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Um, OP, I just looked at your profile.  It basically says, "I've got no experience and want kinky sex."  If you decide you want a relationship, and try to show that you're interested in a woman as a person first and a sex object second, you'll have greater luck.

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

actually, some of us women DO like a cock shot. when i was looking for someone that is what i was interested in as i was being especially shallow. so i wanted a face pic and a cock shot. all cocks are different and even one that is the right size for me has to look good. just as there are some ugly women bits, there are some ugly guy danglies out there too. why waste time having to chat to someone first and ask for a cock shot to then have to say sorry but i don't like your cock? as a huge perv in it for the sex i see no reason why a guy shouldn't have a cock shot in his profile. it may well be different for alot of women, but i do get a bit sick of being spoken for. not only that, but it's well known that most single guys on these sites are looking for sex and are hardly going to think that the woman are any different. it takes time to realise that not all women are wanting a casual shag and that alot want relationships.

as for why the women in your area arn't interested.......not everyone is going to be into you. not everyone wants a casual fuck. some of us get to the stage where we just can't be arsed fighting off the players, married/partnered playing away from home guys anymore. some get turned off by being seen as a sex toy (and i say some, coz some, like me, love being used as a sex toy in the bounds of what they have going on). also if you are not making your mail personal, so having not read the profile of said lady and respecting what she wants, you are likely to not be replied to. to the vast majority of us you are/have nothing special compared to anyone else, therefore you have to make yourself stand out from the crowd.

other than that, you have only been here a couple of weeks. it's not the local kinky night club where everyone is drunk and looking to get laid. it's going to actually take some effort and personality.

good luck.

needles

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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

actually, some of us women DO like a cock shot. when i was looking for someone that is what i was interested in as i was being especially shallow. so i wanted a face pic and a cock shot. all cocks are different and even one that is the right size for me has to look good. just as there are some ugly women bits, there are some ugly guy danglies out there too. why waste time having to chat to someone first and ask for a cock shot to then have to say sorry but i don't like your cock? as a huge perv in it for the sex i see no reason why a guy shouldn't have a cock shot in his profile. it may well be different for alot of women, but i do get a bit sick of being spoken for. not only that, but it's well known that most single guys on these sites are looking for sex and are hardly going to think that the woman are any different. it takes time to realise that not all women are wanting a casual shag and that alot want relationships.

as for why the women in your area arn't interested.......not everyone is going to be into you. not everyone wants a casual fuck. some of us get to the stage where we just can't be arsed fighting off the players, married/partnered playing away from home guys anymore. some get turned off by being seen as a sex toy (and i say some, coz some, like me, love being used as a sex toy in the bounds of what they have going on). also if you are not making your mail personal, so having not read the profile of said lady and respecting what she wants, you are likely to not be replied to. to the vast majority of us you are/have nothing special compared to anyone else, therefore you have to make yourself stand out from the crowd.

other than that, you have only been here a couple of weeks. it's not the local kinky night club where everyone is drunk and looking to get laid. it's going to actually take some effort and personality.

good luck.

needles

Some people like me think that a lot of the "hunt" is gone when a woman exposes herself for the world to glance upon.  I enjoy optical teases with sultry clothing but when it is all bared I lose interest in terms of relationship material since it has been spoiled already.  It is like skipping to the final fifteen minutes of an extravagant film.  Rather than appreciating the build-up to the climax, you're left with a hollow feeling of, "Oh...that is how it ends up."

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: WantsOfTheFlesh
Dude its an issue of sexual economics: supply and demand, and supply outstrips demand. [sm=modxiiswatching.gif] What puzzles me is that they can put a man on the Moon but haven't invented the female sexbot, surely the main reason most nerds get into science!

Here ya go

http://www.heaven666.org/fucking-machine-for-guys-49217.php

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

actually, some of us women DO like a cock shot. when i was looking for someone that is what i was interested in as i was being especially shallow. so i wanted a face pic and a cock shot. all cocks are different and even one that is the right size for me has to look good. just as there are some ugly women bits, there are some ugly guy danglies out there too. why waste time having to chat to someone first and ask for a cock shot to then have to say sorry but i don't like your cock? as a huge perv in it for the sex i see no reason why a guy shouldn't have a cock shot in his profile. it may well be different for alot of women, but i do get a bit sick of being spoken for. not only that, but it's well known that most single guys on these sites are looking for sex and are hardly going to think that the woman are any different. it takes time to realise that not all women are wanting a casual shag and that alot want relationships.

as for why the women in your area arn't interested.......not everyone is going to be into you. not everyone wants a casual fuck. some of us get to the stage where we just can't be arsed fighting off the players, married/partnered playing away from home guys anymore. some get turned off by being seen as a sex toy (and i say some, coz some, like me, love being used as a sex toy in the bounds of what they have going on). also if you are not making your mail personal, so having not read the profile of said lady and respecting what she wants, you are likely to not be replied to. to the vast majority of us you are/have nothing special compared to anyone else, therefore you have to make yourself stand out from the crowd.

other than that, you have only been here a couple of weeks. it's not the local kinky night club where everyone is drunk and looking to get laid. it's going to actually take some effort and personality.

good luck.

needles

Some people like me think that a lot of the "hunt" is gone when a woman exposes herself for the world to glance upon.  I enjoy optical teases with sultry clothing but when it is all bared I lose interest in terms of relationship material since it has been spoiled already.  It is like skipping to the final fifteen minutes of an extravagant film.  Rather than appreciating the build-up to the climax, you're left with a hollow feeling of, "Oh...that is how it ends up."

i get that totally (and i wasn't actually replying to you, just in case. i forgot the fr) but the point is is that not everyone is looking for a relationship and not everyone minds the full on shots. i have no problem at all in seeing a cock shot and don't like it when others say that women don't like it. some women don't like it, some don't mind, and some do like to see what they are letting themself in for first.

with all the best intention in the world, were i to be looking and found a guy that i really liked i'd be rather embarrassed to have to ask for a cock shot. i want to know how big a guy is beforehand because having gone to all that trouble of getting to know someone to be disappointed that he's too big for me wouldn't be great.

i've never been one to have pics of myself in my profile as i don't want unsolicited mail. although i get it anyway at least it's kept down to a minimum. i see cock shots the same way as i see ladies showing their breasts. a ladies bits seem more intimate somehow and i don't like to see then plastered over a profile. but there will be others who disagree with that too.

each to our own.

needles

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Some people like me think that a lot of the "hunt" is gone when a woman exposes herself for the world to glance upon. I enjoy optical teases with sultry clothing but when it is all bared I lose interest in terms of relationship material since it has been spoiled already. It is like skipping to the final fifteen minutes of an extravagant film. Rather than appreciating the build-up to the climax, you're left with a hollow feeling of, "Oh...that is how it ends up."

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

tj, anyone who says that women don't like to see cock shots in profiles. i've seen it written alot of times over various sites and it's a wrong statement. the truth is 'some' women don't like cock shots, but those some sometimes seem to think they have the right to imply that a guy is commiting a faux pas by having them in there. unless the pic is against site rules i don't see what business it is of anyone's what someone chooses to put in their own profile. after all, it's not like anyone was forced to look at said profile. my point is that what someone doesn't want to see, another person may. so guy gets told that women generally don't like to see a cock shot, guy takes out the cock shot, but then those of us who do want to see it are then forced to ask.

so some have a preference not to see, cool, don't look and move on by. yes you have a right to your preference and i guess that if you really must you have the right to voice it as a very personal statement. just that though....i personaly don't like to see(as you yourself did)....not...women don't like to see. but do you really need to tell someone that you personally think they are doing something wrong by having a cock shot in a profile on a site that is for alot of people about sex? (you being used generically here, not aimed)

not only that, but the op wasn't actually asking for advice on his profile and it's not like he has just has the one pic and it's a cock shot. although i'm not looking for anything i do still get that for an awful lot of people these sites are used for casual sex. therefore i am fully awear that should i check out a profile i'm going to see a cock shot in a profile of someone looking for just that. it's no shock that they are there and certainly not a put off. if i were though, i wouldn't pass comment unless specifically asked to.

needles

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

tj, anyone who says that women don't like to see cock shots in profiles. i've seen it written alot of times over various sites and it's a wrong statement. the truth is 'some' women don't like cock shots, but those some sometimes seem to think they have the right to imply that a guy is commiting a faux pas by having them in there. unless the pic is against site rules i don't see what business it is of anyone's what someone chooses to put in their own profile. after all, it's not like anyone was forced to look at said profile. my point is that what someone doesn't want to see, another person may. so guy gets told that women generally don't like to see a cock shot, guy takes out the cock shot, but then those of us who do want to see it are then forced to ask.

so some have a preference not to see, cool, don't look and move on by. yes you have a right to your preference and i guess that if you really must you have the right to voice it as a very personal statement. just that though....i personaly don't like to see(as you yourself did)....not...women don't like to see. but do you really need to tell someone that you personally think they are doing something wrong by having a cock shot in a profile on a site that is for alot of people about sex? (you being used generically here, not aimed)

not only that, but the op wasn't actually asking for advice on his profile and it's not like he has just has the one pic and it's a cock shot. although i'm not looking for anything i do still get that for an awful lot of people these sites are used for casual sex. therefore i am fully awear that should i check out a profile i'm going to see a cock shot in a profile of someone looking for just that. it's no shock that they are there and certainly not a put off. if i were though, i wouldn't pass comment unless specifically asked to.

needles

The guy had 3 cock pics! not 1, not 2, but 3. Thats a bit much. If a guy has a cock pic in his profile, even if he says he is looking for a relationship, i will ignore him as to me a cock pic means the guy is lying and all he really just wants is casual sex.

The guy wanted to know why women were disinterested in dudes, meaning disinterested in him. He wants to know why. If thats not asking for advice then why do you think he bothered posting his question??? Its up to him what he eventually does with the advice. In future I wont bother.

Wow, if a person cant even ask for a pic, guess it must be really something difficult to actually talk about what kind of sex you want.

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

tj, anyone who says that women don't like to see cock shots in profiles. i've seen it written alot of times over various sites and it's a wrong statement. the truth is 'some' women don't like cock shots, but those some sometimes seem to think they have the right to imply that a guy is commiting a faux pas by having them in there. unless the pic is against site rules i don't see what business it is of anyone's what someone chooses to put in their own profile. after all, it's not like anyone was forced to look at said profile. my point is that what someone doesn't want to see, another person may. so guy gets told that women generally don't like to see a cock shot, guy takes out the cock shot, but then those of us who do want to see it are then forced to ask.

so some have a preference not to see, cool, don't look and move on by. yes you have a right to your preference and i guess that if you really must you have the right to voice it as a very personal statement. just that though....i personaly don't like to see(as you yourself did)....not...women don't like to see. but do you really need to tell someone that you personally think they are doing something wrong by having a cock shot in a profile on a site that is for alot of people about sex? (you being used generically here, not aimed)

not only that, but the op wasn't actually asking for advice on his profile and it's not like he has just has the one pic and it's a cock shot. although i'm not looking for anything i do still get that for an awful lot of people these sites are used for casual sex. therefore i am fully awear that should i check out a profile i'm going to see a cock shot in a profile of someone looking for just that. it's no shock that they are there and certainly not a put off. if i were though, i wouldn't pass comment unless specifically asked to.

needles

The guy had 3 cock pics! not 1, not 2, but 3. Thats a bit much. If a guy has a cock pic in his profile, even if he says he is looking for a relationship, i will ignore him as to me a cock pic means the guy is lying and all he really just wants is casual sex.

The guy wanted to know why women were disinterested in dudes, meaning disinterested in him. He wants to know why. If thats not asking for advice then why do you think he bothered posting his question??? Its up to him what he eventually does with the advice. In future I wont bother.

Wow, if a person cant even ask for a pic, guess it must be really something difficult to actually talk about what kind of sex you want.

the point is is that it is no business of yours how many cock shots he chooses to post. YOU can not speak for all the women who have turned him down and say it is due to cock shots. that is your opinion and not that of everyone else. if i were to be looking for someone i certainly wouldn't be bothered how many shots he had. there are people on this site and others who have alot more than three, and why not? some of us prefer that than having to ask and then turn someone down because it doesn't fit what we want.

each to our own and all that, but it is only your opinion about his shots. i didn't have a problem when i looked at his profile and thought he had quite a good mix actually. whether i want a relationship or not it is my preference to see upfront what a guy has got without having to ask, unless of course i were to be looking for a vanilla relationship, which i'm not. not that i can't ask, but some people just don't have the bare faced cheek no matter what they are looking for. again, just because you don't mind asking doesn't mean everyone else is going to be the same.

if anything it's far more likely that it's his written approach that is the problem and i guess his age is also against him.

you have your opinion, but it is only yours and not that of any woman who has turned him down unless that is what They have told him.

needles

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan
Oh gods...that was so not a mental image I needed to have.  Where's the brain bleach?!?!
 
[sm=banghead.gif]  

It's difficult to apologise and giggle at the same time [:D]

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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

If you've spoken to some of those women you'll think you really dodged a bullet, trust me.

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ORIGINAL: myotherself
I'll echo what the others have so eloquently said - females can get a lot of mail.

Much of it will be from guys looking for sex without the desire to make a D/s relationship. You can identify these guys by their profiles (which are all about the kind of sex they want with the kind of slut they're looking for) and the rather tedious cock shot.

Even if a woman IS just looking for sex, she has a LOT of guys to choose from.

Being able to take a pic of your cock is unlikely to make you stand out from the crowd.

Why not try one of the other sites if you're only after sex? You have craigslist, AFF, Alt.com ... might have better luck there.

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ORIGINAL: soul2share
giggle hell, I snorted pepsi again.......

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

tj, anyone who says that women don't like to see cock shots in profiles. i've seen it written alot of times over various sites and it's a wrong statement. the truth is 'some' women don't like cock shots, but those some sometimes seem to think they have the right to imply that a guy is commiting a faux pas by having them in there. unless the pic is against site rules i don't see what business it is of anyone's what someone chooses to put in their own profile. after all, it's not like anyone was forced to look at said profile. my point is that what someone doesn't want to see, another person may. so guy gets told that women generally don't like to see a cock shot, guy takes out the cock shot, but then those of us who do want to see it are then forced to ask.

so some have a preference not to see, cool, don't look and move on by. yes you have a right to your preference and i guess that if you really must you have the right to voice it as a very personal statement. just that though....i personaly don't like to see(as you yourself did)....not...women don't like to see. but do you really need to tell someone that you personally think they are doing something wrong by having a cock shot in a profile on a site that is for alot of people about sex? (you being used generically here, not aimed)

not only that, but the op wasn't actually asking for advice on his profile and it's not like he has just has the one pic and it's a cock shot. although i'm not looking for anything i do still get that for an awful lot of people these sites are used for casual sex. therefore i am fully awear that should i check out a profile i'm going to see a cock shot in a profile of someone looking for just that. it's no shock that they are there and certainly not a put off. if i were though, i wouldn't pass comment unless specifically asked to.

needles

The guy had 3 cock pics! not 1, not 2, but 3. Thats a bit much. If a guy has a cock pic in his profile, even if he says he is looking for a relationship, i will ignore him as to me a cock pic means the guy is lying and all he really just wants is casual sex.

The guy wanted to know why women were disinterested in dudes, meaning disinterested in him. He wants to know why. If thats not asking for advice then why do you think he bothered posting his question??? Its up to him what he eventually does with the advice. In future I wont bother.

Wow, if a person cant even ask for a pic, guess it must be really something difficult to actually talk about what kind of sex you want.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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Um, OP, I just looked at your profile.  It basically says, "I've got no experience and want kinky sex."  If you decide you want a relationship, and try to show that you're interested in a woman as a person first and a sex object second, you'll have greater luck.

But if he isn't interested in women as anything but sex objects, it would be dishonest to state otherwise, although there are ways to present this and still remain classy about it.

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

tj, anyone who says that women don't like to see cock shots in profiles. i've seen it written alot of times over various sites and it's a wrong statement. the truth is 'some' women don't like cock shots, but those some sometimes seem to think they have the right to imply that a guy is commiting a faux pas by having them in there. unless the pic is against site rules i don't see what business it is of anyone's what someone chooses to put in their own profile. after all, it's not like anyone was forced to look at said profile. my point is that what someone doesn't want to see, another person may. so guy gets told that women generally don't like to see a cock shot, guy takes out the cock shot, but then those of us who do want to see it are then forced to ask.

so some have a preference not to see, cool, don't look and move on by. yes you have a right to your preference and i guess that if you really must you have the right to voice it as a very personal statement. just that though....i personaly don't like to see(as you yourself did)....not...women don't like to see. but do you really need to tell someone that you personally think they are doing something wrong by having a cock shot in a profile on a site that is for alot of people about sex? (you being used generically here, not aimed)

not only that, but the op wasn't actually asking for advice on his profile and it's not like he has just has the one pic and it's a cock shot. although i'm not looking for anything i do still get that for an awful lot of people these sites are used for casual sex. therefore i am fully awear that should i check out a profile i'm going to see a cock shot in a profile of someone looking for just that. it's no shock that they are there and certainly not a put off. if i were though, i wouldn't pass comment unless specifically asked to.

needles

The guy had 3 cock pics! not 1, not 2, but 3. Thats a bit much. If a guy has a cock pic in his profile, even if he says he is looking for a relationship, i will ignore him as to me a cock pic means the guy is lying and all he really just wants is casual sex.

The guy wanted to know why women were disinterested in dudes, meaning disinterested in him. He wants to know why. If thats not asking for advice then why do you think he bothered posting his question??? Its up to him what he eventually does with the advice. In future I wont bother.

Wow, if a person cant even ask for a pic, guess it must be really something difficult to actually talk about what kind of sex you want.

the point is is that it is no business of yours how many cock shots he chooses to post. YOU can not speak for all the women who have turned him down and say it is due to cock shots. that is your opinion and not that of everyone else. if i were to be looking for someone i certainly wouldn't be bothered how many shots he had. there are people on this site and others who have alot more than three, and why not? some of us prefer that than having to ask and then turn someone down because it doesn't fit what we want.

each to our own and all that, but it is only your opinion about his shots. i didn't have a problem when i looked at his profile and thought he had quite a good mix actually. whether i want a relationship or not it is my preference to see upfront what a guy has got without having to ask, unless of course i were to be looking for a vanilla relationship, which i'm not. not that i can't ask, but some people just don't have the bare faced cheek no matter what they are looking for. again, just because you don't mind asking doesn't mean everyone else is going to be the same.

if anything it's far more likely that it's his written approach that is the problem and i guess his age is also against him.

you have your opinion, but it is only yours and not that of any woman who has turned him down unless that is what They have told him.

needles