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Newbie here - 8/20/2011 12:47:38 AM

Flaveandgitte

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I've been dabbling in being a a dom for about 4 months now. I am married an so is my girlfriend. We have known each other for years and just hooked up one day. Anyway one day I asked her what she wanted. She said just fuck me. Something in my mind just went snap and I pulled her hair and made her say that she belonged to me. I can't really say I am into BDSM. I just like the thought of being in charge and controling without having to humiliate or torture. All though I have left handprints and bruises on my girlfriend but they were just marks ti remind her when she was away from me that she belonged to me. I was just wondering if there was such a thing as bdsm light? Don't mean to sound uneducated in this whole thing but I don't want to waste my time or anyone elses time if I'm into the wrong kind of website.

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RE: Newbie here - 8/20/2011 8:07:37 AM

DarkSteven

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Um. You are married and so is your gf. You are using this site to find a bi woman for the two of you.

The short answer is that there are indeed all levels of BDSM intensity. The long answer is that you might as well use any site because you'll have one hard time finding a woman willing to join a relationship with that many prior commitments.

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RE: Newbie here - 8/20/2011 8:14:40 AM

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Welcome to CM and the boards. And what Steven said, ditto and in triplicate! Does your girlfriend's husband know about you? Does your wife? How does the girlfriend explain the bruises to her husband? Be it BDSM, M/s or D/s there's still that all important element of trust and honesty that usually goes with it. If you're just in it for the kink, that's fine, nothing wrong with that. But at least be honest and say you're in it for that. A kinkster does not always a Dom make. Juuuuuuuuuuuuuust sayin'...................................

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RE: Newbie here - 8/20/2011 10:03:54 AM

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Welcome, hope you're still here next week!

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RE: Newbie here - 8/20/2011 10:51:15 AM

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Welcome To CM

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RE: Newbie here - 8/21/2011 12:26:39 PM

Flaveandgitte

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I think I may have have just experienced an Ah ha moment. I had never reallly considered the trust issue but I do see where it makes sense. As far as our spouses knowing, well they do and they don't. They both know that they haven't had sex with either of us for at least 8 months. I just don't think they are aware of the scope of what we do. Perhaps it is just a kink. I will have to take that into consideration. Perhaps I will revisit this DOM thing in a few months.

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