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long time no play - 5/18/2006 7:47:18 PM

unowned1

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hello all havent been on in awhile i see things have changed on the site a little i have a delima i am in a relationship now with someone that is very vanilla. i find myself going to web sites that feature latex and domination and cant shake the urges. He knows i like the darker side of sex, love and life, but he is afraid he will hurt me. I asked him to spank me and he tapped my ass. I kno i shouldnt be upset but i am discouraged. I want to feel things and have experiences but how do i open him up to my world

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RE: long time no play - 5/18/2006 9:49:59 PM

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I understand your dilema.

Thats why so many of us have to seek far for "partners in crime". I hope you find what you want.

If I can assist you in any way, feel free. Funny, I had a nice switcher that visited me, came from Florida. Small world...

Be well.

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RE: long time no play - 5/18/2006 11:36:59 PM

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hello all havent been on in awhile i see things have changed on the site a little i have a delima i am in a relationship now with someone that is very vanilla. i find myself going to web sites that feature latex and domination and cant shake the urges. He knows i like the darker side of sex, love and life, but he is afraid he will hurt me. I asked him to spank me and he tapped my ass. I kno i shouldnt be upset but i am discouraged. I want to feel things and have experiences but how do i open him up to my world

You can encourage him to read a variety of articles, blogs and so forth and see if it sparks a bit of interest and calms his fears of hurting you. Quite often though being into kink is kind of like being pregnant, you either are or aren't. Good luck though.

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RE: long time no play - 5/19/2006 5:42:01 AM

NaturalMaster1

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perhaps you could convince him to watch as you scene with a Master and let him see how it works and what you need/

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RE: long time no play - 5/19/2006 6:20:42 AM

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Greetings, Please belive me speaking from the voice of experience..you can not make some one what they are not... been there.... there is something internal tht makes us a Dom or submissive my nature it can't be fabrecated or just book learned...you will never be Fully content or complete with out a partner that not only understands who you are But who meets those needs

just being Frank :)

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RE: long time no play - 5/19/2006 6:40:03 AM

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In my opinion, you can't make a vanilla man a Dom. He either has the interest or he doesn't. If he is open minded perhaps you may suggest he let you play with a Dom on occasion.

i am in an open ltr with a vanilla man who is perfectly comfortable letting me have a Dom. He understands my need to serve and allows me the freedom to look elsewhere to meet those needs.

It's all about communtication. Some have enough communication to be honest with eachother, some think about it and are miserable because they can't act on it, and still others do it behind the backs of those they love ( it works for some-i prefer the open honest route) A person loves you for all of you and either accepts you or he doesn't. They are out there. i was married for 9 years to a vanilla man and was MISERABLE. Now i am engaged and in a very supportive open relationship in which i can be myself always. Ahhh.

Good luck to you sweetie,
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RE: long time no play - 5/19/2006 8:43:56 AM

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Welcome Unowned,

I have a friend who claims to be a Dom, but in reality he isn't but tries to be for his sub. He hits very light too and always has done that. It's more like his sub tops from the bottom.

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RE: long time no play - 5/20/2006 12:51:16 AM

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Why shouldn't you be upset or discouraged? Seeking what you love is the best thing you can do, so the only question left is whether you can give it up for him. I doubt he can change for you.

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RE: long time no play - 5/20/2006 1:10:26 AM

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Hi there good luck for the future and I hope you get what you came here for and have fun.

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RE: long time no play - 5/20/2006 1:16:09 AM

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Unfortunately, I happen to agree...I doubt if he will be able to change for you. I had a friend in the same situation, although she is married to the man. In order to satisfy her needs, she bottoms for women while he watches. It works for them. I don't think it would for me, but you may want to think about it.

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