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FirmhandKY -> Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/24/2011 6:57:06 PM)

I found this article on (of all things) a politically orientated website, by accident.

I'm not a women, and am happily married.

But Treasure and I have been watching copies of "The Millionaire Matchmaker" series from Bravo TV (someone mentioned it in a recent thread, and I got interested), so the entire thing caught my attention.

It's primarily for women over 50, and I'll admit I didn't read all of it, but what I did read seemed to be a pretty good and insightful discussion about how to go about it.

I thought it might bring up some interesting discussion on the one hand, and be helpful to some on the other hand.

It's long, and detailed, and I've extracted just enough to whet your appetite, I hope.  You need to read the entire thing:

Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband

I’m a 55-year-old widow... Did they?  Never. Not one of them. Do you have any suggestions for how I can meet my next husband?  

...

FIRST WARNING:

This column is for women over 50. It’s on the Internet, so anyone can read it, but in terms of acting on this advice, you have to be at least 50: it takes about half a century to be able to do the things I advise without getting into trouble.

...

SECOND WARNING:

This will not be brief.  It’s the distillation of a lifetime of experience and observations.

...

THIRD WARNING: IT’S A WHOLE NEW WORLD OUT THERE

It’s not 1977 — the year you and Jack got married — anymore.  It’s a whole new world.

Firm



littlewonder -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/24/2011 7:22:01 PM)

I absolutely love that article and imo it's spot on.

Even though I"m not over 50, I am a widow. I married at the age of 18 and my husband died 5 years later. We had been childhood sweethearts so the whole idea of dating was completely new to me. I learned all those steps very quickly that are mentioned in the article and found them all very useful. I like the one about bright colors attract men...when I met Master I wore a bright yellow dress lol. It worked. [:D]





HannahLynHeather -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/24/2011 7:59:45 PM)

huh. there's nothing about cruising the bus station for runaways. i guess i did it all fucking wrong.  [:D]



Hippiekinkster -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/24/2011 8:21:38 PM)

"a. Lose unneeded pounds. Even if you never meet the man of your dreams, you’ll live a healthier life and be freer of all manner of illnesses from arthritis to diabetes to heart disease to high blood pressure — to name but a few conditions where extra weight doesn’t help. There is no condition where being overweight is an advantage, except being a Sumo wrestler. Then it’s invaluable."

I've dropped about 15# since 1/1/11; my BP has gone from ~ 120/80 with Diovan to 140/80 without. And I have a hole in my right heel the size of a golf ball.
Do it for your heart.

"You won’t look genuine, authentic, or real. Subconsciously, this will translate to the male brain as this: if she’s trying to hide her gray hair, what else is she trying to hide?"

I never think that. I just (sort of) think "that's not very appealing." (Jamie Lee looks stunning)

All the makeup advice? The look I like, is when a woman has just jogged a mile or so, has some blood flowing, looks relaxed and her skin tone is warm, no stress lines, like she has just had a hit of oxytocin.

" Men are a little like bulls: they respond to bright colors."
Not me. I respond to body language and returned interest. Coyness is a turn-off.

"IGNORANT: “You look as if you know what you’re doing. I don’t buy cantaloupes often enough to know how to tell a ripe one. I’d like to serve one to friends coming over tonight. Which one would you pick?”"
(sotto voce: friends tonight? OK, well, so much for tonight. See ya around.)
ME (on the off chance she's dining alone): "That's an interesting question. My Granny told me you sniff the stem end and if it's sweet, it's a good one. My cousin's wife, who comes from Paris, thinks it's all in the netting. If you weren't busy, we could have a taste test." (seriously, this columnist is advocating lying for no good reason at all. Not very imaginative. And THAT'S a complete turn-off)

I'm not going to bother deconstructing the entire article. But she is so off-base on so many things, that one wonders if she is actually playing on Hannah's team.




Iamsemisweet -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/24/2011 8:28:15 PM)

No way would I get caught dead wearing that ugly red hat. I would rather stay single.



Tantriqu -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/24/2011 8:35:02 PM)

Lol, right from an episode of Mad Men, so it might have worked 50 years ago with the pontoon bras. Can the Mods move this to Humour?



TreasureKY -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/24/2011 8:45:57 PM)

FR:

This is what I get for staying up a bit later than Firm tonight.  [:D]

I would say the advice is okay.  My only criticism is that it's a bit condescending.  I have a hard time imagining too many women reaching the age of 50 and not already knowing much of this.  Then again, I suppose we all occasionally need to have someone else point out the obvious to us.



littlewonder -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/24/2011 9:09:02 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

FR:

This is what I get for staying up a bit later than Firm tonight.  [:D]

I would say the advice is okay.  My only criticism is that it's a bit condescending.  I have a hard time imagining too many women reaching the age of 50 and not already knowing much of this.  Then again, I suppose we all occasionally need to have someone else point out the obvious to us.



Actually a lot of women who are widowed or married to their childhood sweethearts for many many years might not know these things. They may have forgotten them or not had to use them with their first husband due to various reasons. I know A LOT of women who have had to have these reminders. I used to attend a transitioning back to life class for widows when it first happened to me and I remember many women being completely lost about such things. It was a great way to give them the kickstart to get their lives back in order.




Anaxagoras -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 6:45:57 AM)

These x ways to do x self-help articles for women always remind me of this song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WIT8El1NFoo



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 7:32:31 AM)


a "transitioning back to life" class would be awesome. for me, though, "real" widows were some of the WORST people to deal with (and still are) because they don't think my relationship was as "real" as theirs. =p
so i've mostly avoided talking with them.

this is an interesting article, though -- i glazed over some of the age-specific stuff. getting back into the dating rat race has been weird; i was never a serious dater to begin with, and i sorta stumbled into the late Person and was lucky enough to have everything be so extremely wonderful.
trying to find something on purpose seems sooooooo unbelievably complicated. =p hahaha
i've thought about joining groups for singles who go out together, just to get more experience doing that.



popularDemand -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 10:30:18 AM)

I don't need a husband at present thankyou.

pD



WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 10:40:24 AM)

Coudn't resist (my apologies to Paul Simon):

The problem is all inside your head
She said to me
The answer is easy if you
Take it logically
I'd like to help you in your struggle
To be seen
There must be fifty ways
To meet your lover

She said it's really not my habit
To intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning
Won't be lost or misconstrued
But I'll repeat myself
At the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways
To meet your lover
Fifty ways to meet your lover

[CHORUS:]
You Just shorten the dress, Bess
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself seen
Stay off the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just dangle the bait, Kate
And get yourself seen

She said it grieves me so
To see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do
To make you smile again
I said I appreciate that
And would you please explain
About the fifty ways

She said why don't we both
Just sleep on it tonight
And I believe in the morning
You'll begin to see the light
And then she kissed me
And I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways
To meet your lover
Fifty ways to meet your lover

[CHORUS]



windchymes -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 12:54:41 PM)

I'm still working on the Thirty Ways to Keep My Ex-husband The Hell Away From Me.

[8|]



ricken -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 2:00:02 PM)

31..post a pic of your tits on CM
I hear you will get all kinds of replys from real winners.....

But really, I read the article and thought it was pretty good, I'm a guy over 50. A couple of point that struck me...
I liked "wear bright colours" that ALWAYS gets my attention, but I got ADD so shiny stuff distracts me anyway.
I didn't like the idea of not going grocery shopping in the day, because you will meet someone under employed. What if the guy is already retired and hates to wast his evenings? And what if he is underemployed? At this stage of our great economic recovery doeas that really make him a bad guy, or a loser?
Also dyeing the hair, sorry not everyone can pull off gray maybe you can maybe you can't. I prefer the natural look on most women, but if it doesn't work for you put the effort in and dye it (YES at the request of my girl, my hair is getting darker through the wonders of hair dye) Most guys will realize you dye your hair.

So take it for what it's worth coming from an old guy, ladies.



windchymes -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 2:02:48 PM)

We prefer the term "color" our hair, just sayin'.



FirmhandKY -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 3:46:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ricken

Also dyeing the hair, sorry not everyone can pull off gray maybe you can maybe you can't. I prefer the natural look on most women, but if it doesn't work for you put the effort in and dye it (YES at the request of my girl, my hair is getting darker through the wonders of hair dye) Most guys will realize you dye your hair.

I think the concept is more about doing the best with who and what you are, and not attempting to look like a 18 year old sex kitten, when you are not.  I'm over 50, and while I can aesthetically appreciate such a young woman, the negatives of youth outweigh all of the aesthetic appeal.

I looked for, and have a woman who knows who she is, who she isn't, and acts and dress in a classy manner.  That was what I was looking for.  That is what I got.

Having purple hair, or dressing like a teenybopper is a turn-off to me, and I suspect a lot of "older" men.

Firm



TreasureKY -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 7:41:18 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY

Having purple hair, or dressing like a teenybopper is a turn-off to me, and I suspect a lot of "older" men.

Firm



Damn.  I was planning to go purple for Firm's birthday.  [8D]



windchymes -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 7:52:35 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

quote:

ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY

Having purple hair, or dressing like a teenybopper is a turn-off to me, and I suspect a lot of "older" men.

Firm



Damn.  I was planning to go purple for Firm's birthday.  [8D]



You know you have to now.....[:D]



FirmhandKY -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 8:02:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes

quote:

ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

quote:

ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY

Having purple hair, or dressing like a teenybopper is a turn-off to me, and I suspect a lot of "older" men.


Damn.  I was planning to go purple for Firm's birthday.  [8D]


You know you have to now.....[:D]

oh HELL NO!

Firm



TheHeretic -> RE: Thirty Ways to Meet Your Next Husband (8/25/2011 10:05:40 PM)

The wife and I have a deal on that.  When it's time for her to be a blue-haired old lady, I get to pick the shade of blue.  [:D]

On topic.  By that age, the eyes will tell the truth about them, no matter what they wear.



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