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DeviantlyD -> RE: Playing? (10/3/2011 11:32:30 PM)
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ORIGINAL: lizi
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I think I just came from that thread. [;)]
Yes, I call it play and I call it that because it's fun. I tend to call it casual play so people know the difference between just S/m for a scene and something that is a more in-depth relationship or one that includes physical sex. A scene to Me doesn't have to be about a serious commitment beyond engaging in the activity with someone that you trust and ensuring that no harm is going to come to the participants and others that might be affected. It's not about love or sex. It's about S/m and enjoying the experience.
I underlined the quote above to show that this is the way I interpret the word play and I don't like to use it for describing what we do in my relationship, because we don't do that. We do it for the sex. Period. Just seems to be closer to the truth in calling it sex and not play although of course much of sex is play. I just always thought the word play was more or less set aside for the type of thing LadyPact outlined above. We don't do scenes, we don't include others, we're just at home bonking each other's brains out sometimes with pain and toys and whatever, but it seems to be not quite what play means. Our way it seems to be just two people getting it on.
Since the "pain and toys" are not technically sex, per se, would you see it as foreplay?
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