci It's not hard to understand why folks would feel that way. So much time, money and effort goes into making people aware of cancer and fighting it and trying to find a cure that, at the very mention of the word, people melt and pull out their wallets and start pitying everyone involved. Add a child into the mix and those feelings of sorrow/pity/whathaveyou quadruple it seems. I think people see a sick child and they truly feel sorrow, relief it's not their child and tons of other feelings. To assuage that, they feel like buying the child what he/she wants and doing just about anything to try and make a bad situation "better." That being said, they cross the line when they actually intervene and say things like that to you, esp. in front of your child. Like Christina said, they need to mind their own.....luci It's a strange old world when people think that denying your child anything when they are poorly is being mean in some way. Basically it makes THEM feel better to see your sick kid getting something. It's a short-sighted, quick-fix attitude that people have. I've had the same thing with my HEALTHY children! Sweet little boys sat side by side in their pushchair asking with a lisp and the best of manners,* Mummy, can I have a yollypop, pleath?. (add little pudgy fingers pointing up at the display and little red hats slipped half over over big eyes).Mean old Mummy says No, darling, it's lunchtime soon*. Little faces droop, they don't cry or show-off......and yet, you look around as you finish paying and find a whole queue of people silently glaring at you.......LOL People are too intrusive at times. I wonder if they'd have the same reaction if your child was asking for the pretty flick-knife. :) agirl

Termyn8or -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 12:09:43 PM)
quote: My cousin had brain cancer at age 5, survived, and is now a lawyer. At least the ailment did not affect something (s)he would need LOL ! Now THAT'S treating people the same. And THAT'S hard to do at times. Someone who is ill needs a laugh too and they can laugh at themselves. Just don't make the jokes too nasty. What to say to a bald kid ? How about "Hello" ? I've hung around people with disabilities and the ones I've known hated being pitied or treated "special". T^T

Fornica -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 12:22:10 PM)
I've said terribly shocking things to put people in their place. And we absolutely keep a sense of humour about everything around here. You have to, or you fall apart.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 5:03:48 PM)
Good on ya for being a good mommy!! ~gently fongles a boob~

LafayetteLady -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 5:14:55 PM)
Good for you. From the sounds of it, your daughter is doing well, so what a wonderful Christmas gift for you. I would rather see a parent appropriately raising and disciplining their sick child than a parent who lets their child (sick or healthy) behave like a little hoolligan and expecting everyone to be understanding. My best wishes to your family through this time.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 6:21:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama {{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}} My cousin had brain cancer at age 5, survived, and is now a lawyer. (Actually, many people don't know this but...this is somewhat common for lawyers).

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Strange sort of PSA (12/4/2011 6:28:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Fornica Incredibly off topic, but just wanted to share with the masses. If you are out and about doing your xmas shopping or whathaveyou, and you happen upon a Mommy telling her 5 year old adorably bald cancer-fighting daughter that she cannot have something...please do not glare at me like I am satan. Or, even worse, please do not say "awww, can't she have it?" in a pitying way. Children are children..and some are sick. This doesn't mean they get to have everything they ask for (although I would love to give her the world), because at some point, she WILL be better, and I choose to raise her exactly the same as her siblings..with manners, gratitude, and self control. /rant over Now back to talking about video games, and recipes and other fun things :) I'm a bit of a sucker for kids, so if my child was going to die...if he or she wanted a house in Malibu, a 72 inch flat screen....I'd buy it. Having invented and patented some things for people with disabilities, and never having once (even prior to) ever thought they were any less than anyone else...I'm constantly amazed how many people talk to their caregiver....instead of them. I wanna slap them and tell them "hey....the person you're asking about is exactly 3 feet to your right". Moreover, people that are afraid to ask them "how did you become blind.......what happened to your leg/arm/ear.....why are you sick?". Most of these people live this (stuff) every waking moment....it's an obvious conversation starter, no less so (but by no means comparable) than "hey, those are nice shoes....where'd you get them?" Most people (not all, but I've yet to find one that didn't) want to talk about "it"...it's a major component of their every existence....and how better to educate "one more" person than to do exactly that....talk about it.

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