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RE: Real slavery, less kink, more real service. - 2/26/2011 4:17:41 PM

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in the dynamic i am engaged in with my Mistress the kink is not as importaint as the M/s is i do housework and veicle maintince i enjoy being usefull and sitting at My Mistress feet. now O/our dynamic is diffrent from all else as will be yours. if yours is lagging and needs refreshed then have a discussion with your sig other and find out what it is and how to get it

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RE: Real slavery, less kink, more real service. - 2/26/2011 6:08:54 PM

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I agree with ImaginativeWhims. She loves the kink and they aren't doing kink. Her desires are not being met. She needs to have an open discussion with her Master and fix the relationship. The longer this goes on the more irrepairable the relationship will become.

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RE: Real slavery, less kink, more real service. - 2/27/2011 10:11:35 AM

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I'm really starting to wonder why that is... I might think it over and start a thread, unless you fancy discussing it here. But I am finding that couples, particularly non poly and monogamous ones, feel like this. Have you ever wondered why you feel out of place?

Wondered? No. It's as obvious as the sun rise. This is a KINK site. It's not surprising to me that a not-particularly-kinky person would feel a bit out of step. On the other hand, there are enough similarities and overlaps that it's worthwhile for me to participate here so I do.

Hi Jeff

I can understand that. I don't find it restricted to non kink couples though and I do wonder why couples do sometimes, feel a little left out.

Thanks for responding.

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RE: Real slavery, less kink, more real service. - 2/27/2011 10:17:32 AM

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i had to change my stance and agree with ImaginativeWhims. for some people, the kink is a bigger deal than it is for others, and there's nothing wrong with that. it's just really important that you communicate your needs and hopefully you and your partner can work towards a resolution.

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RE: Real slavery, less kink, more real service. - 2/27/2011 12:06:20 PM

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Perhaps, it would help to define what you mean by service.

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RE: Real slavery, less kink, more real service. - 3/1/2011 8:03:05 PM

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As for myself, I'm of the belief that SOME kink is natural, but slavery...true slavery, is much more about a lifestyle of servitude. I'm kinky to a point, but true slavery, and Mastering over a slave, involves so much more than that. if your Master allows free speech, discuss it with Him. kink can always be used as a reward for a job well done. JMO.

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RE: Real slavery, less kink, more real service. - 3/2/2011 4:01:40 AM

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I disagree that it could be used as a reward. We know if our partner enjoys something or doesn't. And it is very difficult for someone who is submissive to enjoy something when they know their partner is being put to work to do something that doesn't give him any good feelings.

Just as you want someone who truly feels submissive towards you instead of just being resigned to it, we need someone who truly enjoys topping us.

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