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aromanholiday -> RE: Here's another part-time "LDR" thread... (5/3/2011 7:24:29 PM)
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ORIGINAL: electricred
I wasn't able to PM or access your profile, so I'll respond here.
1 - The distance hasn't been a problem, other than the fact that we aren't able to see each other when we want. There hasn't been any signs of specific problems coming at all, but not being able to see each other often is an annoyance. We are both slightly stressed with the distance, which is why it might become a problem. It costs a lot of money and adjusting schedules to see each other.
2 - I could definitely see us living together within 1-2 years, but it's not something that's been discussed yet. It may be something we talk about this fall, though.
3 - I would be interested in more information on how to handle the diet/workout regime for someone who has had a history of eating disorders. This sub had previously been anorexic, and while that isn't a problem now, it's a major reason I feel the need to regulate her health. I'm fairly educated on nutrition through playing sports my entire life, so it wouldn't be difficult or seem like a job for me to help her. I want her to feel safe and enjoy doing as she's told, and benefit from it.
I am surprised you couldn't access my profile. It is not hidden. I did not check any of the "looking for" boxes, however, as I wanted to cut down on random emails from strangers. It seems to have worked: I haven't received a single email or a page view, for that matter (not that there is anything to view) since I created it almost a month ago. I just assumed I was really good at not attracting attention, but maybe what I did is the equivalent of hiding a profile? I'd be curious to know if anybody else can see it.
Anyway, thank you for answering my questions. The distance issues make sense. I'm glad to hear it's not causing really bad stress or sorrow at this time, just annoyances (and the money drain). You say though that the couple nights a week are not enough, and that it's progressing rapidly in a M/s direction. You may both find 1-2 years a long time to wait out, although being only two hours apart sounds so good. Some people (and I've been one) have had to deal with a lot more distance. If you can do so, you might want to start thinking of and planning for a quicker live-in situation, assuming this is at all possible. A plan b, if you will. If you decide you want her to fully be your slave, two years sounds like quite a long time to wait. Psychological control can certainly last this long, but it's tricky. As you've probably noticed, its a lot easier to control somebody when they are right there within hands reach. And it's a lot easier to strengthen the master-slave relationship in that situation. I'm not saying it can't be done with the distance, especially with the relatively short distance you guys suffer, but it's harder that way and there are more chances things could go wrong if you don't have her fully under your wing and eye. Plus, the waiting gets to be a drag and negative things can start to happen that neither of you expect.
I have not had experience with anorexia or anorexic persons, so I will not try to advice you specifically, but I do know you need to be very careful with a disorder like this not to stir up its bad behavior patterns as they are addictive and obsessive. Perhaps somebody else with experience can offer some tips about how to control something like this with dominance. It sounds like you have great grounding in the practical knowledge needed (nutrition, exercise, etc.), but I'd suggest studying the psychological aspects of the disorder carefully (if you haven't already) and then invent a way to use your dominance/mastery of her to make this work and stick for her. Use her desire to please you, to not disappoint you, etc. to keep her eating sanely and healthily. When she eats that extra serving of meat/protein at dinner, even though she doesn't want it, she'll be doing it for you, doing your will. That sort of thing. :) I think it's great she's not anorexic now, it's a very good sign that she's been able to get a handle on it. Anorexia is a very insidious disorder.
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