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kalikshama -> RE: Assignments? (9/26/2011 3:33:21 PM)
When I was in a LD relationship, it amused him to micromanage me. OP - You're the D - what do YOU want him to do? I've received a lot of satisfaction from doing personal assistant type tasks while in LD relationships. Maybe you should check out The Loving Dominant or The Topping Book. Not that these books necessarily have anything on long distance relationships, but since yours was such a newbie question (not that there is anything wrong with that), I thought you might benefit from some D 101.

curious2xplore -> RE: Assignments? (10/1/2011 8:46:10 PM)
quote: A hint about the boards here...don't actually ask any questions that might lead to discussion about....you know....sex. Sharing ideas about what has been fun or worked in the past for others is frowned upon and will likely label you incompetent and unimaginative. We don't like our conversation to be too titillating. You'd best try that kind of discussion on a kink site.....oh.. wait.... I love this reply. I've been lurking on these boards for a couple years and I've noticed a surge of hostility any time anyone tries to start an idea sharing thread. There's nothing wrong with preferring not to share, but why the attacks? It makes you appear as though you're compensating for insecurities with regard to your own dominance or submissiveness. "If you were as good a Dom as I, you would know everything like I do." or "If you were a real submissive like I am, You would never have to ask" It seems to me that the ones who are usually willing to share ideas are the ones that also seem very secure in their orientations (ie., more experienced and confident).

Aynne88 -> RE: Assignments? (10/1/2011 9:20:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko quote: ORIGINAL: MissEvilT I am in need of some ideas for easy assignments given some very strict settings. Assuming that you can not have any 'traditional' toys around, and that it has to be quiet...are there any suggestions on tasks he can do. I also am sending him a package so any 'nonchalant' items would be helpful too. I have been giving hiim small assignments and he has been more than willing to do more but I am running out of ideas given the strict scenari. I am defiantely not used to having my pets so unattainable to me and I have several weeks before he can be before me. Help! A hint about the boards here...don't actually ask any questions that might lead to discussion about....you know....sex. Sharing ideas about what has been fun or worked in the past for others is frowned upon and will likely label you incompetent and unimaginative. We don't like our conversation to be too titillating. You'd best try that kind of discussion on a kink site.....oh.. wait.... Being a female sub, that's the best I can offer you. I'd have no idea what to do with a male sub. The only way I know to work those things is with my mouth. :) (I'm feeling spunky tonight!) No kidding. God forbid we help a newbie with questions....[8\|] This place keeps getting more and more snarky and inclusive.

Aynne88 -> RE: Assignments? (10/1/2011 9:22:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: curious2xplore quote: A hint about the boards here...don't actually ask any questions that might lead to discussion about....you know....sex. Sharing ideas about what has been fun or worked in the past for others is frowned upon and will likely label you incompetent and unimaginative. We don't like our conversation to be too titillating. You'd best try that kind of discussion on a kink site.....oh.. wait.... I love this reply. I've been lurking on these boards for a couple years and I've noticed a surge of hostility any time anyone tries to start an idea sharing thread. There's nothing wrong with preferring not to share, but why the attacks? It makes you appear as though you're compensating for insecurities with regard to your own dominance or submissiveness. "If you were as good a Dom as I, you would know everything like I do." or "If you were a real submissive like I am, You would never have to ask" It seems to me that the ones who are usually willing to share ideas are the ones that also seem very secure in their orientations (ie., more experienced and confident). Yep.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Assignments? (10/1/2011 9:28:43 PM)
I want to know what's up with these ooooold profiles suddenly popping up to post. Nothing to say all these years?

SweetieinControl -> RE: Assignments? (10/1/2011 10:48:56 PM)
This is particularly why I don't believe in long distance relationships (for myself). Eventually, I'm going to run out of ideas and ways to keep that fire bright and I'll loose steam. But either way.... I believe in 'purposeful' assignments. Start off thinking about what you want... is it entertainment? want to get to know him/her better? want them to start thinking about others? better themselves somehow? ect. Then think about ways to get what it is that you want.... orgasm control/denial (like someone suggested); have 'em journal, and email you each entry; have them volunteer (like someone suggested); have them start a new healthy habit, like exercise.. or have them research a goal of theirs..or better yet: massage techniques. Good luck. I hope the next several weeks go by quickly.

thishereboi -> RE: Assignments? (10/2/2011 5:32:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: curious2xplore quote: A hint about the boards here...don't actually ask any questions that might lead to discussion about....you know....sex. Sharing ideas about what has been fun or worked in the past for others is frowned upon and will likely label you incompetent and unimaginative. We don't like our conversation to be too titillating. You'd best try that kind of discussion on a kink site.....oh.. wait.... I love this reply. I've been lurking on these boards for a couple years and I've noticed a surge of hostility any time anyone tries to start an idea sharing thread. There's nothing wrong with preferring not to share, but why the attacks? It makes you appear as though you're compensating for insecurities with regard to your own dominance or submissiveness. "If you were as good a Dom as I, you would know everything like I do." or "If you were a real submissive like I am, You would never have to ask" It seems to me that the ones who are usually willing to share ideas are the ones that also seem very secure in their orientations (ie., more experienced and confident). Both of you took the time to bitch because no one was helping the poor op, yet neither of you could be bothered to actually try and help her yourselves. How interesting[8\|]

thishereboi -> RE: Assignments? (10/2/2011 5:34:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I want to know what's up with these ooooold profiles suddenly popping up to post. Nothing to say all these years? And all of them with one post to their names. I call em "one hit wonders"

Kaliko -> RE: Assignments? (10/2/2011 7:30:51 AM)
Ah - you didn't look at my original posting. I most certainly did address her request for help by telling her I would be of no help! Jeez. The OP and I also corresponded on c-mail as well, where, though I couldn't offer specific suggestions, I at least commiserated with her, as I was in a similar type of situation while my partner was deployed. Just because you don't see any effort extended doesn't mean it didn't happen.

curious2xplore -> RE: Assignments? (10/2/2011 10:42:45 AM)
Nope, nothing to say all this time. Been lurking. Reading. Trying to learn on my own because I see what happens when people ask questions around here.

MistressJezebel9 -> RE: Assignments? (10/19/2011 12:14:53 AM)
Cleaning tasks -Before & After photos Lines [On paper] with photo documentation Slave Diet for set amounts of time Daily humiliation photo Daily confirmation - Have the confirm their servitude to you daily in mantra form through voice chat Chastity Clothing schedules - Have them confirm daily via cam Buttplug usage in public settings [EX: Go to work with a plug] Have them check in via cell phone photo from work showing the plug *Slave must consume their cum anytime they cum Hope those help.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Assignments? (10/19/2011 1:40:46 AM)
what kinds of strict settings are you talking about? what sorts of things have you done already? that way, we won't rehash things you've already done. hasn't anyone played games like this when a partner has been out of town? i did with my M -- it's not that big of a deal and it doesn't mean a person is unimaginative... they just have a different play style.

roscho -> RE: Assignments? (10/19/2011 6:08:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressJezebel9 Cleaning tasks -Before & After photos Lines [On paper] with photo documentation Slave Diet for set amounts of time Daily humiliation photo Daily confirmation - Have the confirm their servitude to you daily in mantra form through voice chat Chastity Clothing schedules - Have them confirm daily via cam Buttplug usage in public settings [EX: Go to work with a plug] Have them check in via cell phone photo from work showing the plug *Slave must consume their cum anytime they cum Hope those help. From the perspective of a submissive, these are really great suggestions. I personally hadn't thought about "slave diet". That is hot.

MistressJezebel9 -> RE: Assignments? (10/19/2011 2:21:57 PM)
Slave diets are wonderful especially if you're a Mistress who likes to keep her slaves in check physically. Pair it along with daily exercise and it does wonders. quote: ORIGINAL: roscho quote: ORIGINAL: MistressJezebel9 Cleaning tasks -Before & After photos Lines [On paper] with photo documentation Slave Diet for set amounts of time Daily humiliation photo Daily confirmation - Have the confirm their servitude to you daily in mantra form through voice chat Chastity Clothing schedules - Have them confirm daily via cam Buttplug usage in public settings [EX: Go to work with a plug] Have them check in via cell phone photo from work showing the plug *Slave must consume their cum anytime they cum Hope those help. From the perspective of a submissive, these are really great suggestions. I personally hadn't thought about "slave diet". That is hot.

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