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modestmale -> Looking to explore mild humiliation; 26/m here from Chicago. (5/3/2011 10:48:11 AM)
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I've been on fetlife for probably 2 years, yet I've only met with one person thus far. This is partially my fault, as I've only visited the site sporadically within the 2 year period. Nevertheless, I'm back again and I'm hoping to meet a Dominant Woman who would like to help me explore humiliation play, and perhaps other types of fetish play as well, such as spanking and discipline.
I should note that I don't have very much real-life experience with D/s play. While this may deter some, more experienced, dommes from messaging me, I also suspect that others will take a liking to the fact I am somewhat "fresh meat," so to speak. As you'll notice from my profile, I'm mainly into spanking and discipline, but fairly recently, I began to develop a curiosity for humiliation play.
As a caveat, I'm not into hardcore, heavy humiliation, e.g., I DO NOT have any desire to be: spit on, degraded, told I'm worthless, belittled, called obscene names, crawling around like a dog, eating off the floor, eating cum, etc.
Things I consider humiliating that I would like to incorporate into play include the following: CFNM, spanking, discipline, cornertime, scolding/lecturing, speech restrictions (like being required to say "Yes Ma'am" or "No Ma'am"), domestic chores while partially or fully nude, orgasm control, tease and denial, forced masturbation, being shaven, and perhaps a few other things I'm forgetting at the moment.
One thing that really piqued my interest in humiliation play was when the Domme I met with unexpectedly put me into a pair of panties. I have trouble describing in words the amount of shame and humiliation I felt when I was required to slip on a pair of Women's underwear. Never had I felt so emasculated. It pierced right through my male pride and it brought upon me a great sense of vulnerability. It was actually quite a bittersweet experience because I completely resented it at first. When she introduced me to a pair of panties, it took me completely by surprise, as I had never discussed this with her. No offense to anyone, but the idea of men wearing panties was always just plain weird to me. I never understood the attraction. So understandably, I did not find wearing them the least bit enjoyable. Even after the session, it took about 2 months for it to register.
As I pondered the experience more and more, it became a realization for me that being forced into a pair of panties was a guilty pleasure of mine and I hate to admit it, even now. I have some difficulty explaining this interest. Perhaps it is just the wild juxtaposition it creates. As the Domme described to me, there are preconceived, and often misperceived, societal notions about males, that they are supposedly the stronger, dominant sex. Femdom effectively penetrates those societal stereotypes by bringing the male to realize that Women are rightfully to be treated with utmost respect and obedience, for they are superior. She explained that wearing the panties would serve as a symbol of misperceived societal stereotypes, and by wearing them, it would solidify my belief as to who was the boss, if there were ever any doubts. This Domineering Female, asserting her Dominance by forcing me into a pair of light pink, cotton, bikini briefs had such an overwhelmingly humbling effect. I was so utterly embarrassed that I wanted to end the session and run out the door. The second I put them on in front of her, I could feel that her power over me had greatly expanded. It ascended her dominance and my feelings of submission to whole different levels.
With that being said, I have not worn a pair of panties since that time. It is not merely the act of wearing them that excites me. I still think men wearing panties is kind of weird, but I have no right to be judgmental. Rather, it is the thought of a Dominant Woman demanding that I wear them when she knows I resent it and that it embarrasses the hell out of me. It is the look on her face, her sly subtle smile, her pleasure in seeing me stand there in such a vulnerable state of dress. I would like to note that I have no interest in full-blown crossdressing. Underwear would be the limit for me.
Anyways, I'll stop rambling now. If any of this sounds appealing or if you would like to offer any input, I welcome you to send me a message. I also welcome friends who would just like to chat or those who might be too tied up right now to play with others. I will provide a photo upon request, and I have a cam to dispel any doubts about my identity. Thanks for taking the time to read my post. Have a great day.
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