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VvShadowspawnvV -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/15/2006 7:37:26 PM)

i love to be leashed- am proud to be on His leash.  It basically says, "Look! she belongs to Him!"  It isn't about degradation for Master- it's about keeping me with Him... sometimes i ask Him to please leash me so i don't get lost.  =)

'course, this is just me.

becca



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/15/2006 8:45:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CmotDribbler

We don't use our Leash for degredation, it is both a symbol of her position to mine, that I am in control and i lead her, and a way of making sure she stays close when her mind starts to wander.


I like the interpretation of the leash from Cmots point of view..I have not experienced such as yet,but I would not fully rule it out until I first gave it a go..plus I would like the idea that he would be in essence showing the world I was his and he was proud of that fact..Now with that being said I would not like to be in a public arena unless it was a lifestyle event where it to my mind is an appropriate setting...this is just how it pertains to me and no others..be well...Tempting



puppygirlME -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/15/2006 9:04:26 PM)

i absolutely love being led on a leash. i always have thought of it as being closer to the person holding it.i am a submissive(for now) and it makes me feel owned and possessed,but at the same time, i feel like my Sir is leading me around,showing off His property. we actually dont use it in play, more so in public. but ofcourse everybody is different...

maybe you should talk to your Sir and ask him 1.-what does it mean to Him to have you on the leash? and 2.-is it strictly for play or is it for other times too?

Depending on your relationship and how things work w/ you and your Sir, maybe He will let you pick the leash out? im thinking if you pick it, it will help you think of it as something pretty, like a new necklace or something. and then you wont have a negative conotation(sp) w/ it. just a thought!

~steph



Misstoyou -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/15/2006 9:42:04 PM)

My submissive, frankly, doesn't like being on leash. He thinks it denegrates his obedience as my submissive. He always says, "You don't need that," and tries to lean away as I'm hooking the heavy duty leather dog lead to his collar (appropriate to his 6'2" 175 frame.) My response is always the same as well, a reassuring, "Yes, I know," and then the point...I *want* to.



kittinSol -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/15/2006 9:51:14 PM)

Hi. I think it's fair to say my very first serious BDSM experience happened when a Dom I had traveled over the Atlantic to meet with snapped shut a leash around the collar he had sent me a few weeks before.

I doubt anyone noticed, however it was done at the airport, straight upon my arrival. Later, much later, as we were chatting (lovingly around a bottle of wine) he told me that as soon I'd accepted to be led away, only with a slight flinch (I was a complete novice), he knew I was his.

And he was right.



LadyHugs -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/15/2006 9:54:19 PM)

Dear Lisa976, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I would first put for the question to the dominant as to the "intent" behind the leash.  Often it is harmless.
 
Leash is a form of bondage.  It is a link to and from the dominant, to which many other forms of bondage is where the slave/submissive is bound but, once the rope is on--the link is broken.
 
The "intent"  can be a form of pride, rather than humiliation; although it may be a variety of reasons.  The best is to establish what the leash is for.
 
In addition, just because the leash is attached, that does not mean it is held by the dominant.  Sometimes it is a bondage reminder, a handy gag as to put into your mouth, should you get chatty.  The leash can be threaded through rings on the wrist and or ankle cuffs and or used as a chain belt to 'lock' the wrists into a "waist chain" or used as leg shackles.  Sometimes, I've used leashes to bind, to where cuffs behind the back to the ankles, as the slave kneels.  Instant bondage equipment that holds many uses.  Leather leashes also create impromptu bondage as well.
 
It may also be folded into a loop, as to give you a strap on the back side.  It may be the leather that caresses your skin to awaken your senses.
 
Other than the obvious--it may hold in store much more.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



Lisa976 -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/16/2006 5:08:23 PM)

Thank you to all who answered me on this,,,and it has helped alot,,,i am not as "panicked" about the leash,,,it has given me more thought on the concept and more meaning to it then i orginally had,,,thank you



Slipstreme -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/16/2006 5:20:52 PM)

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as far as the inference that it is supposed to "degrade"~this slave has a lot of respect for man's "best friend", in that she has had many canine best friends who deserved more respect than several humans she knows.  she has never put a four-legged canine on a leash to "drag him around", protect, guide or guard OTHERS from him, but to protect, guide and guard him FROM others, himself, or situations that would be harmful or damaging, as well as a constant reminder of who is in control.


The same view I have of dogs.



bandit25 -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/16/2006 5:25:35 PM)

I've only used a leash in play.  It was ok...but very hot for Master.



OsideGirl -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/16/2006 5:32:23 PM)

I HATE HATE HATE the leash. I fell that it interferes with my service and implies that I don't have enough self control to maintain my place with out something physical enforcing it.

My goal in service is to be proactive in meeting his needs. That means that by the time he wants to turn to me and ask me to get him water, I'm already standing there with it. Not possible when leashed.

Master understands and doesn't use the leash. The exception was at Folsom when I kept getting seperated from him by all the large men. That situation was understandable to me.



Estring -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/16/2006 5:40:22 PM)

There are many who love being at the end of a leash. You obviously are not one of them. I would suggest trying it for your Master and see how you feel after doing it. Sometimes the reality is not as bad as you imagine it would be.
If you still hate it, then you and your Master need to talk. 



BeachMystress -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/16/2006 9:43:21 PM)


Since you've never tried leash play, you do not know if you'll like it or not. I've had many things that squicked me at first thought that I ended up enjoying quite a bit. Discuss your fears with your Dominant. Reserve the right to make leash play a hard limit if you really can't deal with it.

You might want to consider why you feel that leash play makes someone into property or a dog.  What makes a sub into property is a collar and must be agreed to by both parties. (I realize you're new and still making sense of all the new stimuli and emotions engendered by power play. You may want to read up on collars to understand them and ownership a bit better. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Beachs_Dominion/links/Collars___informatio_001105833258/ ) I've been using a leash on my husband since our second play date. He was definitely not my property at that time. Some newer subs just react poorly to play collars, leashes and obeying in public. They seem to be "ego block points." It can be very hard to give yourself up to an other's will. As time goes on and the submissive gets used to obeying, often times those ego blocks dissolve and the sub takes pleasure in what once seemed like degradation to them. You may want to visit this site http://latches.webslaves.com/ which is a support group of submissive women by submissive women.  Good luck on your submissive journey.



slavejali -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/16/2006 9:45:07 PM)

I love being leashed, its an amazing feeling for me.



IronBear -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/17/2006 2:57:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Lisa976

i am new to the D/s world, but am learning slowly,,,,,however there is one thing that i am having a very hard time with,,,,my Sir has mentioned a few times about having me on a leash at certain times in play,,,i define myself as a sub and NOT a slave and to me the idea of a leash makes me feel like i am just property or a dog,,which i am neither,,,so for my sanity and to please Him i am trying to figure this out,,,so here is the question do you use a leash in play and if so do you ever feel degraded (in a way not meant to be)? or are you proud of being lead around by your Sir/Master??


I think you haqve defined you relationship sufficiently lass you are a sub and not a slave thus you have limits which you can enforce with your feet if necessary but before that I'd prefer to see you talking this out with your Dom.. One thing you could try is to be leashed privately at home for lets say 15 minutes and learn what it does to you. Then you have your experience to support your stance.



twicehappy -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/17/2006 4:36:34 AM)

Being leashed may not be for you. Depending on the context it is used in it could be to make you feel degraded or it could be to show you off and keep you close like a prized possesion.

Personally it makes me feel comforted, warm and proud. There is no question of the fact that i am owned and prized on the end of my owners leash.



kyraofMists -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/17/2006 5:01:01 AM)

I have not been leased before, but I have this really strong desire to be.  Not necessarily during play, but at a lifestyle event.  I find the imagery to be really hot...  me being led around by him on a leash.  I would not find it degrading; as others have said it is the constant connection to him.  Touching is something that I have an intense desire for and it would be a way to be constantly "touched" by him.

Knight's kyra



Lisa976 -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/17/2006 8:46:25 PM)

i have talked with my Sir about the issue,,was just trying to get others insight,,and will definitly be trying this to make sure that it is not just a head trip for me,,,there are few things that i would say no to without trying,,but thank you all



LadyJezOfTheLake -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/17/2006 8:59:18 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lisa976

i am new to the D/s world, but am learning slowly,,,,,however there is one thing that i am having a very hard time with,,,,my Sir has mentioned a few times about having me on a leash at certain times in play,,,i define myself as a sub and NOT a slave and to me the idea of a leash makes me feel like i am just property or a dog,,which i am neither,,,so for my sanity and to please Him i am trying to figure this out,,,so here is the question do you use a leash in play and if so do you ever feel degraded (in a way not meant to be)? or are you proud of being lead around by your Sir/Master??


I enjoy My daily walks on a leash with tinkerbell and Master Ken. I don't feel degraded but loved as a human pet (bye the way I am a pussy cat not a dog, and I always get tangled up in my leash and sometimes trip tinkerbell....hee hee)

Lady Jezabel Of The Lake



ownedgirlie -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/17/2006 9:32:31 PM)

I love the leash. To be so tightly connected to him, to be literally led by him...feels so secure, so intimate, so wonderful.  My focus solely on him as I follow at his heel...the world disappears. There is just Master and I...connected.



Sinergy -> RE: Question about "leashes"? (5/17/2006 9:45:53 PM)

Hello,

There was something so lovingly fetching about my submissive with a collar on her neck, and a chain dog leash wrapped through the ring in the collar and hooked on the handle.

Sort of the BDSM version of the necktie.

I would have to agree with the person that said if it is not for you it is not for you, but it says two things to me.

1)  This person is owned by somebody.

2)  If it is on my submissive, she has given me the freedom and power to grasp the handle and drag her over to the wall for a lovely spanking.

I have owned a few dogs, and I never considered them slaves.  The trick to getting a dog to do incredibly stupid pet tricks is to realize that they have their own dog thing going on, and I needed to learn how to think like them to get them to do things like twirl in circles on their hind legs or retrieve 1 pound hand weights from the bottom of the pool.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy



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