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ORIGINAL: sharkyone

I see words used like Vanilla, Munch, and a few others. Is there a link that describes some of these words?

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Here are the terms;

Bottom, top, sadist, masochist, Dom/Domme, Master/Mistress, switch, submissive, slave, (Yes I define a submissive and a slave and a Dom/Domme and a Master/Mistress as separate entities)

(Now give me a moment to don my flame retardant suit and bullet proof vest.)

Here are my definitions of these words.

Top; one who controls the scene for play only.

Bottom; one who submits during the scene only

Sadist; one who enjoys inflicting pain

Masochist; one who enjoys receiving pain

Dom/Domme; the one who dominates, the one who is in control of, is responsible for, gives orders and direction to the sub/slave. This is something they are, a personality type, not just something they do only in the bedroom. A Dom/Domme is what they are whether or not they currently own a sub or slave.

Master/Mistress, is one who is dom/domme and currently owns a submissive or a slave. It is a title bestowed on them by virtue of such ownership. It also goes much deeper than the Dom/Domme relationship on the spiritual, emotional and physical levels in regards to the depths of the power exchange and the responsibilities involved.

Switch; one who can either top or bottom during play or a scene.

Submissive; one who yields power or control to the dominant on a limited basis both during day to day life and during scening or playing. Or one whose nature is submissive, one may be a submissive whether or not they currently are submitting to a dominant, it is what they naturally are.

Slave; one who yields control of all aspects of their existence to the dominant within the limits agreed upon prior to being collared (these are generally agreed upon moral limits, not to be confused with" I get it my way or I leave or Sam type behaviors). One who is considered to be owned by another as their sole property. One whose submission to their owner/s is total, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week in and out of any scenes or play..

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ORIGINAL: MaxsBoy
I would add that a switch can also be someone who switches between Dom and sub, not just top and bottom.  That isn't always the case of course, but it is for some.

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ORIGINAL: SirRussellP

The term switch bothers me and all ways did.  Reading here I had one of those great insights.  I object to saying that they "switch" between Dom and sub.  I see these terms as being specific to set of responsibilities accepted by the person and find the idea that someone can fill those both to be unthinkable.

The insight is that they "switch" between Top and bottom, little responsibility beyond the play scene.

Thanks all I now feel better.

Russell

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ORIGINAL: SirRussellP

The term switch bothers me and all ways did.  Reading here I had one of those great insights.  I object to saying that they "switch" between Dom and sub.  I see these terms as being specific to set of responsibilities accepted by the person and find the idea that someone can fill those both to be unthinkable.

The insight is that they "switch" between Top and bottom, little responsibility beyond the play scene.

Thanks all I now feel better.

Russell

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ORIGINAL: SirRussellP

The term switch bothers me and all ways did.  Reading here I had one of those great insights.  I object to saying that they "switch" between Dom and sub.  I see these terms as being specific to set of responsibilities accepted by the person and find the idea that someone can fill those both to be unthinkable.

The insight is that they "switch" between Top and bottom, little responsibility beyond the play scene.

Thanks all I now feel better.

Russell

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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

Voyeur - Small penis IRL.

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

Man... I miss both Mad and Rover.