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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins
but i will not be tied to someone because of a piece of paper. i will be tied to them in my head because i want to be. i do not and have never wanted to be married. i don't care about divorce, i've as good as just been through all that. other people can tell me whatever they like as to why they think marriage is great, but what they have to understand is i don't care. i don't want it no matter what it is for anyone else.

Wow, must be a strong piece of paper if it's able to tie you...

Nobody told you you have to get married, I certainly wasn't proposing to you.

For somebody who doesn't care you make a really big deal out of it. Isn't it simple, if you don't want to get married you simply don't get married, but why going on about it? Look, I hate jogging, I don't like it, but I don't really rant on about how much I hate it, I simply don't go jogging. It really is so simple, nobody is forcing you to get married, calm down, there isn't a line around the block with guys trying to kidnap you and drag you to the altar. It's honestly not a conspiracy to get you married so we can put on uncomfy clothes and attend a wedding...

no big deal at all, i didn't ask to be quoted and have my opinion commented on, which was to only say marriage is my nightmare. i've explained it a bit further, if you don't like it tough. move on and don't feel you have to quote someone to say what you want to.

needles

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Will you provide transport? My space ship is out of commission, Jean-Luc crashed it...

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins
but i will not be tied to someone because of a piece of paper. i will be tied to them in my head because i want to be. i do not and have never wanted to be married. i don't care about divorce, i've as good as just been through all that. other people can tell me whatever they like as to why they think marriage is great, but what they have to understand is i don't care. i don't want it no matter what it is for anyone else.

Wow, must be a strong piece of paper if it's able to tie you...

Nobody told you you have to get married, I certainly wasn't proposing to you.

For somebody who doesn't care you make a really big deal out of it. Isn't it simple, if you don't want to get married you simply don't get married, but why going on about it? Look, I hate jogging, I don't like it, but I don't really rant on about how much I hate it, I simply don't go jogging. It really is so simple, nobody is forcing you to get married, calm down, there isn't a line around the block with guys trying to kidnap you and drag you to the altar. It's honestly not a conspiracy to get you married so we can put on uncomfy clothes and attend a wedding...

no big deal at all, i didn't ask to be quoted and have my opinion commented on, which was to only say marriage is my nightmare. i've explained it a bit further, if you don't like it tough. move on and don't feel you have to quote someone to say what you want to.

needles

Oh my, I didn't get the memo that you're the only one who's allowed to quote or that I have to get your permission to quote you...

As for not liking that you don't want to get married, maybe I didn't make myself clear: I DO NOT CARE, I don't want to marry you, I haven't seen anybody here proposing to you, so stop making a big deal out of it, move on, there is no danger anyway... You can stop throwing tantrums.

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One fantasy I have dreamed about and mulled over is a D/s style marriage ceremony. It would be held in a safe place without any hindrances by the outside world. People from the community would be invited. Presided over by a pastor. The Domme would walk down the aisle followed by the slave on his hands and knees. When they get to the front, vows are exchanged,and a collar is placed around the slaves neck. It would be complete with pictures and maybe a video.The honeymoon night would be a heavy paddling or whipping session to remind him who's the boss and for things to come.

Anyone else have a similar fantasy or perhaps a real life experience?

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OP, you're 48. You have no adult children? No elderly parents? No siblings? No nieces and nephews? Because not inviting anyone whose sexuality you don't know about in detail means there will be a permanent wall between you. When your college aged kid asks why he wasn't invited to the wedding, what would you tell him? And do you really think your wife would enjoy starting out the marriage knowing your family hates her from day one. Because they will blame her for not being invited.

Or are you going to ask your mother to explain her past sexual desires in detail so you can rule if she's sufficiently kinky to come?

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OP, you're 48. You have no adult children? No elderly parents? No siblings? No nieces and nephews? Because not inviting anyone whose sexuality you don't know about in detail means there will be a permanent wall between you. When your college aged kid asks why he wasn't invited to the wedding, what would you tell him? And do you really think your wife would enjoy starting out the marriage knowing your family hates her from day one. Because they will blame her for not being invited.

Or are you going to ask your mother to explain her past sexual desires in detail so you can rule if she's sufficiently kinky to come?

What a vitriolic and unpleasant way to to look at this. Seriously, at 48yrs, it's not exactly a crime to choose to get wed in any-damn-way you want to.With or without Mother present.

From experience, there are two ways of looking at a wedding...One is from the view of the guests/family..... The other is from the *what WE want* angle.

This was from a fantasy angle.... But even so, little would alter..... We'd decide how WE wanted it.......Anyone likely to freak out or show US up would be absent from the guest list.

If you can't behave yourself at someone elses *Union*, despite being personally invited, no matter HOW freaky..... DO excuse yourself!

agirl

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What a vitriolic and unpleasant way to to look at this. Seriously, at 48yrs, it's not exactly a crime to choose to get wed in any-damn-way you want to.With or without Mother present.

From experience, there are two ways of looking at a wedding...One is from the view of the guests/family..... The other is from the *what WE want* angle.

This was from a fantasy angle.... But even so, little would alter..... We'd decide how WE wanted it.......Anyone likely to freak out or show US up would be absent from the guest list.

If you can't behave yourself at someone elses *Union*, despite being personally invited, no matter HOW freaky..... DO excuse yourself!

agirl