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TheBanshee -> RE: I need some help. (3/2/2011 9:06:45 PM)
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I'm very sorry for your loss. I also agree with the poster earlier about "professional" help. My personal belief is that grieving is a natural process and short circuiting the process with medication - be they anti-depressants or alcohol - doesn't allow your emotions the attention they need. I do think it would be good for you to vent and embrace other people's support. .
You could try going to your place of worship - or a place of worship even if you don't follow the faith. You don't have to have been a devout (insert your faith here) - but someone there should be able to help you find a support group, usually these are free and you can share your feelings with people going through similar situations. You'll realize you aren't all alone - and you may find you're helping them at the same time.
Now that I mentioned helping other people - doing something positive may also help you and at the same time help others. Volunteer somewhere - find something that fills your heart and this will help you feel better about yourself too. Read to seniors, help out at a hospital, dish food in a soup kitchen. These things you may find more rewarding than jobs you get paid for too. (Yes, I know, you need a job to get paid for as well, but this may also lead to some networking at the same time - and there is nothing wrong with that).
Lastly - get up every day. Doing things that are "normal" help you feel normal. Wake up in the morning - shower, get dressed. Lying in bed all day and wallowing won't help anything.
Honor your father's memory by making yourself a whole person again. He'd want that for you wouldn't he?
I wish you well and know you will find happiness again.
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