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MaamJay -> RE: pain tolerance (7/4/2011 12:20:04 AM)
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Well a slow build up with pain play usually helps. So instead of someone just getting into heavy blows straight off as you might have been able to cope with before, starting soft and gradually intensifying once the skin is warmed up and pink helps you endure more. So does stopping after a few blows (I usually make it every 5) and running a hand over the area, to the sub it feels as though the hand is rubbing out or erasing the pain. That usually allows them to take more too. Playing to a safe word call of "orange" meaning that's about as intense a single blow as I can take right now is also very effective, as it leaves the Dominant in control. They can back off the intensity a little, and then gradually build it again (assuming all other indicators, skin colour and condition for example, indicate this is feasible). Much better than going straight to RED which often leaves the sub feeling bad, as if they have failed. A final pain play suggestion is to try a different implement, avoid stingy/whippy (such as a cane or singletail) and go for more thud (such as a full fall flogger without knots or braids).
There are of course, LOTS of other forms of play that don't entail so much pain which can also be very satisfying in terms of space-inducement. Fine needles, judicious use of wax etc are often not anywhere near as painful as envisaged. I've not perved your profile, but many find various forms of bondage pleasurable, and predicament bondage is more of a mental torture than a physical one. Hot and cold give great sensations, especially when applied to different sides of the body. Similarly with pain and pleasure eg tweak or clamp one nipple and suck the other ... especially if the sub is blindfolded, it can get to be a real mindfuck. Just a few ideas here!
Ma'am Jay aka violet[A]
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