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Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:09:20 PM

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Very recently we have had a news story in KC, that is now involving my family. We are not a part of it but because of people watching for a missing child, my family is being harassed and attacked when in public. People are following my daughter and family, harassing them in public and attacking them, trying to prove my grand daughter is the missing baby. They do look alike, but there are huge differences, but people aren't seeing that. They are only seeing something they think they must do something about and aren't even handling it in an appropriate manner. They are placing my family in danger.

I am trying not to go to the place where I wonder if this poor missing child will be found and how long this could continue. They are going into hiding and isolating and with other children and one on the way, that isn't easy to do, especially when I live forty minutes away and my van isn't on the road and I cannot assist in keeping them safe.

I've never run into a situation like this and am a bit freaked out over what is happening and really don't have any answers as to what we can do to keep them safe from well meaning people or vigilante types. Other than a shirt that says.... I'm NOT L and this IS my mommy, please leave us alone and hiding them.

As much as we understand and agree that people need to be watchful and helpful, this is getting out of hand. Anyone have any ideas on how we can handle something like this? Are people so upset about the other media stories about situations like this, that they are going nuts? How does one justify attacking a woman with a few children and one on the way, because they think she might be someone bad and doing so in front of or at the risk of, other children?

I'm sorry if I am a bit freaked and shouldn't be doing this, I am just stuck on how to manage this.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:16:17 PM

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maybe she should talk to the local police department...maybe they would have some ideas....at the very least, they will know that it is happening and maybe have some way to put a stop to it or at least protect them.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:19:41 PM

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Have her wear a dress so you can prove she doesn't have a (I can't remember if it's a birthmark or a mole on her leg...also can't remember which leg)

I'm following the case at websleuths.com. You may want to pop into the forums specifically under the one that is following Lisa's case, and ask for advice. There are many people there who have had missing children, and I'm sure there are people who have been where you are.

Other than that, try to keep her at home a lot instead of taking her out. This baby appears to have vanished into thin air, and that does tend to freak people out.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:23:37 PM

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is this in regards to the baby for whom an amber alert was recently put out? i've seen it going around on FB.

and yeah, i think the casey anthony thing has people hyper-reacting and they figure they're being heroes and trying to stop it from happening. pretty crazy behavior man... i don't really know how to deal with it because i've never experienced it. .

if people are physically attacking them, are they allowed to carry pepper spray? do they have cell phones? they should call the police. i agree that contacting the police for advice might be a good idea, but a lot of police stations will just tell you there's nothing they can do unless someone actually physically attacks you, so... i dunno...

that's complicated -- good luck to your family.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:24:59 PM

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Oh god that is awful. Awful for the parents of the missing child, and awful for your family to be caught up in it.

My advice is definitely to go to the police and see what, if anything, they can do to protect your daughter and grand daughter from this harassment.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:38:27 PM

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Thanks everyone, I am still talking to my daughter and figuring out what to do. She mentioned a bit, but wasn't telling me all that happened this weekend. She was afraid I would have a stroke or something. Finally I suspected more and got it out of her. She knows the police chief in her city and I am sure she will talk to them, but there really isn't much they can do unless something bad happens. For now, they are just keeping the baby inside at home. But it is hard when your other kids have needs and she doesn't have someone there at all times to watch the baby. I can't go stay there with my son, so...

I will check out that web site and at least take a look, don't know if I will say anything yet though.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:42:50 PM

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Would she be able to talk to the local tv station and maybe get a story about her situation on air. If people saw her face on air, they would realise that she isn't involved. Seems to me local stations like these sort of stories and are pleased to air them - something about different angles of the original story.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:43:35 PM

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Try making an appeal to the local TV News media to see if they might air a story showing your family members and have them let the idiots harassing them know that you family members are not the ones that have anything to do with the missing child.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:46:48 PM

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That may be a good idea. Thank you...

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:53:53 PM

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Here's a link to the latest thread. They move fast, so tonight or tomorrow they will have made a new one. http://www.websleuths.com/forums/showthread.php?t=151039

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/10/2011 3:57:30 PM

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Ms Lockit, You have mail

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/12/2011 4:27:26 AM

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Gosh Lockit! I'm so sorry this is happening to your family. Lunacy is more prevalent in society than I would have ever thought. I would think the police should be able to provide some sort of protection, since your daughter has experienced harassment. Is there some relative that could help with the other kids, taking them out when they need to go outside the home so that your daughter can stay inside with her child? The father's parents or siblings? I wish you and your family well and hope the craziness is gone soon.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/12/2011 4:41:10 AM

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*hugs* I wish I had sme advice, but what I have seen already posted seems to me to be the best you can do for now..

my prayers, love and hugs are going out to you and your family...

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/12/2011 6:45:46 AM

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You’ve already gotten good advice so I’ve nothing to really add save that I really feel for you. I got a taste of such undeserved public scrutiny and opprobrium some years ago when police were looking for a “bearded white man driving a red pick-up.” Ugh. You could just smack people. I even contemplated shaving my beard off (NO! NEVER!). The worst part about it was that you knew that people meant well. Fortunately they did eventually catch the creep they were looking for and the heat died down. In time this too will pass.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/12/2011 10:28:36 AM

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Thank you everyone. They decided that they are just going to isolate, stick to small town area's where they are known and when going into the bigger city areas, they will be with at least two adults. They don't want to add to the circus it could be or be a part of it, but will keep going public as a back up plan.

I went today and it was rather unreal. We had three adults. No one harassed us... but people watched, stared, stopped to talk to her or us and engaged. That was all fine. We said her name a lot! lol Her response to us let people know she knew us and knew her name. She loves attention, so this wasn't bad. She waved and played with everyone. She gets a lot of attention anyway, mostly when she is walking because she is so tiny and people can't believe she is walking and doing all she does. Yet, this was way different than normal.

To see the shock, the hesitancy or stunned look in the people that saw her was something. I really felt sorry for some of them. They really thought they were seeing the missing baby. At least this was proof to us that people do pay attention to these things and we do understand, it was just a scary weekend that we hope is never repeated.

We compared pictures and our baby has very similar expressions to the other baby and some look identical, others don't.

We are all praying and hoping that the missing baby is found safe and just couldn't imagine someone doing something awful. To have our baby look so much like her, it kind of brings it home to us.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/12/2011 11:40:46 AM

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So sorry this is happening. Another thing to suggest is that your daughter carry a copy of her child's birth certificate. It won't help with the do gooders you are describing, but it could be very helpful if some cop decides to get overzealous.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/12/2011 5:19:40 PM

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If it were me I would contact the local media outlets (television, newspapers) and tell them my story and see if I could get any exposure that way. The more people who know the truth perhaps it will lessen the problem. That's terrible and really unfortunate for your family to be subjected to that. I admire the way they and you are trying to handle it. I don't know that I could be as patient. Perhaps the police can help you. A few arrests might slow the activity down. As a general rule I tend not to have much faith in law enforcement, though. They are usually only good as mopping up afterwards. Best wishes to you and yours.

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RE: Mistaken ID, public backlash, what can you do? - 10/13/2011 5:18:57 AM

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I'd just start filing suits against anyone harassing her or her child, if nothing else maybe the local media will post a story about her being victimized and people will get the point.

Here's hoping it clears up soon.

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