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DavidLee44UK -> limiting oneself (7/4/2011 11:01:18 AM)

i see it here a lot

im not looking for this don't want that only chat with peopled in my time zone

i only do this

limiting oneself all around

3 yrs ago i started chatting on alt with a sub from florida i visted cple times then moved out there

still use home as a holiday home

yet still see some only wanting local or in us

some places in usa take longer to get to in other parts usa than takes to fly from uk

its sad people limit themselves

life with out limiting yourself can be more fun




myotherself -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 11:07:56 AM)

I understand what you're saying, but sometimes people are limited by circumstance.

For example, a few years ago I would have happily moved to anywhere in the UK to be with the right person (although I prefer the North East). But circumstances changed and now I can't move because of family issues.

The other side of the coin is that I've had a couple of long-distance relationships and they haven't worked because, for me, I need a lot of 'skin time'. I'm not just talking about sex or play, but I need to be in the same room as someone, to do the whole 'going to the cinema and holding hands' stuff. That's really tough if you're long distance, and particularly if one (or both) are on a limited budget.

I would love to be free to move anywhere at any time, but at the moment it's just not possible. Fortunately all my waiting paid off and I found Master locally, so it all worked out in the end [:D]



needlesandpins -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 11:08:12 AM)

face the fact that not everyone wants a long distance relationship, or can afford to just jump on a plane. people have limits for a reason and you should just respect it and not question it. there are plenty of people in the world to choose from so move on.

needles



DavidLee44UK -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 11:17:20 AM)

needles was using that as a personal example

can i use yours next time lol

i was just using it as an example




needlesandpins -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 11:44:58 AM)

doesn't matter what example you use, the facts remain the same. people have their own reason for their own choices. the only person limited by them is the person who makes them. if it's a problem for that person then they can change their limits. it's very simple.

needles



LadyPact -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 11:55:44 AM)

I fully agree with you, needles.

Where one person considers it limiting oneself, another says they aren't willing to waste their time.  There's nothing missed by not wishing to chat or email with someone that they have no interest in or possibly don't even like.  This really is a website.  Not a charity ward.



DavidLee44UK -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 12:20:35 PM)

lol i didnt mean like that

but ok

lets say your sub said ages ago i could never be her sub im just not good enough lol

this place all after is an argument lol

came back because i thought had something to offer obv not




LadyConstanze -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 12:27:53 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DavidLee44UK

lol i didnt mean like that

but ok

lets say your sub said ages ago i could never be her sub im just not good enough lol

this place all after is an argument lol

came back because i thought had something to offer obv not




You throw out something, some people will agree with you, others will not. What you want is not what everybody else wants, you know some people are fine with long distance relationships, others are not, a few people gave their reasons why it would not work for them, why doesn't their opinion count?

For example if somebody has a job that won't let them chat real time with somebody in another time zone, they aren't limiting themselves, it's just that they know what their life is like and they want a person who fits into their life. Some people want a partner nearby, nothing wrong with it. Our tastes are different, if you know what you want you should go for it and not compromise, if I want chips, boiled potatoes won't do, if I want a nice glass of red wine, a glass of Stella won't do... People have different preferences, nobody says your preferences are wrong, the same way their preferences might not be wrong, your preferences are right for you, theirs are right for them - live and let live.



WinsomeDefiance -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 12:30:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DavidLee44UK

lol i didnt mean like that

but ok

lets say your sub said ages ago i could never be her sub im just not good enough lol

this place all after is an argument lol

came back because i thought had something to offer obv not




So because people answered your post in a way you didn't like, you came to the conclusion that you have nothing to offer?  That's pretty fucked up reasoning...



Termyn8or -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 12:37:34 PM)

I think the point is that the distinction must be made between the limitaions imposed by reality and those one imposes arbitrarily on one's self.

For example, I am not stopping over for a beer, I don't even have a passport.

However alot of it is personal preference. I'd like to find someone with no personal preferences, they would be about one in six billion.

T^T



LadyPact -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 12:41:12 PM)

Your logic is failed on that one.  The subs that I have didn't try to convince Me through empty words on a screen.  It's never been a case of what they said.  It's always based on what they do.  The one who is collared to Me now drove three hours just to meet Me the first time at the club I was going to the next weekend.  The last one that wanted to join My household drove from LA two hours each month just to be at the munch that I attended.  I had one who attended the last munch in Fairbanks, just because I said I was going to be there.

Anybody can write something on the internet.  It's what they do that matters.





tiggerspoohbear -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 12:44:43 PM)

Just. Not. Worth. It.

'Nuff said.



DavidLee44UK -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 12:53:47 PM)

99% people acting like they own the place nuff said

got nothing to do with anything

if i was talking bout baseball and someone talked about f1 no complaint

your so easy to spot

lol



LadyConstanze -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 1:01:07 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DavidLee44UK

99% people acting like they own the place nuff said

got nothing to do with anything

if i was talking bout baseball and someone talked about f1 no complaint

your so easy to spot

lol



I forgot, you want only people who agree with you. Sorry that I am not a mirror.

As for easy to spot, I was friendly and I tried to help you to put things into perspective as to why people might not agree with your take, I guess you want to play the victim card again, everybody is mean to you because they don't want a long distance relationship... Have a pity party all on your own!



needlesandpins -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 1:09:17 PM)

you know i don't think it matters what you put in any thread you start, when people reply you will come up with something different. people respond to what you put, in your fashion, but it's never good enough for you. if you want different answers then word what you write differently, but stop blaming us for not getting what you are talking about. we are not here to play guessing games.

needles



DavidLee44UK -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 1:53:59 PM)

lol needles

Developmental dyspraxia is an impairment or immaturity of the organisation of movement. It is an immaturity in the way that the brain processes information, which results in messages not being properly or fully transmitted. The term dyspraxia comes from the word praxis, which means 'doing, acting'. Dyspraxia affects the planning of what to do and how to do it. It is associated with problems of perception, language and thought.

im sorry if me having problems with this sorta thing is an inconveniace

just ignore me but my thought processes go 3 times the speed of my writing

as lady gaga says i was born this way




needlesandpins -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 2:12:14 PM)

oh stop it already. my son has the same thing and manages enough to make himself understood. he also uses word to type in first and reads it out loud to himself. what you won't find him doing is making excuses as to why he doesn't say what HE means. he most certainly doesn't blame others for not understanding him. he's 17 and does not play the victim card.

i usually have alot of empathy for people who struggle in forums and such and will defend them to the tee, but seriously you do take the mick with it.

needles



DavidLee44UK -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 2:15:02 PM)

lol needles

so is an audi the same as a bmw

if your son has it you know it effects all people diff but as i said IGNORE me as what gonna do with you



Termyn8or -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 2:20:44 PM)

"Developmental dyspraxia ........."

It's nice that you're upfront about that. It explains a few things. Not quite all, but some.

I know what it's like to have the mind going at mach six, thoughts get jumbled. Over here, generally intoxicants take care of that problem. At times my job causes it, and upon getting home I take a half an hour and don't speak to anyone or think about anything. Lately my job is not as stressful after I took a few steps in that direction including asserting a few things. Like telling the boss that I was tired of his theatrics and whining. The guy really doesn't handle stress all that well, I try to be understanding but I have limits.

There's that word. You probably did not express your meaning quite accurately, and I have had problems with that at times. You see, I don't remember words much, I remember concepts. I have to remind myself that people who read me are not inside my head.

So I assume that you didn't mean you have absolutely no limitations, nor that others shouldn't as well. This is of course, impossible. If you have no limits, say when it comes to sex, you would have to be bi to start, and willing to get it on with anything or anyone. I mean either sex, lizards, a hole in a tree, whatever. Few are that "unlimited". The fewer the better I think.

Now if you're talking about the profiles here, I think I see what you mean. I don't know how it works for you but every time I get on it gives a randon short profile. Many of them say "NO GUYS", NO DOG HATERS", "NO WHOKNOWS".

Is that what you meant ? I don't know because you weren't specific enough. As good as I might be at figuring peiople out from their words, I cannot read minds. Nobody can as far as I know. This is important when you bitch about something. If you aren't specific, people can easily think that you are calling all of us <insert negative adjective here>.

That's my oppinion at this time. Take it with a grain of salt. (get unrefined salt, it's much better for you)

T^T



DavidLee44UK -> RE: limiting oneself (7/4/2011 2:27:29 PM)

yup lots profiles have no this no that no the other

people need new experiences its how we grow

its kinda like people saying i dont like suishi without them trying it

and with the only in time zone there limiting themselves because if things are right people can get round most things

i only used my example as an example what can be achieved if you say yes and not NO



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