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LaughingVampire -> CM Search Dilemma (10/20/2011 5:12:52 AM)
Sorry if this is on the wrong board - I also looked around for related discussions but couldn't see any. I have been using the site for a couple of weeks and have been suspicious about the effectiveness and thoroughness of the search feature since day one. Then today I notice the 'who's viewing me?' tab on the sidebar highlighted. When I check it out I notice the user perfectly fits my usual search criteria, and yet she is nowhere to be found on the first few pages of search results. When doing a specific username search, it tells me the last time she was online to be 3 minutes ago, but the list of potential female subs online within the past 30 mins matching my criteria doesn't even fill up half a page of results (actually it was only 5 at the time). I tested all possible variations to the search criteria, such as age and orientation, yet this user still never appeared on the results page. It is very disheartening to discover I may be missing out on potential opportunities. I understand and accept the male to female ratio is at least 20 to 1 (and even then many are fakes), so with this being true the last thing any male Dom needs is for potential matches to be hidden from him. Females on this site need not search for matches, they merely have to log on and read through their inboxes to find the right person for them, but the only way for me to find a match is by doing a search. (The only other possibilities I can think of is that this particular user has activated an option not to show up in search results, or maybe the effects of a complex search algorithm which is as much to do with CM internal politics as it is with finding a perfect match.)

poise -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (10/20/2011 5:46:24 AM)
While I can understand your frustration, I don't feel it's the position of the site administrators to hide potential matches from you either. There are a few options that are available to all users that can affect how they are viewed by others (or not viewed, as the case may be), and I believe this may be what you have come across. Hopefully, you took advantage of such a find showing up in your Who's Viewing You list, and dropped her a line or two?

kalikshama -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 5:59:28 AM)
Hi LV, Did you try clearing all your search criteria and searching again? You may have something checked that is filtering her out. CM is one tool of many - have you gone to local events? Google says there's a U35 munch in Brighton, and perhaps some of our friendly Brits will be along to offer other suggestions. Best. KK

LaughingVampire -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 6:26:25 AM)
@poise Lines were dropped. Are there any statistics available on the CM demographics, including the number of users with restricted profiles? It would certainly satisfy the curiosity of a lot of people here, I'm sure. Thanks for the reply. @kalikshama Yeah I've already spoken to a couple of people who will be attending the Brighton munch. I look forward to seeing them there. I'll try tweaking the search criteria some more and switch things up from time to time. Cheers.

searching4mysir -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 6:30:32 AM)
Perhaps she read your profile, did NOT like what you had to say and set YOUR profile to "hidden" and/or blocked you?

kalikshama -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 6:48:46 AM)
Yes, this could indeed explain the scenario. OP - I suggest you delete your first journal entry from the 17th - negative comments about the women on this site are always a bad idea.

DesFIP -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 6:55:38 AM)
Probably she has her profile hidden.

LaughingVampire -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 7:01:45 AM)
It's an interesting theory (edit: in response to Searching4mySir). But she replied to the message I sent her, so it seems unlikely. But I don't rule it out as a possibility when it comes to others - which is fine by me, everyone has the right to block any profile they don't like the look of. I may just get rid of the journal altogether. The entries only reflect certain abstract thoughts I am having at the time of writing them, and not really representative of my outlook or personality.

ModTwentyOne -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 12:07:37 PM)
Please write to Support about this issue. A link to Support can be found at the bottom of every page on the personals side, or click here: http://www.collarme.com/personals/support.htm

searching4mysir -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 12:28:33 PM)
I want to apologize how that last post on this thread appears. I just re-read it and it has a tone that I really didn't mean. When I'm on the main page, I occasionally read the profiles in the box (without entering the profile). Even though I'm off the market, I will block and hide profiles that I KNOW that I'm not a good fit for, regardless of if they think they are a good fit for me. They may never have felt the need to contact me, but I know that they are not what I am/was looking for, so I felt it prudent to nip it in the bud before it even started. All I was saying was that she may have been doing the same (i.e., read your profile, triggering the view, and decided that you weren't what she was looking for so she automatically hid/blocked). Now the fact that she responded to an email blows that theory out of the water. Regardless, good luck in your search and I hope that tech support can help you out and resolve this.

LaughingVampire -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 4:02:41 PM)
ModTwendyOne I'll do that. I think it would be helpful to run a few more tests and make a record of specific cases myself before contacting tech support (which will be done when I have some spare time). It would be great to discover an actual bug which they can fix, improving the service for everyone. searching4mysir No need to explain yourself. I understood what you meant, as I have recently started employing that same strategy myself (usually when I suspect fake/scam profiles). I wonder what a guy is supposed to do once they've either contacted every potential match/blocked every profile they don't like the look of in their country/state? (There has to be a few really determined guys who have gone through this process, systematically sorting through thousands of profiles - and now they've either found someone they're happy with or log on everyday to check out who has recently joined - what a depressing thought)

searching4mysir -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 4:18:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaughingVampire No need to explain yourself. I understood what you meant, as I have recently started employing that same strategy myself (usually when I suspect fake/scam profiles). I wonder what a guy is supposed to do once they've either contacted every potential match/blocked every profile they don't like the look of in their country/state? (There has to be a few really determined guys who have gone through this process, systematically sorting through thousands of profiles - and now they've either found someone they're happy with or log on everyday to check out who has recently joined - what a depressing thought) My Sir created his profile in 2004 and we just got together this year. I only joined this year. If it had taken me 7 yrs to find him, it would have been worth it to me. I got lucky (very lucky). I also didn't limit myself only to local people (he lives 3 hrs away). While I'm not a "no limits" gal, distance isn't one of my limits ;)

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 5:50:23 PM)
quote: Perhaps she read your profile, did NOT like what you had to say and set YOUR profile to "hidden" and/or blocked you? That wouldn't affect his ability to see them. quote: ORIGINAL: ModTwentyOne quote: ORIGINAL: SuzeCheri A little more on our experiments. Hiding or blocking a person doesn't in any way affect a person's ability to search and view your profile, You just won't know about it because they don't show up on your Who's Viewing Me page, even if they search for your profile specifically. Even if you remove them from your Hidden and Blocked lists, you won't know if they peeked while they were hidden/blocked. This is correct. An Admirer is just someone who has marked you as one of their favorites. This list is not viewable by anyone other than the people involved. Think of it as a bookmark. Blocking someone prevents them from writing to you. Hiding someone removes them from YOUR view. http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3852352

roscho -> RE: CM Search Dilemma (Brighton, UK) (10/20/2011 6:14:49 PM)
I'd say you are on the right track... Delete the journals. Post articulately, with precision.

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