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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 7:41:20 AM

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* stares at Greedy trying to make her feel uncomfortable *

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 7:49:13 AM

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not working......lol

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 8:54:39 AM

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Is he deaf? A lot of deaf people have to take in the situation through their eyes instead of their ears. They tend to stare more than the general hearing population.

Really???!!!!!! that's my excuse!!!!!! I am deaf that's why I stare.....

umm.... does that work with why I have tight pants when I stare as well? ;)

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 8:56:17 AM

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For you, KoM? yeah, that excuse 'works'

*read: is totally ok*

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 9:12:37 AM

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Close, but I go tit for dat: if he looks lingeringly at a hot chick, he has to search the crowd for a hot dude for me. And yes, for both of us, normal to look, rude to stare or make more than an remark like, 'You'd look nice in that colour.' When I got rare beef behind closed doors, I ain't looking for raw meat.

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It is not normal to stare for a long time at anyone except Peon.

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 9:22:10 AM

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I think if your master just stares at other girls in whatever they have on or what they don't have it's ok aslong as he doesn't do anything else with another girl. If he wants to have fun with other girls then you should both sit down and talk about it.
k I'll say this: an ex of Mine who's in the bdsm scene looks at me when I'm at fetish parties and completly nude and even if he has a girlfriend he has no problem making them feel unwanted by checking me out.
My only problem is that ok 1 he's an ex of mine and the fact I'm with a guy for 3 years now, well it does freak me out!
I love my b.f. who is also my Master so much.
It really pisses me off when a girl he has dated see's him checking me out and they know I'm his ex but it still has them freak out.
I know I would be if my b.f. constantly looked at his ex at every fetish we were maybe both at!!
If anyone has any suggestions with how I could deal with it, I'd be very happy thanks!

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 9:46:45 AM

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Ahhhh, seriously. If it bothers you and they are doing nothing illegal.......avoid being where they are. Or get over it.

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 1:38:18 PM

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I have been known to do it, it's a bad habit. I plead not guilty because the missus knows it just means I think they're somewhat objectively attractive, not that anything's ever going to come of it, and it doesn't reflect on my opinion of her at all.

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 1:49:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: Sunny27

I think if your master just stares at other girls in whatever they have on or what they don't have it's ok aslong as he doesn't do anything else with another girl. If he wants to have fun with other girls then you should both sit down and talk about it.
k I'll say this: an ex of Mine who's in the bdsm scene looks at me when I'm at fetish parties and completly nude and even if he has a girlfriend he has no problem making them feel unwanted by checking me out.
My only problem is that ok 1 he's an ex of mine and the fact I'm with a guy for 3 years now, well it does freak me out!
I love my b.f. who is also my Master so much.
It really pisses me off when a girl he has dated see's him checking me out and they know I'm his ex but it still has them freak out.
I know I would be if my b.f. constantly looked at his ex at every fetish we were maybe both at!!
If anyone has any suggestions with how I could deal with it, I'd be very happy thanks!

Whoever let you get away is an idiot. Just sayin.

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 6:12:56 PM

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I wouldnot like him doing the slack jawed glassy eyed brain dead duuuuh kind of thing, but I am ok with my man looking. And even pointing out. I look at women an I comment too, and it's never bothered me unless he made me feel insecure, for example saying she's so hot he'd do her on the spot an we haven't had sex all month, or something like that.

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 6:19:29 PM

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I wake up at least once a week in the middle of the night to find Shorey an inch away from my face just staring at me.
He gets a kick out of it especially when I practically jump out of the bed.
It's fucking creepy.

Staring at strangers in public is even creepier.

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 7:54:09 PM

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I guess I'm odd. I've no idea if Firm stares at other women when we are out. I suppose I'd have to be staring at him to notice if he was looking intently elsewhere. I've no idea if anyone stares at me. Again, I'd think I would have to be guilty of looking at them long enough in order to notice if they were staring at me.

I assume that means that I don't care.

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 9:00:59 PM

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[quoteI I've no idea if anyone stares at me. [/quote]

I'd be staring..... and likely doiing alittle slut dreaming at the same time ;)

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 9:55:05 PM

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I look. He looks. We look together and he enjoys watching me lose all higher mental functioning at the sight of a really pretty lady. He thinks it's hysterical to watch Bruce Willis or Vin Diesel movies with me. He doesn't like guys so they do nothing for him but apparently my repeated muttering of "Gawd, soooo hot" to the TV is adorkable and cracks him up. Neither of us stare. That's just rude. But c'mon. It doesn't take that much talent to admire without staring and making people nervous.

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 11:18:09 PM

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The consensus seems to be that some people think it's ok and some people don't. Which probably means that I can at least accept that it's ok for some people, so maybe it could be ok for me. He's not from another country but he does stare at other things too, like anything remotely artistic or beautiful. He does have really bad eyesight that his glasses correct, so sometimes I think that might have something to do with why I catch him looking twice. He doesn't really stare for a long time, just looks. I've never seen someone he looked at notice, so I'm the only one who's uncomfortable.

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RE: staring - 6/19/2011 11:45:53 PM

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I should say, though, that he doesn't look just because. He's definitely looking because he's attracted.

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RE: staring - 6/20/2011 1:25:19 AM

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The consensus seems to be that some people think it's ok and some people don't. Which probably means that I can at least accept that it's ok for some people, so maybe it could be ok for me. He's not from another country but he does stare at other things too, like anything remotely artistic or beautiful. He does have really bad eyesight that his glasses correct, so sometimes I think that might have something to do with why I catch him looking twice. He doesn't really stare for a long time, just looks. I've never seen someone he looked at notice, so I'm the only one who's uncomfortable.

Couple this with your other thread about him now wanting to be "somewhere between monogamous and poly" Id smack him across the face with a large fish. But then I dont tolerate people who say the this is how i am bullshit, obviously not because its only just recently bothering you... why is it recently bothering you? its most likely not innocent looking anymore.

I would explain to him point blank it makes you uncomfortable and with the talks you had recently, it makes you feel insecure and not trust the foundation of your relationship. Your already having a hard time dealing with him pushing for a poly relationship.... I mean he comes from the im monogamous camp to the Im not monogamous anymore, and now is looking at more women in an i find you attractive kind of way, its not innocent looking anymore.... its, I wonder if i can convince this chick to come home with us to fuck kind of way.... I can see why it makes you uncomfortable and i would explain to him the above that its doesnt seem like innocent looking it seems like your cruising for a third regardless of wither or not your second will stay in place afterwords.

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RE: staring - 6/20/2011 4:16:55 AM

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Our rule of thumb is that browsing the menu is fine (but preferably done discreetly), but ordering from it is a no-no.

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RE: staring - 6/20/2011 4:44:01 AM

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He doesn't really stare for a long time, just looks. I've never seen someone he looked at notice, so I'm the only one who's uncomfortable.

Well in that case ignore everything I said about it being rude; your OP very much gave the impression that he was staring for long periods in a noticeable way.

If he's not disturbing the people he's looking at then it's not rude.

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RE: staring - 6/20/2011 4:45:27 AM

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