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Lockit -> Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/21/2011 4:09:46 PM)
As a mother that didn't get support for my children for over fourteen years, while he kept a place in Fl. and one in another state and another state just wouldn't do anything to help... I find this link very pleasing. Not only did he have to pay the back support, but he had to pay interest! When my youngest was 16, I started getting small monthly payments on the almost ninety thousand he owed me which should have been tripled because he lied about his situation... I was very happy. I can collect for ten years after my youngest turns 18. So I still have a few more years, but he will never pay it all. I may have to check into things and see if I can get it all. My kids suffered... as a family we suffered... and its time that dead beat parents learned... sooner or later... they just might catch you and take everything you have to pay your debt. Yet, after not paying and creating such suffering at times... your debt to them will never be paid. Kudos to those that made this right and may you and others continue to find these parents and make them pay! If you are a dead beat parent... shame on you. Those owed... listen and laugh/weep/rejoice, there is hope! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/05/21/struggling-mother-gets-93_n_865127.html?icid=maing-grid7%7Caim%7Cdl1%7Csec1_lnk2%7C64629

littlewonder -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/21/2011 4:42:21 PM)
here in PA when you go to sell a home in your name they do a record check at the local courthouse for not only to make sure the title is clear but also to check if you have any outstanding judgments or late child support payments. If you do you can't sell your home until those are satisfied or must be paid back from settlement proceeds at closing. It was one of the things in the contract my realtor told me about when I was signing papers to sell my house. I think here in PA that's a great idea so at least some parents can at least get what they are owed.

Termyn8or -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 12:00:59 AM)
What a prick Lockit. It's one thing when the guy can't afford it........ Ma had to work full time because Dad had to skiddaddle. The heat was too hot for him. He could've taught OBL how to hide. He did have time to call and harrass us though. The court awarded a whopping $100 a month for two kids, but then that was in about 1970. So he comes back later when things had cooled down, if you know what that means. Well my Mother is one of the strongest Women I've ever met, and she got all that back money from him. It was like dollars from heaven and you know what she did with it right away ? Absolutely nothing. She was already taking care of business and this became a bit of a cushion. Pact rat that she is, she thought about the future. But from getting nothing to getting a bunch of money, well the advantages are clear. And she didn't need to go to court to get it. See, she took us kids to Grammas and Grampas almost every weekend. The olman would've been living in his frikkin car (when he got back) if he didn't pay. Grampa would not put up with that shit. Everyone doesn't have the option to do that, but, well she did. The rest is a different part of history. Take the money and figure out the best way to spend it. I would say put it away but money is the worst thing to have right now. Back then it was different. All that shit back then was really bad, but it taught me. Alot. How things can happen even without malice, and how other things happen because of neglect. Now I almost agree with Judge Judy (fuckin bitch) that accidents are CAUSED. Nothing "just happens". But I also believe that no court can really fix it. Remember when they gave you money as a kid and said "Don't spend it all in one place" ? Well that's the worst advice ever. DO spend it all in one place. You need four thousand loaves of fucking bread ? No. But if you need a better car or something like that.... A deep freeze. Whatever. A lump sum of money can save you money by being able to pay cash, to not pay interest. Gloat as much as you want, but figure it's like a Christmas club account. (do not ask me about that, well go ahead but if I get political too bad) The crux of what I am blathering about is that anytime you get a lump sum of money, don't just consider the value of the dollars. Consider the value of the lump. Don't spend an extra dollar a day on bullshit. What can that MASS of money do for you ? Get a better deal on a car ? The deepfreeze, well how about a side of beef to put in it ? It's called purchasing power, and that's how JG Wentworth makes money, selling purchasing power. T^T T^T

DomImus -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 12:44:30 AM)
Kudos to the folks who helped that woman collect the back support. It would have helped more in real time but at least they corrected the situation. I paid my support in full and on time every week. Often in cash to save her a trip to the bank. Even bumped it up a bit as my income increased without any court order nonsense. I was joking with the ex a few weeks ago that while I may not pay support to her anymore I still pay. I actually pay more now directly to my daughter in the form of expenses and pocket money (college student). I would like to make a quick tip of the hat to every non deadbeat dad who does pay his support on time each week/month and is still treated like shit by his custodial parent ex wife. These women are even more disgusting and reprehensible than deadbeat dads will ever be. Thank God my ex is still one of my best friends and made sure that our daughter was the focus. It was never about us.

SexyBossyBBW -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 1:47:05 AM)
I don't speak ill of the lil one's (henceforth adressed as thingie/it) other parent, and don't chase the other parent for support. I had the lil one, and can raise it on my own. When thingie wants to go over, I let it, and most of the time, I do the dropping off to make it happy. I let it think daddie's as kool as he appears, because it is fairly smart, and will one day learn what being a MAN means. I tell thingie about my dad all of the time, by the way. Thingie, and myself are owed close to $6Gs (for a few years), because I've always made more than it's dad, I reproduced of my own volition, and I absolutely HATE going to courts. Having said that, I'm very proud of, and happy for the mom who got this judgement. M

Termyn8or -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 2:29:19 AM)
"I paid my support in full and on time every week. Often in cash to save her a trip to the bank. Even bumped it up a bit as my income increased without any court order nonsense. " That's what a Man does. I don't think any further commentary is needed. T^T

KatyLied -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 5:46:56 AM)
There is no excuse for not helping to support your kids. If you are truly unable to work to get an income, then help the custodial parent in other ways. I get irked over people who won't support their children and/or get angry when they have to help with their kids' expenses.

LaTigresse -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 5:53:31 AM)
Ya.......I could pay off my little farm, buy more land, pay off the car, all other debt, and have some left over for a fabulous vacation........if there was any possibility of collecting all past due child support and interest from the sperm donor worthless fuck. However, decades of drugs, booze and living on the fringes of society has destroyed any viable brain cells he might have had. Last I knew he was found, wandering on the beach, clueless as to who he was or why he was there. They hospitalized him to try and save him. I doubt there is much left worth saving. I ain't quitting my day job just yet...

SternSkipper -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 6:38:20 AM)
quote: As a mother that didn't get support for my children for over fourteen years, while he kept a place in Fl. and one in another state and another state just wouldn't do anything to help.. It's nice that justice prevails once in a while and that you can rebuild with the proceeds, hopefully. I'm thinking here though that the BEST PART is that your kids who probably nurtured non-stop as all the Mommy Domme's I've met do and that's something money can't buy. I toast you Mom. And that's coming from a single Dad who hasn't gotten a dime of support either, had to give up a guru-level career with big blue (can make dinner or read bed-time stories from an airplane), and had to lose all of my life savings in payouts to lawyers from both sides and fork over more than 100k which kept a bunch of drunks partying for a year or two. Now I consult for crumbs and can'rt really find that groovy job because in the computer biz on the manufacturer's side, they just aren't into men who seek mother's hours. But fuck em all. My kids are top grade earners and about as decent a pair of little human beings as I have ever had the pleasure to meet. I hope your life from here forward is less a daily trial. Cause I know when there aren't two nickels to rub together , it's hard to get from this day to the next sometimes. Good Work Mom! Skipper

SternSkipper -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 6:48:05 AM)
quote: There is no excuse for not helping to support your kids. If you are truly unable to work to get an income, then help the custodial parent in other ways. I get irked over people who won't support their children and/or get angry when they have to help with their kids' expenses. Ya know, it's great that you're irked. There's something if it bothers you that much you can do. I tried to work with a legislator to fix some things in my state. But I learned in confidence from him we're viewed as 'affected by our circumstances and a little too passionate to see the big picture' in the eyes of most law makers (pssst .,,,many of whom owe big support bills and want to do all the damage control they can). Anyway, what you can do is keep your eyes and ears open locally. And when you see this happen to a mom or Dad you know or at least familiar with, start a fucking RIOT politically. Make sure they know all you 'regular people' hate their inaction. The local legislatures have known what to do for AGES and they just won't adopt things like airtight uniform support schedules and swift and unwavering enforcement policies. It's a difference you can make. Really. Peace Skipper

LaTigresse -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 11:17:25 AM)
The unfortunate thing is that many of the non paying parents go off grid and there is no way for the custodial parent to get anything.

CalifChick -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 12:01:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse The unfortunate thing is that many of the non paying parents go off grid and there is no way for the custodial parent to get anything. That's my situation now. My ex owes me in excess of $30,000. There is a bench warrant for his arrest for failure to appear to explain why he isn't paying. He's out of state, and I know where he is, but most states won't extradite for this. I have absolutely no delusions that I will ever see that money. I just hope he plays the lottery or something and wins big. Cali

Phoenixpower -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 12:04:49 PM)
Best wishes to all the ones who are owed money to get it back... now, slightly off topic but I like the memory of it, so I thought to add it in.... My grandpa was a bit on the mean side in daily life (though he injected a fair amount of money to my brother and to me when he turned 70, so it's not as if he wouldn't have cared, he did...) however, he had the regular habbit to hide his money at home and then not to find it anymore...which then in return lead to granny finding money at times...when she stumbled over his hiding places... at times she took some money away from his money and gave it to my brother and me, saying "here you go, thats from your grandpa, but don't tell him"... loved it.... [:)]

LadyPact -> RE: Support Paid.. there is hope! (5/22/2011 12:10:13 PM)
Thanks for sharing this one, Lockit.

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