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zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 2:12:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth Like comprehending the difference between a dominant and a submissive?!! While genius may have its limitations, I see stupidity is not thus far handicapped. [8\|] If you are referring to yourself here, as I just posted, we have no way of knowing. You don't have an active profile and your nic is anything but clear.

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 2:14:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse That is just rich........I guess we are supposed to just KNOW that a profile of a person who's handle starts with Master, isn't. I guess we are expected to be mind readers. Personally my mindreading skills are a little rusty.

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 2:22:16 PM)
OH MAH GAAAAAAWD... WE DON'TS KNOWZ... WHAT ON EARTHS ARE WE GONNA DO?!! WHY, IT'S LIKE THE VERY MYSTERY OF THE UNIVERSE... OH LOWRDY LOWRDY... WHAT TO DO 'CAUSE WE DON'TS KNOWZ?!! Hint: Ask (fucking GASP!!!) [8\|]

LaTigresse -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 2:24:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA OH MAH GAAAAAAWD... WE DON'TS KNOWZ... WHAT ON EARTHS ARE WE GONNA DO?!! WHY, IT'S LIKE THE VERY MYSTERY OF THE UNIVERSE... OH LOWRDY LOWRDY... WHAT TO DO 'CAUSE WE DON'TS KNOWZ?!! Hint: Ask (fucking GASP!!!) [8\|] Annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd now we are right back to the 'give a damn' factor. TADAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 2:33:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA OH MAH GAAAAAAWD... WE DON'TS KNOWZ... WHAT ON EARTHS ARE WE GONNA DO?!! WHY, IT'S LIKE THE VERY MYSTERY OF THE UNIVERSE... OH LOWRDY LOWRDY... WHAT TO DO 'CAUSE WE DON'TS KNOWZ?!! Hint: Ask (fucking GASP!!!) [8\|] Annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd now we are right back to the 'give a damn' factor. TADAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA Personally that would be not so much, how about you LaT?

Kaliko -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 2:33:46 PM)
FR ~ For the record, MasterSlave, I always thought "Male Dominant" when it came to you, as well...due, I'm sure, to your profile name and avatar. (And I'm pretty sure all my brain cells are functioning.) So, if that is incorrect, I would be curious to know. So, I suppose, I give a damn and I'm asking.

tolovetolaugh -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 2:36:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth Who the hell stands around waiting for someone for several hours? I would have been long gone. For my personal experience it was a 3 hour drive difference. I would not be waiting in anyone place, but would rather be waiting as in waiting for them to get to my town, they would be in contact off and on, and after several hours of waiting would be told they were not in fact able to come a few times, making me start to be skeptical as to which times they would show once they started running late.

gorgeoushair -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 2:36:38 PM)
@MasterSlave -- Amen to much of what you say...time will tell as to whether this Dom has the desire and motivation to alter his conduct as he says he will...Thanks for Your response... [:)]

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 3:02:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tolovetolaugh quote: ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth Who the hell stands around waiting for someone for several hours? I would have been long gone. For my personal experience it was a 3 hour drive difference. I would not be waiting in anyone place, but would rather be waiting as in waiting for them to get to my town, they would be in contact off and on, and after several hours of waiting would be told they were not in fact able to come a few times, making me start to be skeptical as to which times they would show once they started running late. I STILL wouldn't be waiting, I would be occupying my time.

tolovetolaugh -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 3:15:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth quote: ORIGINAL: tolovetolaugh quote: ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth Who the hell stands around waiting for someone for several hours? I would have been long gone. For my personal experience it was a 3 hour drive difference. I would not be waiting in anyone place, but would rather be waiting as in waiting for them to get to my town, they would be in contact off and on, and after several hours of waiting would be told they were not in fact able to come a few times, making me start to be skeptical as to which times they would show once they started running late. I STILL wouldn't be waiting, I would be occupying my time. sigh Waiting can be a purely mental concept. You can be active and occupied and still be "waiting" for something.

Endivius -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 4:10:54 PM)
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DomImus -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 4:44:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gorgeoushair So, i started this "training" relationship with a Dom i met here. He is otherwise a good Dom, but He is pretty consistently late. He has also not called me until the last second to cancel at least two meetings over the last three months. As a sub, and, as a human being with a life, i believe that i am entitled to normal consideration of my time and my life. i thought Doms were supposed to be in complete control of themselves (and be adults). Comments? Two thoughts. First, if a dominant is expected to be in complete control then it seems reasonable for a submissive to consent to complete submission. I won't waste my time with that discussion here. Secondly, he is very rude and inconsiderate if he acts in this manner - dom or sub.

coookie -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 10:16:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gorgeoushair .time will tell as to whether this Dom has the desire and motivation to alter his conduct as he says he will.. [:)] i personally find your behaviour modification plan with this dominant to be quite funny. You sound like an old schoolmarm who will not tolerate the young boys spitting wads in your classroom any longer. He is how old and i suspect has been like this for how long? I am someone who was habitually late and it took years for me to train myself to not be late .. literally ten years and that was because I didn't like the behaviour not because someone else didnt like it and it was a long process with a lot of screw ups along the way. You need to lighten up a bit on your expectations if you are going to be with him IMO

sunshinemiss -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 10:28:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko FR ~ For the record, MasterSlave, I always thought "Male Dominant" when it came to you, as well...due, I'm sure, to your profile name and avatar. (And I'm pretty sure all my brain cells are functioning.) So, if that is incorrect, I would be curious to know. So, I suppose, I give a damn and I'm asking. Ha ha... I always thought the opposite! Wonder what it says about how we draw conclusions and about preconceptions of who is what....

Iamsemisweet -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 10:39:55 PM)
Obviously it is important to the OP. If he doesn't change and she can't live with it, they will end the relationship. Why is discussion and compromise "behavior modification"? I get it, you are always late. So you probably can only be in a relationship with someone who doesn't care. OP obviously does, and if he wants her, he will change. If he doesn't, he won't. Haven't you ever tried to influence your loved ones's life in a positive way? quote: ORIGINAL: coookie quote: ORIGINAL: gorgeous hair] i personally find your behaviour modification plan with this dominant to be quite funny. You sound like an old schoolmarm who will not tolerate the young boys spitting wads in your classroom any longer. He is how old and i suspect has been like this for how long? I am someone who was habitually late and it took years for me to train myself to not be late .. literally ten years and that was because I didn't like the behaviour not because someone else didnt like it and it was a long process with a lot of screw ups along the way. You need to lighten up a bit on your expectations if you are going to be with him IMO

gorgeoushair -> RE: Dom Lateness (8/31/2011 11:13:44 PM)
@ Iamsemisweet - Thanks for your response. I, too, do not think this is "behavior modification" as it is commonly understood. If i do not let Him know that His habitual lateness and last-minute cancellations have become deal-breaker problems for me, and i value the rest of the relationship, how else is He to know that He can influence the end of the relationship? Apparently, He is interested enough in the relationship so that He is willing to alter His conduct. i feel that the relationship is worth a period of risk on my part, and i can deal with the potential of a loss if there is no change (although i would be sad). As i have said a few times in the thread, only time will tell as to how things will actually turn out on this particular issue ... a risk i am willing to take ... [8\|]

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Dom Lateness (9/1/2011 3:27:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko FR ~ For the record, MasterSlave, I always thought "Male Dominant" when it came to you, as well...due, I'm sure, to your profile name and avatar. (And I'm pretty sure all my brain cells are functioning.) So, if that is incorrect, I would be curious to know. So, I suppose, I give a damn and I'm asking. Ha ha... I always thought the opposite! Wonder what it says about how we draw conclusions and about preconceptions of who is what.... the nic and a lack of active profile did help us draw those conclusions, Sunny. [;)]

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Dom Lateness (9/1/2011 3:29:31 AM)
quote: sigh Waiting can be a purely mental concept. You can be active and occupied and still be "waiting" for something. Yeah but initially all you wrote was "waiting around for hours" you wrote nothing about waiting for him to come to town or doing other stuff while waiting. See how lack of info leads to conclusions?

coookie -> RE: Dom Lateness (9/1/2011 6:11:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet Obviously it is important to the OP. If he doesn't change and she can't live with it, they will end the relationship. Why is discussion and compromise "behavior modification"? I get it, you are always late. So you probably can only be in a relationship with someone who doesn't care. OP obviously does, and if he wants her, he will change. If he doesn't, he won't. Haven't you ever tried to influence your loved ones's life in a positive way? Yep i sure have tried to influence my loved ones before but i have never gone with the whole "you must change XYZ or i will leave". She discussed and he had said i will leave it up to you if you want to continue. It sounds like to me that she badgered him further and guilted him making him feel badly for his "conduct". Hence she is trying to change his behaviour with whinging and that usually works. [8\|] Oh and as an aside, as i already explained, I took care of my tardiness issue because I wanted to. I didn't like being late. Not because someone made me feel poorly but because I did not like always feeling rushed. I am never late anymore though it took a lot of work on my part and IF the OP's fella is going to work on it i am telling her to expect failures because it is difficult to change behaviour.

coookie -> RE: Dom Lateness (9/1/2011 6:13:22 AM)
Oh i thought you were a male as well.

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