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LadyHugs -> RE: Contact with Prior Doms/Mentors (8/16/2011 9:00:40 PM)
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Newbie02151,
I can see that there are plenty of views on what they (in a general sense) would do and or how they see things, from their point of view. I shall add mine but, I will add that I am very old fashioned and familiar with the old protocols that were used in the early 1970's. Times were different then, didn't have the Internet, cyber this or that, cyber role play, etc.
I can only see a fella who is into 'kinky sex' with a Dom/sub theme and nothing more. However, there are those who want more out of a relationship other than focus on the sex, without including all the other parts of what makes up a human being with feelings, that have needs and desires that exceed the 'bedroom sex.' It is one sided in that area. What will the submissive female/male get out of it? A relationship doesn't end/begin at the bedroom door. It must be 24/7, 365 days a week.
Remote domination can only work if there is a commitment in the emotional, mental realms in addition to the sexual. Sex is a small fraction of a D/s relationship.
Self confessing that your interest is only bedroom, you don't want to control the rest of her life and or influence it--you have given the lack of boundaries that any relationship needs to thrive. She is on her own and in her own sphere of judgment then. If you cage two creatures only for breeding purposes then open the gates where they can go and do on their own without supervision--it can't be any fault but the one who has the ability to negotiate boundaries and or establish them. It is all a matter of personal consent anyway. What responsibility do you have to remain faithful to her? Doms should restrict themselves as much as they restrict their slaves, as far as contacts with others, etc., in my opinion.
I look at 'for sex only subs' as poor creatures who are treated like unpaid 'whores' for some man's satisfaction, rather than appreciate the woman for her total self, not bedroom performance only and then tossed in the air to float on their own and be condemed for being where the 'so called' Dom tosses her until needed again like a blow up doll, making everybody else out as the villan for keeping old communications open with others, to whom at least express interest in her, or support her when she is airborne by a Dom who only sees sex and not the woman as a whole and beyond kinky, controled, sadistic sex.
As many male Doms verses female subs/slaves -- the female has plenty to choose from. Of course, there are those to whom use the 'lifestyle' as a means to prostitute as to fulfill men's/women's fancies in a sexual manner and walk away to the next appointment at the direction of a pimp. I would have to ask myself, if I just want a kinky sex in a 'part time' status or a full time submissive--
Just my opinions,
Lady Hugs
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