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Joran -> Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 2:58:26 PM)

Okay, so on a few occasions over the years, I've had general abuse along one of three lines :-

  • "You are a paedophile and should be arrested!" with "I have proof", or "I've been told so"
  • "You're that one that I've been warned about"
  • "You DANGEROUS pratt"


So every once in a while I do wonder if someone actually is spreading crap about me or if it's just people looking to upset random strangers.

Obviously there are those who think my kinks aren't valid but that's their problem, the whole YKINMKBIOK thing should apply and really shouldn't cause random flames via message, or am I crediting them with too much sense?



JstAnotherSub -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:00:26 PM)

Absolutely!



tolovetolaugh -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:01:45 PM)

You are just being paranoid.
Some idiots just like to see if they can get a rise out of you. They don't message anyone else about you, and if they did, no one would know who you are or care.
Block and ignore.



Lucylastic -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:07:25 PM)

nice boost for your profile I guess, but I couldnt find anything worth commenting on



poise -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:10:46 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Joran

So every once in a while I do wonder if someone actually is spreading crap about me or if it's just people looking to upset random strangers.



I wouldn't worry about that so much, I never even heard about you until you showed up here.



Joran -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:15:52 PM)

Yeah, I don't tend to do the forum thing, it's not my general cup of tea, but I have been on the scene for over 10 years, people do know me, mostly on m4m though (recon, gaydar etc.) and the specific sites like hypnotising.org.

I was just curious really as I'm generally known as being the "safe", "not extreme enough" and "too unimposing" one, so it's just odd to get the messages like them, wondered if there was a latest spate of them across CM or maybe more targeted to M4M or specific niches.



Lockit -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:17:18 PM)

I've never heard of you either. However, after making a post like that, highlighting what may not even be happening and pointing out how others might have reason to be concerned... you surely didn't do yourself any favors and helped out anyone that might be doing all that.

Sometimes when an enemy gets an assist from the opposing side... one could say the enemy scored.



Termyn8or -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:17:43 PM)

" I'm a gay hypnotist Dom from the Leeds/Bradford Area, I specialise in helping boys submit, through hypnosis, often to levels they could not have imagined prior to meeting me."

And later you say boy does not mean underage. That is probably at the root of this because people don't look past the surface. Those first few words sho up at the top.

Maybe a slight rewrite is in order.

T^T



Joran -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:33:49 PM)

@Termyn8or Thanks for the advice, the further down bit is actually in response to the last batch of random abuse I got, hoping to head some of it off at the pass. It has been a while since I update my profile though so I may avoid using the (extremely commonplace in m4m D/s) term boy.

@Lockit I guess the whole thing is well beyond talking over at this point, but if anyone reads my post and thinks that there must be a reason for me getting said messages and avoids contact, it's their loss really. Haters gonna hate as they say and those who assign weight to random hate are only to be pitied.



Lockit -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:40:56 PM)

LOL I actually think the way you are posting is pitiful and says a whole lot. I won't miss out on a guy that thinks hypnotizing people to be submissive is needed, that is gay, dominant and lives a pond away, would be any loss to me other than friendship and really... your self promotion is really sad because it is not highlighting good things.

That pity is going both ways. When it comes to certain topics... and underage would be one of those topics... if some haters as you call them... actually know you, which I cannot know... I would take a serious look to see if it were true. So it would have some merit at least in finding out the truth. However, you pointing out that people are saying this isn't the brightest thing in the world to do because any smart parent or even someone that would be associated with you, would check your ass out.

It would be a non issue if you just shut up.



Joran -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:50:54 PM)

@Lockit yeah, you did indeed just put yourself in that category, but I would like to just point out one thing in your post
quote:

thinks hypnotizing people to be submissive is needed


At no point have I ever even implied that. I know many subs who are not hypnotised, a number of whom I have had to decline to play with because they have only been interested in submitting to me and not being hypnotised. Hypnosis is my thing and what I enjoy, much as any fetish you may have is what you enjoy. You are making assumptions here but then unlike me you do have a reputation to uphold on this forum, which you are doing, so bravo for that.



Lockit -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 3:57:36 PM)

I'm sorry if I misunderstood you... but going on what you said:

I'm a gay hypnotist Dom from the Leeds/Bradford Area, I specialise in helping boys submit, through hypnosis, often to levels they could not have imagined prior to meeting me.

It seemed to me that they couldn't get to places of submission without it. As a kink... cool. As a tool... cool. But I don't agree that it is needed to bring on more or better submission and that can be simply my personal opinion and thinking I don't need it to bring about the submission important to me. I was simply stating that I wouldn't consider you a loss in my life because I don't agree and we are different. You said it was our loss if we considered what others... haters... said about you. However I didn't consider what they said. I listened only to you, repeating what they said.

I figure neither of us is a loss to one another. Good day.



stellauk -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 5:22:36 PM)

People read too many tabloids and colour magazines.

Or drink too much cider.

If you're comfortable with you and what you do, why should it bother you?



SuzeQ -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/27/2011 5:29:09 PM)

quote:

Thanks for the advice, the further down bit is actually in response to the last batch of random abuse I got, hoping to head some of it off at the pass. It has been a while since I update my profile though so I may avoid using the (extremely commonplace in m4m D/s) term boy.
If they are reacting to the word "boy" in your first sentence you really don't have anything to complain about, you should be glad they read that far.



Joran -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/29/2011 1:47:44 PM)

@SuzeQ Sorry, say what? I should be glad people are sending me abuse?

As I have said a couple of times now, in the gay D/s community, boy is the correct term for any male sub. I believe it is also used for female subs in femdom/femsub scene too, which is confusing!



Rule -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/29/2011 3:53:15 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Joran
I believe it is also used for female subs in femdom/femsub scene too

That would be 'boi'.

I agree that by starting this thread you are not doing yourself a favor.



VaguelyCurious -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/29/2011 4:03:37 PM)

FR

Oh dear lord.

The man asked a slightly paranoid question. We've all had flickers of that paranoia at some time or other (or at least I have).

Give him a break.

It's not like he was all 'I wantz to suspendz ppl from my ceilingz by there boobiez canz you tell me if I can use fishinwyre or if its gotta be jute plskthxbai' or anything.



GimpinDenial -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/29/2011 4:18:02 PM)

Ok...*in a somewhat serious tone*

If I was in your situation, the only way I would be offended is if there was some truth in the accusations.

As it had been posted before, the only logical solution is
Ignore
Block
Report

Bringing out this particular type of subject matter comes off to some of us as....."I need attention, gimme gimme gimme"

<saunters back into the corner to lurk>



MissImmortalPain -> RE: Latest batch of abuse (11/29/2011 5:36:36 PM)

I read this as rather like when a man says a domme is actually male and wants to go around telling everyone on the net about it. If it's not true blow it off. Their issue is not your own. Though I also have to say that I don't know of you and have heard nothing about you. That at least should put you at some easy. Whoever has an issue with you they have not told eveyone bad things about you.



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