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disheartening is my search (forgive the possible spelli... - 5/2/2011 1:38:43 PM

SN2S

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what do you do when youre real surronded by fakes?...what do you do when you know your intention will and desire can be of awesome use?..what do you do when youre being ostricized for being who you are or even the way you speak?...it seems that the lifestyle is turning into a big financial system where financial gain takes precedence over a true D/s relationship. Contrary to popular belief there are some real individuals that hold the lifestyle as ear to their person as the air w/We breath, yet that isnt good enough...its truly disheartening to see something you love so much go up in smoke from people disrespecting it..i have had the oppurtunity to be play partners or just have random conversations with some of the most intelligent people you would ever have known simply bvecause they looked past superficiality and accepted an olive branch of sanity...i really do hope this isnt a waste of time or even that financial gain is the only gain...in any event to the Mam that takes the time to learn me as i will learn Her for the sake of uplifting Her , i thank You for being You and being a real human being...to those whom have allowed closeminded ignorance to blind them from those of u/Us that are real..i truly hope You in time get over that...

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 1:45:25 PM

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to the admins sorry for putting this in the wrong section

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 1:47:36 PM

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GET THEE TO A MUNCH!!!!!!!!!

There are real here, and real everywhere, you just new and gonna get hit like everyone else who comes along....

Let it go. Find the positives.

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 2:03:11 PM

pahunkboy

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8 million people in Chicagoland-- and you are on this site?

Get out of the house and hang where the women hang.

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 2:13:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SN2S

what do you do when youre real surronded by fakes?...what do you do when you know your intention will and desire can be of awesome use?..what do you do when youre being ostricized for being who you are or even the way you speak?...it seems that the lifestyle is turning into a big financial system where financial gain takes precedence over a true D/s relationship. Contrary to popular belief there are some real individuals that hold the lifestyle as ear to their person as the air w/We breath, yet that isnt good enough...its truly disheartening to see something you love so much go up in smoke from people disrespecting it..i have had the oppurtunity to be play partners or just have random conversations with some of the most intelligent people you would ever have known simply bvecause they looked past superficiality and accepted an olive branch of sanity...i really do hope this isnt a waste of time or even that financial gain is the only gain...in any event to the Mam that takes the time to learn me as i will learn Her for the sake of uplifting Her , i thank You for being You and being a real human being...to those whom have allowed closeminded ignorance to blind them from those of u/Us that are real..i truly hope You in time get over that...

A couple things.....

1- Paragraphs please.

2- Posting a journal entry generally comes across as a grab at attention.

Now, I have a few questions for you;

You've been here for almost a year, is this just a recent issue? Is this the only way you meet people who approach this "lifestyle" the way you do? Have you ever been to a munch? What makes you any more "true" than the people you're complaining about? What type of profiles/people are attracting you? Have you considered that maybe your picker is off?

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 2:45:39 PM

peppermint

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There are not only lots of munches in the Chicago area, there are big events!!! How many have you been to?? Get off the internet and go wow some lady with your fabulous personality.

Until less than 2 years ago we traveled 120 miles to attend munch while we were in MT and 180 miles when we were in AZ. I'll bet you can find a munch within 30 minutes of you. You are so lucky to live where you do and refuse to open your eyes and see that luck.

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 3:06:22 PM

NocturnalStalker

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Date vanilla, corrupt woman's mind, reap profits.

Then in twenty years she'll be making topics on this website while we'll be dead from a sex-related heart attack.

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 7:16:32 PM

SailingBum

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Will someone hurry the fuck up and throw this guy a pity party. I was tired of his whining after the 2nd sentence.

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 7:17:44 PM

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SN2S, what is a true d/s relationship? I am not trying to be sarcastic believe it or not. Give me a moment here. I read your profile, most my children are older than you are and I am not into money... in any manner as long as I have enough to survive. The thing is... my d/s relationships wouldn't be considered real by many, including you from the sound of your profile. I could say your idea of a d/s relationship, based on things you said... wasn't real.

You see, you make many things a fetish that I would consider fetish rather than real life d/s and something worth my time, effort, attention and love. My life or relationships and what we do would not amount to a fetish or a fantasy, although we may include these things. I am simply a woman that is dominant and expects to live a female led relationship. I do not want to be romanticized, idolized or given some status by the color of my skin, my gender or anything else. To me, anything like this wouldn't be real.

So you see, real and reality have different views. If people are making 'this lifestyle' anything other than what is real to you... pass them, don't bitch... don't whine... don't be discouraged by a 'different kind' and find what is true for you.

You say you have a lot to offer basically. You want to be given a chance to prove yourself. Well... think about the limitations you have placed upon yourself and any dominant that might give you a chance. Were I a few decades younger... I still wouldn't be considered the right type of dominant woman for you. Simply because of the color of my skin. Now who is limiting your access to open minded women that would give you a chance?

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 11:10:18 PM

Awareness

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So what you're basically saying is: "Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh".

I know of no circumstances under which "Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh" is attractive to anyone, regardless of sexual or kink orientation.

Let me use an analogy, bearing in mind I don't even understand your mindset to begin with.

Men like sex. Women know men like sex. Some women presume that making sex available to men means they'll be liked. They are wrong.

Dommes like submissives. Submissive dudes know Dommes like submissives. Some submissive dudes presume that making submission available to Dommes means they'll be liked. They are wrong.

Human nature - regardless of kink - prizes that which is rare. There are approximately seven gazillion supposed submissive males throwing themselves at every passing Domme. How rare do you think that makes a compliant male sub?

Now. What kind of male sub would be rare? Meditate upon that.

You're welcome.

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 11:12:03 PM

Awareness

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Oh, and the reason I dropped into this thread to begin with: Why, like Yoda, you speak?

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/2/2011 11:42:42 PM

myotherself

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ooooh...another 'financial Dommes/why are you all fakes and I'm the only weal and twue' thread!

We haven't had one of those for ages!

OP - I read your profile, you said you liked your balls being trodden upon - and yet by that whine you just posted you don't seem to have any.

FFS - grow a pair, get off your arse, go out into the real world and get a clue!

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/5/2011 12:59:52 AM

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Ok ok lol I get it!!!!..no more whining for me...the "real D/s relationship I was speaking of is one that doesnt require financial gain of one party to flourish...that became a focal point of my rant as that's what I've been receiving in response to my messaging Dommes..to Ms Lockit Your point were very informative and dead on..I am learning P/people that patience is definately needed not to mention tough skinm.that's for the direction on the right direction...what's the attire for that pity party lmao..I lkid ..again thanks for positive feedback even if some of it burned abit

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/5/2011 9:13:06 AM

PrunusKanzan

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quote:

My life or relationships and what we do would not amount to a fetish or a fantasy, although we may include these things. I am simply a woman that is dominant and expects to live a female led relationship. I do not want to be romanticized, idolized or given some status by the color of my skin, my gender or anything else. To me, anything like this wouldn't be real.

Couldn't have spoken better myself Lockit. It seems that people have these unrealistic expectations. Do I want a groveling dog? No. To make the assumption that you must behave like one to be liked by me is, in itself, laughable. To quote Awareness, "Dommes like submissives. Submissive dudes know Dommes like submissives. Some submissive dudes presume that making submission available to Dommes means they'll be liked. They are wrong." Everyone has their fantasy. To assume that your fantasy is my fantasy is just disastrous.

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/5/2011 2:08:41 PM

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quote:

Ok ok lol I get it!!!!..no more whining for me...the "real D/s relationship I was speaking of is one that doesnt require financial gain of one party to flourish...that became a focal point of my rant as that's what I've been receiving in response to my messaging Dommes..to Ms Lockit Your point were very informative and dead on..I am learning P/people that patience is definately needed not to mention tough skinm.that's for the direction on the right direction...what's the attire for that pity party lmao..I lkid ..again thanks for positive feedback even if some of it burned abit

You're lucky - FinDommes are obvious!

I just got a guy who claimed to live in my state (the abbreviation is in his screen name too) and said he was looking for just one submissive but after many emails turned out to actually reside in another state with his wife and kids! He didn't volunteer this info; I pried it out of him after he said he was in my state for business 2/3 weeks per month.

Like the others said - get thee to a munch.

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/5/2011 2:46:20 PM

hejira92

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Don't you know there are no real people in BDSM? We're all internet geeks living in our mothers' basements and now that Sony lost all our credit info to thieves we've left playstation and joined cm! Fetishism is the new secondlife! You can be dirtier than on facebook (no bosses watching).

And, hey, if we can get some shmoe to send us money, all the more fun!!!

(hey, want to send me some money? I'm a big, bad Domme. Really, I am. I've been Domming men like you for years! And if you don't send me money it's because you are a fake and don't really want my velcro collar!)

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/5/2011 2:50:36 PM

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I wrote something similar for this really bitchin' punk zine when I was 16 about how bummed I was Bad Religion had totally sold out and now the punk rock ethos was dead dead dead DEAD I tell you!

Homeboy, pay attention: There were no good ol' days and anybody who tells you there were is selling you something. We were never blundering footloose and fancy-free through Elysian fields and Arcadian gardens. Everything is, was, and always will be nothing but fallow fields, ravenous scavengers and con artists running penny ante scams on slow-witted marks. I'm not talking about "the lifestyle" (retching noises) in particular, I'm talking about everything, old boy. You have to suck it up, invent yourself, and get out there and fail and bumble and fall and bleed and cry a whole lot and take it on faith that if you do that enough you'll find some things worth finding.

If you limit yourself to whining plaintively at strangers and gnashing your teeth, the kinder people will just ignore you and the serious dickheads will point and laugh.

Your pal,

Parappa the Dapper

PS

HA HA HA HA HA AH AH AHA HAH AHA AHA AHAHA HA A Ha

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RE: disheartening is my search (forgive the possible sp... - 5/5/2011 4:21:25 PM

mech1nomics

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ParappaTheDapper

I wrote something similar for this really bitchin' punk zine when I was 16 about how bummed I was Bad Religion had totally sold out and now the punk rock ethos was dead dead dead DEAD I tell you!

Homeboy, pay attention: There were no good ol' days and anybody who tells you there were is selling you something. We were never blundering footloose and fancy-free through Elysian fields and Arcadian gardens. Everything is, was, and always will be nothing but fallow fields, ravenous scavengers and con artists running penny ante scams on slow-witted marks. I'm not talking about "the lifestyle" (retching noises) in particular, I'm talking about everything, old boy. You have to suck it up, invent yourself, and get out there and fail and bumble and fall and bleed and cry a whole lot and take it on faith that if you do that enough you'll find some things worth finding.

If you limit yourself to whining plaintively at strangers and gnashing your teeth, the kinder people will just ignore you and the serious dickheads will point and laugh.

Your pal,

Parappa the Dapper

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HA HA HA HA HA AH AH AHA HAH AHA AHA AHAHA HA A Ha

I have never laughed so hard at the truth in all of my life..

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